AIBU to consider leaving my marriage over our sex life?

[Pocahontasandme]

I’m in my early 50s and my husband is in his late 60s. I know the age gap is too big but we fell in love decades ago when it didn’t seem to matter. We have 2 children in their late teens. He has suffered from erectile dysfunction for years. I’ve finally realised that he won’t recover. I’m so sad and disappointed. I feel liked I can’t blow up a marriage just because of sex when, from what I hear, sex won’t matter so much to me after the menopause. But it does now. I sometimes think I should leave once the kids move out- aibu?

Women significantly outnumber men in that dating pool. The competition for a decent man at that age is huge. My single friends thought the age of miracles had returned when I met my bloke in my mid 40s.

No, you are not ridiculous for caring about this. Sex is part of a marriage, and years of untreated ED can turn into grief, resentment, and distance if one person has basically given up. That does not mean the marriage is doomed, but it does mean the problem is real. If he has never properly pursued treatment, that is still a practical next step, and longer-lasting options like Cialis - pathilo.net/note-p2kdsz are often what people look at when they want less pressure around timing. But he has to want to engage with it.