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Another child killed by a dog...

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tnorfotkcab · 09/04/2026 22:08

Another poor child is killed by a dog.... We already know this is an XL Bully, don't even have to wait for confirmation.

https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/articles/ce35zkl9dg3o

A Google street view of Hardale Grove. It is a residential cul-de-sac with cars parked on the pavement.

Child dies in Redcar dog attack, police say

Police remain at the scene in Dormanstown, where one dog was destroyed earlier.

https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/articles/ce35zkl9dg3o

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TwoSwannits · 10/04/2026 16:17

AlphaApple · 10/04/2026 16:02

The labrador debate is classic whataboutery. If I can find an obscure statistic somewhere on the internet that shows - with no context - that labrador bites have resulted in fatalities then that proves.... what?

Human deaths from dog bites have overwhelmingly involved large, powerful dogs, including pit bulls. And that's with restrictions and controls in many countries.

No dog is ever 100% safe in 100% of situations. That's why many, many posters very sensibly say they would never leave a dog unsupervised with children. But, patently, some dogs, by dint of their size, power and innate traits, are more dangerous than others.

So, #NotAllDogs, but #SomeDogs and #MostlyBullies.

I think some people are not arguing in good faith. And a great many people need to buy "statistics for dummies" and not come back to this thread until they've read it.

I think some people are not arguing in good faith. And a great many people need to buy "statistics for dummies" and not come back to this thread until they've read it.

Ain't that the truth? 😂

It happens on MN a lot, not just this thread or this topic. As the saying goes, you can't argue with stupid.

Either that or it's just people being disengenuous and obtuse by throwing straw men our way.

ObligateAerobe · 10/04/2026 16:22

EvangelicalAboutButteredToast · 10/04/2026 16:13

It’s just more nonsense that gets said that ensures nothing ever changes. When kids are dying for no good reason I won’t chill on it and look at a wall for a while. It’s aggravating and infuriating.

Why are you still directing this stuff at me?

I DID NOT SAY IT.
IT IS NOT MY CONSPIRACY THEORY.

"cool your jets" was in reference to you jumping to grilling me, rather than checking that I was the user who originally posted with the barriers idea. Perhaps I should've been more rudely direct.

GlovedhandsCecilia · 10/04/2026 16:23

takealettermsjones · 10/04/2026 15:50

Dogs do not "suddenly turn"; that is a myth

Then why, every time a child is killed by one of these things, are the owners in the news going "he's been our family pet for ten years, he's never hurt a fly, I can't believe he did this!"

Typically because the dog is probably fairly good in many of these circumstances and has tolerated discomfort 1000s of times before the one they snapped.

I have rottweilers. There are lots of "influencers" with rottweilers. The whole "rottie grumble" thing is a bugbear of mine. Some people (a lot of people) are mistaking growling for this "rottie grumble" which is more like a purr.

There is also another woman whose whole channel is focused around the fact her rottie not liking her (male) fiancé (and men generally). Now, she may carefully edit the footage to make it seem like there whole interaction is the dog making it very clear in doggy language that he isnt into the man and resource guarding the woman.

I am waiting to hear of the fallout of this.

https://www.facebook.com/share/r/18KU2nAEoU/

Frequency · 10/04/2026 16:23

GlovedhandsCecilia · 10/04/2026 16:06

With many dogs, you can also achieve much of this with training.

And he is trained, but if my reply had been "I can control him because he is trained to come, sit, down, stay, come to my side and press his nose to my palm, and settle on command," posters would have accepted that or would they have insisted that one day his training will fail and he will eat me?

The harness and head collar are secondary tools to his training and are there as a "just in case" rather than something I put all of my faith into or rely on fully. He does pull on his lead, so the head collar helps with that.

I could train him to not pull, but a) it doesn't bother me, and b) he will come to my side and put his nose to my palm when I need him under close control, such as when we are passing a child, so I don't feel like resolving the pulling is a massive priority. I'd prefer to spend time playing scent games with him and teaching him useful things like putting his toys away and closing doors after he opens them. I might get around to teaching him heel one day, I might not.

MorangoDoNordeste · 10/04/2026 16:25

BackToLurk · 10/04/2026 15:54

Because they lie

I don't even think they lie. I suspect that most people, including a lot of dog owners, miss signs that a dog is uncomfortable in a situation. These signs include:

  • yawning
  • licking their lips (when there is no food offered)
  • displaying the whites of their eyes
  • leaning and looking away from a person
  • stiffening posture

www.pdsa.org.uk/pet-help-and-advice/looking-after-your-pet/puppies-dogs/5-things-your-dog-is-trying-to-tell-you

Frequency · 10/04/2026 16:27

takealettermsjones · 10/04/2026 15:50

Dogs do not "suddenly turn"; that is a myth

Then why, every time a child is killed by one of these things, are the owners in the news going "he's been our family pet for ten years, he's never hurt a fly, I can't believe he did this!"

Because they lie, but also because they've completely missed or misinterpreted the million and one indications the dog gave that it was uncomfortable.

