AIBU to ask DS16 to wear lighter clothes in spring

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It's spring and it's getting warmer, yet DS16 is still dressing in a black puffer jacket and black tracksuits. I've been telling him to stop wearing dark clothing at this time of year like a gangster but he is refusing to listen. AIBU to tell him to wear different clothing?

Aw, leave him alone. His clothes are his security blanket, particularly if he’s wearing the same ones day in, day out. I’m sure he’ll take his puffer jacket off if he gets too warm.

Mind you, my eldest has ASD and used to struggle to dress for the weather. In primary school, he would wander out in his polo shirt in a blizzard, yet in summer he insisted on wearing the full sweatshirt and coat ensemble. He’s 17 now and sticks his head out through the back door to check if it’s cold, so he finally got the memo😆

I'm 40! When I was 16 I wore a thick white puffer jacket with Hooch plastered all over it with a massive hood and a fur trim. I wore it everywhere in the blazing sun 🤣 including sitting on the beach with my CDs falling out my pocket (yep, sandy CD's)

It even had two dangly white Pom poms for good measure.

Don't worry I'm neither a drug addict or a gangsta 🤣

Apparently it was minus 2 last night where I live, factoring in wind chill. It was flipping cold yesterday evening too, I had the heating on. It might be April, but it's not warm everywhere. Leave the boy be.

This really made me laugh🤣🤣

Yes, same here. DS18 appeared in shorts last summer for the first time in years. We both stared at him in shock.

My DS is like this. Wears jumpers and jackets in the height of summer. He has autism so I’m assuming it’s a comfort/sensory thing

Pick your battles OP.

This sort of thing never bothered me when mine were teens … a lot of other things did but I always let them wear what they wanted.

Never really thought about it but my adult DD recently told me how much she appreciated that at the time as a lot of her friends mums insisted on certain clothes.

Lol, surreal isn't it. I haven't seen his legs in about 8 years !

Ha ha, that's the standard uniform for lads around here 😂I think it's boring and can look scruffy, but it's up to them I suppose, and in a couple of years time it will be something else.

This said, it makes me giggle. When we were their age, we all wanted to be 'different', and now they all want to look the same!

I am a good bit older than my sister, I remember she had this jacket she wore it everywhere including my house when she stayed for the weekend.im not convinced she didn't sleep in it 😂

It’s going to be max 12 degrees today. Where is this spring you are talking about?

this is not the hill to die on OP. My favourite photo of my then 16 y.o. DD is her on a beach in Norfolk wearing Vivian Westwood style bondage trousers, massive DM boots and a huge black hoodie. I’m sat in a deck chair next to her in my swimming costume.

I swear they feel no heat changes at that age. I took my four out yesterday. One with a thick hoodie with nothing underneath so couldn't strip down when it got hot. Two took coats they then left in the car so was freezing after 4pm. Dd in ugg boots, Nike pro shorts and a tshirt so not much skin covered at all, turning blue in late afternoon happy as Larry. Adult accompanying us also made bad clothing choice and had to put on dd age 10 hoodie as freezing. Hilarious as I did "tell you so". Being old I took a light dress AND a hoodie.

It's fine to gently suggest. It's also OK to eye roll and inwardly chuckle when they are boiling/ freezing a short time later.

My brother as a child and young teen in the 70’s had a Levi hooded sweatshirt that my mother used to practically rip off him to wash. He had the hood up all year round.

God, why on earth are you bothering to be arsed about this? He’s 16, let him express himself through what he wears like everyone else.

He's 16. Mind your business.

Did you wear what your parents told you to wear when you were 16?!

I think I may have cocooned myself and slept in it too! Especially on a sand dune somewhere next to a campfire 🤣

Those days were fun!

Surely you've worked out by now that telling a 16 year old what to wear is a total waste of time?

I would definitely suggest it, my 18 and 15 year old would be fine with me saying anything like this, whether they do it is up to them. I have the opposite problem though as mine are always in shorts when it's freezing.

All you can do is make sure there is photographic evidence so when he’s 40 he can look back at them and laugh 😉

Oh no I am sure you were not melting at all😀

DS 14 has black walking trousers and black t shirts for spring/summer and jeans and hoodies for winter.

This
16?!
You'll be wasting your breath 😁
They'll do what they like when it comes to whether they wear a coat or not.

How would you react if your mother/your husband berated your clothing and told you to wear different clothes?

Leave them alone. Teach them by your actions they have body autonomy and can wear the clothes they want; they aren't wearing mankini's or anything inappropriate.