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AIBU to consider legal action after dismissal for long-term sickness?

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KittyCoo · 17/04/2026 19:18

I’ve been dismissed from my job today due to long term sickness since August last year. I have crohns, ASD, and very severe OCD. I have intrusive thoughts and last summer I declared these to my boss who completely misunderstood me and was worried I’d act on these thoughts shock I told her they caused me immense distress.

Last month, I was confident I’d be able to return to work as I’m finally having CBT and on the right medication, now on an SSRI combined with an anti psychotic. My boss was supporting my return. But then a week later she decided to place me on medical suspension without any prior warning because occ health deemed me unfit to work due to my OCD still taking up a lot of my day. I then fed this back to my line manager saying I’ll beat this decision as in prove occ health wrong and that I am indeed fit for work. She arranged a meeting with me to discuss suspension and she knew my union rep was on annual leave but decided to go ahead with it anyway!!!

They dismissed me due to long term sickness and not taking into account what’s working well with my mental health!! I’m looking at finding a solicitor as I believe this is unfair dismissal due to my disabilities under the Equality Act 2010. I’ve contacted a few and had a few quotes back.

AIBU by wanting to take legal action and sue them because my OCD is deliberating and because of my ASD I have different communication styles that they’ve completely misunderstood. Do you think this is unfair dismissal ?

im so traumatised by it all and im worried ill be made homeless and have my property repossessed as I’ll have no money and won’t be able to find a future job

OP posts:
MrsBrendaFarfetched · 22/04/2026 23:34

Upearlyaseva · 20/04/2026 11:31

What would you do
@bigboykitty if one of your team expressed OCD intrusive thoughts about violently harming colleagues with a knife ?

A few things...

  1. I would ask why that person was telling me these thoughts, ie do they have impulses, are these new thoughts, etc

  2. I'd ask what they are doing from a medical point of view, counselling, Dr's, medication, what not. I would be checking if this was a diagnoses or self diagnoses.

But I would be inclined to medically suspend with a meeting with occ health arranged asap.

Gonnagetgoingreturnsagain · 23/04/2026 19:28

PhoebeBuffay1234 · 21/04/2026 13:20

I love how that’s all you took from Shrinkhole’s comments. Says a lot really.

I took her comments on board.

Fedupmumofadultsons · 01/08/2026 02:26

KittyCoo · 17/04/2026 19:28

@Velumental Yes it’s harm ocd and id do anything for my life before this all started due to one stupid thought about a knife!!

@ItsOnlyHobnobs nearly 4yrs.

@Itsmetheflamingo thank you for your advice. I feel like if I dint tend legal action they’re getting away with murder and could do it to someone else with a disability in the future

I doubt you would get anywhere you gad harmful thoughts about a knife in work
So yes they sound within there rights to sack you .having a disability does not trump others safety

JMSA · 01/08/2026 03:51

MrsMigginsBrunch · 17/04/2026 19:28

Definitely. My union said that I probably wouldn’t be sacked for being off sick for three years but they might offer me a settlement to leave.

Off sick for 3 years?? But how could you honestly expect to keep your job? And why would you even want to?
This place is an education at times, it really is 😮

11AndCounting · 01/08/2026 04:17

Betterbyfar · 19/04/2026 08:27

If i knew that a colleague had expressed such sentiments and i knew that they had ocd - I would still refuse to work in the same work environment as them, and I believe my colleagues would do the same.

If i was the manager, and a member of my team came to me and told me this thought they were having and I knew they had OCD, I would ask them to stay in my office for a minute. Meanwhile I would leave my office, call HR, explain situation and say that I want them off the premises as I believe they constitute a possible threat to employees

Well, hopefully you'd receive some education and, if you persisted regardless, get sacked.

GarlicAnywhere · 01/08/2026 04:27

Shrinkhole · 18/04/2026 19:20

This is a common and very stigmatising misunderstanding of harm OCD

People with harm OCD thoughts absolutely do not act on them. They fear that they will and they take unnecessary steps to stop themselves but they are not any risk to others.

