AIBU for giving my stepson shop money so he was not left out

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I took my two boys to a small local museum today, along with my step son (partner's child). They're 10, 6 and 6 (step son).

It has a small shop that sells pocket money bits like pens, colouring, books and small toys. I always let my boys pick a couple of bits up (usually a book each).

I have the five pounds each and realised as I did it that my step son didn't have any money so gave him five pounds too. His dad was supposed to give him his pocket money but hadn't and I couldn't leave him out.

They all picked a little treat each and we came home.

DSS's mum is furious with me for giving him money. She is very against buying "tat" and said it wasn't my place to give him pocket money.

Aibu to think you can't leave one child out?

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Absolutely. She sounds bonkers.

She is bat sh^t crazy. You did the right thing. Poor little boy he can leave the "tat" at yours. Some people are just mean to the soul.

Just ignore her. You did a lovely thing. What did your DP say? I assume he announce came through him? She sounds jealous that you did it, if DP had done it she wouldn’t have said anything.

You sound like a caring step mum and the bio mum sounds like she’s struggling with the situation in some way. Of course you did the right thing but maybe next time say the money is from dad to avoid the issue.

Why should you lie or get the child to lie, she should be grateful that OP is kind to her child, if not she is the problem.

Actually I was more thinking of the child not having to think his father had forgotten.

She's bonkers. My ds went to his dad and step mum every other weekend and holidays for years. I think what you did was lovely and certainly wouldn't have had an issue. Conversely in my case ds step mum took her daughters out and paid for them and pointedly asked me for the money!! So unless your dp is being a dick and asking for a refund then you're a lovely person

You'd have to be heartless to leave a 6yr old out.

Damned if you did, damned if you didn't.... she may have had plenty to say if he had been left out, poor kid - ignore & move on. You did the right thing. (Although I may also have a word with his Dad...??).

Most Mums would be really grateful their DC was not left out.

You did the right thing. Imagine how he’d feel if he was left out. His mother is being ridiculous.