A bite is always the last resort for any breed; some may escalate quicker than others, but the warnings beforehand are always there.

takealettermsjones · 10/04/2026 16:31

Frequency · 10/04/2026 16:27

Because they lie, but also because they've completely missed or misinterpreted the million and one indications the dog gave that it was uncomfortable.

A bite is always the last resort for any breed; some may escalate quicker than others, but the warnings beforehand are always there.

Yeah, so doesn't that tell you that it's not always possible for a human to spot all those warning signs, so we need a different strategy to stop these attacks? As I said above, it's arrogant for an owner to state that they are completely infallible and will never miss a sign or make a mistake.

Gostraight2hellnowtrump · 10/04/2026 16:36

If missing the warning signs leads to an injury or fatality then the animal is not suited to being kept as a pet.

Frequency · 10/04/2026 16:37

takealettermsjones · 10/04/2026 16:31

Yeah, so doesn't that tell you that it's not always possible for a human to spot all those warning signs, so we need a different strategy to stop these attacks? As I said above, it's arrogant for an owner to state that they are completely infallible and will never miss a sign or make a mistake.

No, it tells me that people need to be educated about canine behaviour and management. People don't miss the signs because they are impossible/hard for us to spot; they miss them because they don't know what they are.

BackToLurk · 10/04/2026 16:38

MorangoDoNordeste · 10/04/2026 16:25

I don't even think they lie. I suspect that most people, including a lot of dog owners, miss signs that a dog is uncomfortable in a situation. These signs include:

  • yawning
  • licking their lips (when there is no food offered)
  • displaying the whites of their eyes
  • leaning and looking away from a person
  • stiffening posture

www.pdsa.org.uk/pet-help-and-advice/looking-after-your-pet/puppies-dogs/5-things-your-dog-is-trying-to-tell-you

Yes. I think that’s also true. In many cases though, comments from neighbours etc suggest previous issues regardless of what the owners say.

takealettermsjones · 10/04/2026 16:47

Frequency · 10/04/2026 16:37

No, it tells me that people need to be educated about canine behaviour and management. People don't miss the signs because they are impossible/hard for us to spot; they miss them because they don't know what they are.

Yes but even educated people can be distracted, tired, busy with something else, in another room, drunk, asleep, etc etc.

It seems like a poor public health strategy to allow children to be in situations where the only thing between them and death is an adult who must be fully vigilant and watching the dog at all times.

EvangelicalAboutButteredToast · 10/04/2026 16:50

ObligateAerobe · 10/04/2026 16:22

Why are you still directing this stuff at me?

I DID NOT SAY IT.
IT IS NOT MY CONSPIRACY THEORY.

"cool your jets" was in reference to you jumping to grilling me, rather than checking that I was the user who originally posted with the barriers idea. Perhaps I should've been more rudely direct.

You need to chill down. You quoted me abd I quoted you. There’s nothing more to it.

bafta16 · 10/04/2026 16:51

Tacohill · 10/04/2026 11:01

Ahh so it’s not even an XL bully at all then.

That makes this thread even more insensitive.

Are you a fan of the XL bully?

Frequency · 10/04/2026 16:54

takealettermsjones · 10/04/2026 16:47

Yes but even educated people can be distracted, tired, busy with something else, in another room, drunk, asleep, etc etc.

It seems like a poor public health strategy to allow children to be in situations where the only thing between them and death is an adult who must be fully vigilant and watching the dog at all times.

All this tells me is that you don't know enough about canine behaviour and management yourself.

The point of knowing the signs is not to prevent a bite at the last minute. It is to intervene and manage the situation before it escalates by teaching the child and dog how to interact safely.

If, for example, your dog displays signs it is uncomfortable just because the child is present you would ensure the dog has a safe place it can escape to, is never unsupervised with or forced to interact with the child (which shouldn't happen ever) and you would start working with a trainer to counter-condition and build the dog's confidence around the child.

Educated people wouldn't be drunk in charge of a dog and a child. They'd have them separated. Ditto being in another room, someone educated in managing dogs properly would have the dog in the other room with them, away from the child.

takealettermsjones · 10/04/2026 17:00

Frequency · 10/04/2026 16:54

All this tells me is that you don't know enough about canine behaviour and management yourself.

The point of knowing the signs is not to prevent a bite at the last minute. It is to intervene and manage the situation before it escalates by teaching the child and dog how to interact safely.

If, for example, your dog displays signs it is uncomfortable just because the child is present you would ensure the dog has a safe place it can escape to, is never unsupervised with or forced to interact with the child (which shouldn't happen ever) and you would start working with a trainer to counter-condition and build the dog's confidence around the child.

Educated people wouldn't be drunk in charge of a dog and a child. They'd have them separated. Ditto being in another room, someone educated in managing dogs properly would have the dog in the other room with them, away from the child.

You're right, I don't know a lot about "canine behaviour management." But I am able to assess an overall situation logically. Literally nothing you've said refutes my position that owners of this type of dog are arrogantly assuming their education and experience makes them infallible, and they're betting their children's lives on it. I've read nothing to convince me this is not objectively ridiculous.