When reading OP's posts, I imagined that her 'unnecessary steps' are what take up too much of her working day, per her occ health assessment. Many people with OCD feel compelled to perform rituals and/or repeat mantras, which they irrationally believe will keep them safe. When OCD is severe, these can take hours.

OP hasn't replied to the many posts asking what they meant when they said it takes up too much of the day.

I'm very sorry you're in this predicament, @KittyCoo and it's obviously a good idea to find out if you may have a case. You'll be making the stress even worse, though, if you perseverate over being dismissed for having OCD when, in fact, it looks like their reason is that the condition leads you to be incapable of doing the job properly.

I know this may look like splitting hairs. I was dismissed after having a long time off with a mental illness - it was my need for time off that made me superfluous, not the thoughts in my head.

It's good to know you've found treatments that are working. I hope your psych will fix you up with suitable support to help you come to terms with what's happening. All the best.

Gateappreciation · 01/08/2026 05:57

@KittyCoo what was the outcome? Did you take it any further?

Wordsmithery · 01/08/2026 08:14

If your OCD is debilitating and affects your work for much of the day, Occupational Health and your employer have the right to say no.
The union is your best option first of all, if you want to challenge.

KittyCoo · 01/08/2026 09:34

So the update on this:

I did pursue the legal route and sought advice from an employment lawyer who said there’s a strong case for unfair dismissal but because it was a public sector job it would be difficult to sue them. I then forwarded this to someone very senior and I made it very clear that it was in no one’s best interest to take it to a tribunal and pushed for a settlement agreement. After negotiations with the solicitor, a settlement agreement for both sides was reached back in June with a neutral reference and changed to resignation.

Im now about to start a 0hrs job

OP posts:
Negroany · 01/08/2026 10:48

KittyCoo · 01/08/2026 09:34

So the update on this:

I did pursue the legal route and sought advice from an employment lawyer who said there’s a strong case for unfair dismissal but because it was a public sector job it would be difficult to sue them. I then forwarded this to someone very senior and I made it very clear that it was in no one’s best interest to take it to a tribunal and pushed for a settlement agreement. After negotiations with the solicitor, a settlement agreement for both sides was reached back in June with a neutral reference and changed to resignation.

Im now about to start a 0hrs job

Edited

I'm glad you got a decent outcome.

But it's rubbish that it would be hard to take a public sector employer to tribunal. It's no different to any other employer that way.

In fact, if anything, getting a settlement is harder.

MrsMigginsBrunch · 01/08/2026 22:16

JMSA · 01/08/2026 03:51

Off sick for 3 years?? But how could you honestly expect to keep your job? And why would you even want to?
This place is an education at times, it really is 😮

Why would I expect to lose my job for being ill?
And why would I want to lose my job?

PoppinjayPolly · 01/08/2026 22:24

MrsMigginsBrunch · 01/08/2026 22:16

Why would I expect to lose my job for being ill?
And why would I want to lose my job?

Do you plan on going back to work?

MrsMigginsBrunch · 01/08/2026 23:32

PoppinjayPolly · 01/08/2026 22:24

Do you plan on going back to work?

Yes

ThePeppyOpalScroller · 01/08/2026 23:49

KittyCoo · 17/04/2026 19:35

@TheRealMagic @Velumental but someone with ocd is very unlikely to act on their intrusive thoughts but the illness makes it feel so real that’s why I get so distressed cos I get urges to act!!!

And this is why.

Lavenderandbrown · 02/08/2026 01:58

Thank you for the update OP. I remember this thread but didn’t post as I have no experience or insight to share. Are you happy with the outcome? I am not familiar with 0 hrs job/ don’t know what that means but I wish you the best. Stay strong and take care OP.

