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Having ‘a cuppa’

524 replies

ConstantlyFuriosa · 19/04/2026 10:49

Why does this sentence infuriate me so? I already know I’m probably being unreasonable but it’s so grating. I can’t be the only one?

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AccordingToWhom · 19/04/2026 21:14

MadamRaz · 19/04/2026 19:52

A friend of mine calls it a mugga. "Popping in for a mugga?"

Oh Christ....

ConstantlyFuriosa · 19/04/2026 21:17

Also, all that tea makes your mouth taste weird.

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ForCosyLion · 19/04/2026 21:17

Ooooh, the one that really gives me the red mist is all the baby books and articles that miss out the word the before baby. It's SO infantilising and twee. Just because a woman is having a baby doesn't mean we need to talk baby-talk to her.

"Put baby on the changing mat" and "When baby wakes up from a nap.." etc. It literally sounds like a book for toddlers.

I've seen it so much, and every fibre in my being wants to scream It's THE baby!!!! Nothing, but nothing language-wise has EVER irritated the crap out of me as much as this one. Not even close. I see it once and my blood starts boiling like Vesuvius before eruption. It just sounds so, so thick.

ForCosyLion · 19/04/2026 21:18

AccordingToWhom · 19/04/2026 21:14

Oh Christ....

Haha, that's actually quite funny!

piscofrisco · 19/04/2026 21:19

It’s my least favourite word if you can even call it a word. I can’t even look at it

ConstantlyFuriosa · 19/04/2026 21:19

ForCosyLion · 19/04/2026 21:17

Ooooh, the one that really gives me the red mist is all the baby books and articles that miss out the word the before baby. It's SO infantilising and twee. Just because a woman is having a baby doesn't mean we need to talk baby-talk to her.

"Put baby on the changing mat" and "When baby wakes up from a nap.." etc. It literally sounds like a book for toddlers.

I've seen it so much, and every fibre in my being wants to scream It's THE baby!!!! Nothing, but nothing language-wise has EVER irritated the crap out of me as much as this one. Not even close. I see it once and my blood starts boiling like Vesuvius before eruption. It just sounds so, so thick.

OMG, this! I bloody hate it when people say ‘baby’ without claiming it as their own or someone else’s. This is more annoying than at least a thousand cuppas.

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ForCosyLion · 19/04/2026 21:21

ChocolateCinderToffee · 19/04/2026 13:43

It's slang and sort of precious. I also hate people who say they're having 'a wine', as though all wine were the same.

Top of the list though, is 'having a ciggie'. This grinds my gears because as a student I lived in a shared house and two of the other people were the only smokers and they chain-smoked every evening in the shared living room until the air was literally blue and it always started with one of them (who had a lisp) saying 'Thall we have a thiggie?'

I can hear her now, and she was unbelievably awful.

🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 "Thall we have a thiggie?"

ForCosyLion · 19/04/2026 21:23

ainsleysanob · 19/04/2026 14:42

Because it feels gross in my mouth when I say it and I hate the sound of the word when someone else says it!

🤢🤣

I just say ‘we’re going out tonight for something to eat’!

🤣🤣🤣

ForCosyLion · 19/04/2026 21:24

ConstantlyFuriosa · 19/04/2026 21:19

OMG, this! I bloody hate it when people say ‘baby’ without claiming it as their own or someone else’s. This is more annoying than at least a thousand cuppas.

Yes! Thank God - someone else on the same page! It's the only linguistic tic that actually makes me want to commit murder!!!

ForCosyLion · 19/04/2026 21:25

piscofrisco · 19/04/2026 21:19

It’s my least favourite word if you can even call it a word. I can’t even look at it

"I can't even look at it." 🤣🤣🤣

I get that same feeling when I read someone who's written "loose" when they mean "lose." Gives me the rage, although it hasn't risen to murderous proportions - yet.

ConstantlyFuriosa · 19/04/2026 21:26

ForCosyLion · 19/04/2026 21:24

Yes! Thank God - someone else on the same page! It's the only linguistic tic that actually makes me want to commit murder!!!

I’ve always hated it. I think you’re the first person I’ve come across who shares my pain.

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ForCosyLion · 19/04/2026 21:29

BringBackCatsEyes · 19/04/2026 18:32

Not everywhere it's not. In many places tea is a meal.

Yes, but those people are wrong, though. And they don't know it. You just have to take pity on them. 🤭

ForCosyLion · 19/04/2026 21:33

Piggywaspushed · 19/04/2026 15:00

Tea (as in food) in the evening here too. I am enjoying the usual southern English patrolling of threads to declare their version correct.

I very much enjoyed the TV show 'Back In Time for Tea' which hung on an understanding that this meant around 5pm.

You wouldn't invite someone round for an evening meal and then give them sandwiches, would you? Dinner is a full hot meal. Tea is a cold lighter meal consisting of sandwiches, cake, and a pot of tea. Why northerners insist on totally confusing the two is beyond me. (I can say that bc I'm half-Geordie!)

ForCosyLion · 19/04/2026 21:34

ConstantlyFuriosa · 19/04/2026 21:26

I’ve always hated it. I think you’re the first person I’ve come across who shares my pain.

Separated at birth! 🤣 👶👶

HaveACuppaBrew · 19/04/2026 21:38

ConstantlyFuriosa · 19/04/2026 21:11

Now you’re just taking the piss

Absolutely not my dallyn. Maybe you need a cheeky vino and some snacky snacks.

atamlin · 19/04/2026 21:41

THANK YOU. I’m from up north originally and I hate that word with a passion.

PuzzlesintheMorning · 19/04/2026 21:51

SALaw · 19/04/2026 20:44

No clearly I wouldn’t say that because I would say “chippy tea” which is a better description than “takeaway fish and chips” for those not ordering fish and chips from said takeaway establishment.

Aren't you worried they will think they can only have chips?

cardibach · 19/04/2026 22:13

PuzzlesintheMorning · 19/04/2026 21:51

Aren't you worried they will think they can only have chips?

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No, because a chippy is a chip shop. And chip shops sell a whole range of things.

usedtobeaylis · 19/04/2026 22:21

IWaffleAlot · 19/04/2026 18:48

Yanbu it sounds very uneducated for some reason. Probably the same type who uses picky bits.

Oh my god I hate that

usedtobeaylis · 19/04/2026 22:23

BananaPeels · 19/04/2026 20:01

How can you not be either northern or southern? I’m northern born btw so happily in the tea time based camp! Southern DH has never heard the phrase!

I'm Scottish so.... We don't really use those terms within Scotland or about Scotland

Planner2026 · 19/04/2026 22:35

Hard agree. It’s ’a cup of tea’.

SALaw · 19/04/2026 22:37

PuzzlesintheMorning · 19/04/2026 21:51

Aren't you worried they will think they can only have chips?

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No because the establishment is the chippy?

PuppyKeep · 19/04/2026 22:38

Cuppa and nibbles 😷

PhaedraTwo · 19/04/2026 22:44

usedtobeaylis · 19/04/2026 22:23

I'm Scottish so.... We don't really use those terms within Scotland or about Scotland

I sometimes say Northern Britain because, technically it is and, it annoys the hell out of my husband's Nat fanatical family.

ThatRareLimeFinch · 19/04/2026 22:46

"Brew?" is a full sentance in our house 😅