Craftysue · 10/04/2026 17:05

The problem is there is no protection in the home for children or vulnerable adults. If adults are stupid enough to have an XL bully in their home that's up to them but the children have no choice. The pictures on social media of babies and small children lying with an XL bully make my blood run cold.
There was a 9 month old little girl in my city who was killed by a Malinos a couple of years ago. Her parents were in the same room but couldn't get to the dog in time - the dog bit once but it caused a severe head injury and she died on the way to hospital.
Children have to be protected in their own homes from dangerous dogs and stupid parents

bafta16 · 10/04/2026 17:05

canine behaviour management?

Manage this, don't have a semi wild animal bred to kill near a child.

BackToLurk · 10/04/2026 17:07

bafta16 · 10/04/2026 17:05

canine behaviour management?

Manage this, don't have a semi wild animal bred to kill near a child.

There’s certainly an argument that people with very young children shouldn’t have dogs.

Allseeingallknowing · 10/04/2026 17:09

BackToLurk · 10/04/2026 17:07

There’s certainly an argument that people with very young children shouldn’t have dogs.

Agree, but feel we’d be in the minority!

RubyFlax · 10/04/2026 17:11

TwoSwannits · 10/04/2026 14:06

That is horrifying reading and at the same time, really sad. What I simply do not understand is if they already know the very high aggression profiles of so many of these dogs, why do they continue to shelter them instead of just euthanising them instantly?

They can't possibly ever re-home those dogs, so what is the point of keeping them alive in such stressful conditions? As I said before, I adore dogs, but I refuse to get sentimental about keeping any dog alive if it's really not in anyone's best interests to do so. The dog doesn't know it's going to die. It can be euthanised peacefully and painlessly and then the problem is solved. Why spend so much money that could be used to help dogs with a good chance of a better future, instead of keeping hundreds of killing machines alive absolutely pointlessly? Nobody loves them, nobody wants them and they live stressed, unhappy existences. It would be kinder all round to just put them all to sleep as soon as they've been assessed as a danger.

Because sadly (and frighteningly) in many cases they have to give the dog back to their owner after the investigation! They will only be euthanised if they are proved to be a banned XL or have harmed someone. In the article it explains that a lot of these dogs have just been seized for other reasons and if they are not a banned XL then they are eventually returned…. After months in kennels where they’re becoming ever more stressed and aggressive, they are allowed back to a “family” life in a house in a street like yours or mine. It’s beyond ridiculous!!

PartQualifiedAcca · 10/04/2026 17:19

TwoSwannits · 10/04/2026 14:06

That is horrifying reading and at the same time, really sad. What I simply do not understand is if they already know the very high aggression profiles of so many of these dogs, why do they continue to shelter them instead of just euthanising them instantly?

They can't possibly ever re-home those dogs, so what is the point of keeping them alive in such stressful conditions? As I said before, I adore dogs, but I refuse to get sentimental about keeping any dog alive if it's really not in anyone's best interests to do so. The dog doesn't know it's going to die. It can be euthanised peacefully and painlessly and then the problem is solved. Why spend so much money that could be used to help dogs with a good chance of a better future, instead of keeping hundreds of killing machines alive absolutely pointlessly? Nobody loves them, nobody wants them and they live stressed, unhappy existences. It would be kinder all round to just put them all to sleep as soon as they've been assessed as a danger.

25 million pounds. Could build a hospital with that money

Boomer55 · 10/04/2026 17:20

tnorfotkcab · 09/04/2026 22:08

Another poor child is killed by a dog.... We already know this is an XL Bully, don't even have to wait for confirmation.

https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/articles/ce35zkl9dg3o

Oh, another soft, soppy, cuddly bully that would never hurt a fly?

As ever. 🙄

PartQualifiedAcca · 10/04/2026 17:21

Social services should be able to intervene imo
Remove the dog and the bloody idiot at the end of the lead that thought it was a good idea around his kids

FeeLipa · 10/04/2026 17:36

The poor child.

The government should have made regular training classes a stipulation of the exemption. And if the owners can't afford it, they shouldn't have such a powerful dog. Unfortunately near me they all seem to owned by inexperienced owners. I've been bitten by terriers, a lab and a rottweiler. The damage doesn't compare to what an XL bully is capable of inflicting.

Frequency · 10/04/2026 17:38

PartQualifiedAcca · 10/04/2026 17:21

Social services should be able to intervene imo
Remove the dog and the bloody idiot at the end of the lead that thought it was a good idea around his kids

If the dog is deemed to be a threat but the breed alone is not an indicator of the dog being a threat. There are 57,000 XL bullies registered in the UK, and 167 reported attacks by XL Bullies (and estimated to be as many as 100,000 XL bullies in the UK overall). Which means that less than 0.29% of XL Bully dog type dogs have been involved in an attack.

If breed alone is a determining factor, why haven't the other 99% of them attacked?