How often do you hear from your DP when they are away ??

[Happycherry39]

Just looking for a bit of a sense check really. When your DH/P goes away (with friends/work etc), how often would you normally expect to hear from them?

I don’t mean constant messaging, but just general contact – a good morning, goodnight, a quick check-in during the day?

Trying to work out what’s “normal” vs what’s just me having expectations that might be off.

Would be really helpful to hear what it’s like for others.

Once a day, in the evenings. Mornings are too busy to chat.

I agree once a day in the evening would be normal. I do the same if I’m away too.

Yep usually once a day here too - sometimes maybe a photo or 2 during the day, some days maybe no contact if they’re having a busy one

I agree with meadowfinch. And depending on the activity it may be anything from a 'got to hotel ok, shattered. Goodnight' to an actual conversation.

I’m away a lot - travel with work and holidays with friends. I will let my husband know I’ve arrived safely then might phone once in a week and text a few times (every other day). Definitely not every day

Once a day on the night

First thing and last thing.
Brief text usually. Sometimes a quick chat before bed.

Depends entirely on how busy the one who is away and the one who is at home are, or if anything is up with DS that we need to talk about. If I’m working away in an archive, probably one text at night.

Call or message in the morning, I'll probably call in my lunch break and he'll call in the evening. Plus send photos. If time zones are very different it might be slightly different

No set routine for us. Depends whether there is something to message or talk about.

If I messaged him, I would expect a reasonably speedy reply and vice versa though

My husband travels internationally so contact is often limited depending on where he is and time difference. He does try to be in touch every day even if it is just a WhatsApp message but this is not always possible.

A call at some point in the evening. No need for anything else apart from a text if there's going to be a delay in arriving home.

DH works away for 1-2 weeks stints every couple of months. He sends me a good morning message, will text me if something notable happens during his working day then we do a video call or two each evening, an earlier one with the children then often a quick call for just us before bed.

I’m the one that travels. I’ll text once or twice a day, and FaceTime most (but not every) evening. Sometimes we’ll also have a long text chat through the day about something if relevant - even if it’s just something daft that’s making us both smile.

Couple of times a day if uk based. Quick good morning text and good night text. If away abroad with work. Once a week to 10 days is usually good for us.

He's only ever away for 2/3 days typically. I get the just landed/at the hotel updates. Maybe one or two quick texts in the day, depending on how busy he is. A quick 2min video call in the evening before he goes out for dinner, and a goodnight so I know he's back safe in the hotel.

We do regular texts and a phone call. But we speak regularly day to day so that’s normal for us.

Text to say landed, another to say on the plane and another to say landed with an ETA. Both of us do this when away.
if anything important cropped up then we’d drop another message but generally we are away for social reasons and to switch off, not work, and the person at home accepts that and picks up the slack.
Its a couple of times a year each of us go away, was once a year for each of us when the dc were little, sacred time.
If it was for work and more frequent perhaps our level of contact might be different.

Sometimes I wouldn’t hear from him for days depending on where he was posted. Mostly it was morning and night though. If he’s on holiday with friends a couple of times a day, if he’s out when he’s leaving to come home.

It's usually me who is away and I ring or text dh once a day. Last week was twice a day as I was having some issues I wanted to discuss with him.

No idea really when either of us needs the other for something not really thought about it

Rarely if away for work and not at all usually if he's away with friends - I'd assume he's busy working or having a good time! I'm busy too so we can often go a couple of days without contact. I might message on the day he's coming home to get an approximate time for dinner or something but apart from that, I'd only message for a reason, not just for a chat.

Once a day.

Same as when I am away

A phone call in the evening. No messaging unless there was something specific that needed to be asked or passed on.

No phone calls, unless someone has literally died.
Probably an occasional What's App, but not necessarily every day.
(And same when I go away).
We're mature adults and independent people, so it's not necessary to be in touch too often. And I loathe this concept of "checking in" - both of us are competent people, so neither of us needs to be "checked up on".
Part of the fun is being able to have time alone, and then a proper catch up once home.