To not know how to handle the response to the joint party suggestion?

[runningroundalot]

Reading threads on here and noticed that a lot of people suggested joint parties to save money. Parties are really expensive so I messaged another mum with a birthday around the same time as ds to see if she’d like to throw them a joint party.

She’s replied in a way that’s made me feel really awkward, made it kind of plain that she thinks it’s a really odd suggestion.

I don’t know how to leave it now! Wish I’d never asked.

She said she’d never heard of a joint party?! Has she been living under a rock?

They are good friends. One of the reasons I’m a bit puzzled is the wording on her reply sounds a bit like my ds won’t be invited to her DS’s party. I’m probably wrong though.

It isn’t weird, my DS went to a joint party a couple of months ago. You asked, she shouldn’t have made you feel awkward about it although from what you’ve said she just sort of said “nah DS wants to do his own thing” which is a fair response and doesn’t sound rude.

Don’t worry too much - I wouldn’t want to do a joint party either. And she can’t help it if she hasn’t heard of them. I’d either ask someone else or plan a small party.

Oh, right. You said "another mum with a birthday around the same time as ds" in your OP, so she sounded like just another mum of a kid in his class.

I guess she is, but it’s a small class so they are all friends tbh, only twelve children. And we’ve had a couple of days out with them, my ds went to her DS’s party before they were at school together so we know them pretty well.