FishersGate · 02/08/2026 02:54

KittyCoo · 01/08/2026 09:34

So the update on this:

I did pursue the legal route and sought advice from an employment lawyer who said there’s a strong case for unfair dismissal but because it was a public sector job it would be difficult to sue them. I then forwarded this to someone very senior and I made it very clear that it was in no one’s best interest to take it to a tribunal and pushed for a settlement agreement. After negotiations with the solicitor, a settlement agreement for both sides was reached back in June with a neutral reference and changed to resignation.

Im now about to start a 0hrs job

Edited

I call BS.

ExtraOnions · 02/08/2026 03:39

It’s no more difficult to take a Public Sector organisation to Tribunal, than a Private Sector company one. The rules are the same for both organisations.

Zanatdy · 02/08/2026 03:48

MrsMigginsBrunch · 01/08/2026 22:16

Why would I expect to lose my job for being ill?
And why would I want to lose my job?

Even with a documented health condition, employers are entitled to let staff go if unable to return to work, or likely to be off again. I had a serious health issue 15yrs ago, and eventually had a major surgery. I was always fully aware I could lose my job if unable to attend regularly. Thankfully for me, major surgery helped a lot and not had a day off in 5yrs but it was very difficult having to go into work the day after released from hospital. People seem to think employers can’t sack people for genuine illness but yes they can.

KittyCoo · 02/08/2026 10:37

@Lavenderandbrown thank you for your message.

Im happy the dismissal was taken off my record then I don’t have to declare it in future. A 0hrs contract means you don’t have to work a certain number of hours a week, but if the employer offers you work, you don’t have to accept it and equally the employer doesn’t have to give you work

OP posts:
IDontHateRainbows · 02/08/2026 12:19

MrsMigginsBrunch · 01/08/2026 22:16

Why would I expect to lose my job for being ill?
And why would I want to lose my job?

Why would anyone want to keep you is more the question...

Autumngirl5 · 02/08/2026 13:11

IDontHateRainbows · 02/08/2026 12:19

Why would anyone want to keep you is more the question...

This sums it up for me.

AgnesMcDoo · 02/08/2026 13:51

KittyCoo · 01/08/2026 09:34

So the update on this:

I did pursue the legal route and sought advice from an employment lawyer who said there’s a strong case for unfair dismissal but because it was a public sector job it would be difficult to sue them. I then forwarded this to someone very senior and I made it very clear that it was in no one’s best interest to take it to a tribunal and pushed for a settlement agreement. After negotiations with the solicitor, a settlement agreement for both sides was reached back in June with a neutral reference and changed to resignation.

Im now about to start a 0hrs job

Edited

That’s excellent news. Im glad you got a good outcome. And I’m sorry your thread
is still attracting arsehole replies

DevonKnowsImMiserableNow · 02/08/2026 14:05

Velumental · 17/04/2026 19:30

If you're still struggling with harm OCD and on anti psychotics and SSRIs but still struggling. However better managed it is, it's reasonable for them to put the safety of all staff above just your recovery. Imagine if you (or anyone in this position' disclosed these thoughts then acted on them in future? Your organisation would be in serious trouble for continuing with your employment.

I'm confused. People with OCD don't actually act on their thoughts. They just fear they will, no? Why are you under the impression that she poses a risk to her colleague or anyone?

Velumental · 02/08/2026 14:09

DevonKnowsImMiserableNow · 02/08/2026 14:05

I'm confused. People with OCD don't actually act on their thoughts. They just fear they will, no? Why are you under the impression that she poses a risk to her colleague or anyone?

I'm saying if she stayed thoughts of harmibg her colleague to her manager her manager couldn't take chances.

KilkennyCats · 02/08/2026 14:16

DevonKnowsImMiserableNow · 02/08/2026 14:05

I'm confused. People with OCD don't actually act on their thoughts. They just fear they will, no? Why are you under the impression that she poses a risk to her colleague or anyone?

I imagine most people with intrusive thoughts about harming others don’t make the objects of such thoughts aware?
Of course the manager can’t just blithely put it down to OCD and have her continue working with the colleagues she’s professed to fantasise about harming.