Yes, the thinning obsession. I did once have a hairdresser who knew how to thin it out without the God awful thinning shears that left me with split ends. My hair is coarse enough already, thank you.
Part of the problem, TBF, though, was after years of my mother instilling in me a belief that my thick, coarse, wavy hair wasn't 'good', instilled a belief that I needed to work against it, instead of with it. So in all fairness, sometimes I wanted a 'look' that required the type of hair I simply haven't got.
Over the years I have learnt, and now know what I need to ask for to ensure any cut I have is working with what I have got, not against it. The trend for iron-straight, silky hair hasn't helped, since hairdressers assume you want a straighten, but I have now found one who doesn't look at me like I have two heads for not wanting that. I have got long hair, cut my own fringe and go every six months, because I know she'll do what I ask.
I often thought I should have gone into hairdressing, and specialised in my type of hair, because so few hairdressers know what to do with thick, coarse, wavy hair.