To be hooked and aghast at this story

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There’s a woman in Instagram called Lacey Tucker who is in the process of outlining her marriage/upcoming divorce story.

Basically met a bloke on Bumble who turned out to be a liar/conman/narcissist. He conned her out of every penny she had, threatened to take her children away…

Whats really shocked me is the victim blaming in the comments. From women 😮

Hooefully he’ll end up being named and shamed. Shes been admirably discreet about his identity so far. It’s pretty easy to find out who his mother is tbh so I don’t expect it’ll be long so hopefully other women will be al warned.

The myth of 'sisterhood' again. You can't really be surprised by the comments. After all we've had years of women happily sacrificing the safety of their female sisters on the alter of woke progressive policies.

Well, sisterhood would include everyone who has worked out who he is warning other women about him.
So how is her discretion admirable?
Though the responsibility is his.
Who is his mother, OP?

I’ve never heard of the term “hooked and aghast” is that a typo and should be “shocked” ?

I guess you’re right about her discretion. I suppose what I meant was “she’s far nicer than I am. I’d be shouting his name from the rooftops”.

She mentions his mother having been in prison in either her first or second instagram instalment. It’s pretty easy to search but I won’t name her on the off chance I’m wrong. But the details are easily google-able.

“Hooked” as in intrigued. Like “I’m hooked on that new TV series”.

Aghast as in shocked.

I think there’s a difference between being supportive, and highlighting red flags. I know anyone can be scammed, but there are certain ways you can safeguard yourself from some of them.
A comment along the lines of, that’s why I’d never introduce a new man to my DC, isn’t intended as victim blaming. It’s just a strategy that minimises risk.

It's social media!!! I wouldn't jump and automatically believe everything she shares just because she is a woman!

Yes she’s done one of those WTF did I marry series on insta- she’s a great speaker and it’s a terrible story, albeit sadly common or garden abuse.

its quite old I think though- I think she came back to the uk late last year? So not sure he’ll be “unmasked” now

It’s not a particularly unusual story. It’s abuse and gas lighting. Completely believable

I’m a bit cynical here.

Any instagrammers know how much she will earn from instagram?

And how many MNers rushed to her account to have a look and rack up clicks?

(Not me, I can't be arsed with InstaDrama)

She’s quite open that she is trying to get money from her story because he’s conned her out of thousands and thousands including her inheritance.

Why is her discretion admirable? I think it's stupid.

I am halfway through this myself. I can well believe it all. I do think moving to California was very naive.

You don’t earn money from clicks on insta, only partnerships etc

she Has said on TikTok she’s raising money to support herself through TikTok, and has a go fund me for a divorce lawyer

There’s lots of documentaries and tv programmes about romance cons and I think that most people consider the conned person foolish regardless of whether they are male or female. The assumption is that only stupid people would fall for a scam and most people think that they are smarter than average.

I think that it’s far from unusual for another woman to think that she’s special to him so wouldn’t be conned too. Successful con artists are charming and have a good radar for the gullible.

Tbh I can’t blame people for pointing outs she’s stupid… I’m only halfway through but he’s already been outed as having a secret family that he swore he didn’t have, lost her entire inheritance and proceeds of her flat sale, hidden loads of debts… and she’s STILL saying things like “so we carried on having marriage counselling, then we had a really nice family day out…” There’s just no helping some people

I’ve been watching . I’m disappointed in some of the comments . It’s awful what happened but she’s very irritating.

Someone asked how she could keep having unprotected sex with him after baby 1 and she said, paraphrased, "I was trying to make my marriage work and that's part of marriage". No, it's not when you're risking another pregnancy in this already shit situation!

I knew it was going to be about this before I even opened the thread!

She was a victim of abuse. I don’t understand the point in claiming she shouldn’t have done xyz. She clearly was overwhelmed, confused and dependant on him.

its not as though it isn’t completely normal for a abused woman to have children with their abuser

I was socially acquainted with a woman who was scammed in this way. When I met her she had a very “big job” in a public service and was a great person, really smart, independent, very highly respected. When it all came out I’m afraid I wasn’t really surprised and I judged her very hard. She definitely turned a blind eye to some flags that I wouldn’t have. So yes it can happen to the best of us, but really there’s none so blind as those that won’t look.

I actually don’t think it was right to say she was scammed or conned.

Financially abused, yes, but we’re talking about transferring inheritance within a marriage to pay for what she thought were living expenses (and maybe were- she didn’t work and had no knowledge as to how their very expensive life style was funded)

sort of normal marital finances really, apart from he consistently lost everything

I don't think it's the same as a romance scam either. I think he genuinely wanted a girlfriend and then when he matched with someone with a good job and her own flat he realised he could have the partner and her money.

It's not victim blaming to apportion responsibility properly. Some people are just begging to be "scammed"