AIBU to leave a friend's flat because it was too messy?

[Browndoor25]

Ok so firstly he knows I’ve taken photos and that I’m making this thread. He doesn’t care.

I traveled across the country to stay with my friend for afew nights. I knew he was a messy bugger, but I overestimated my ability to cope with mess. We are good-ish friends but complete opposites when it comes to the house keeping and cleanliness department. He’s gone through a really hard time recently so I can’t be too hard on him. He said he spent days cleaning for me and that his flat is the cleanest it has even been, and he was genuinely offended that I wouldn’t stay. He is such a lovely guy, he offered me his bed and he would have taken the sofa but I just couldn’t. So I’ve booked a last minute hotel! He thinks I’m being a drama queen with my ridiculously high standards. Maybe I am, I don’t know. Am I? I feel quite guilty and this isn’t supposed to be a serious thread. We’ll probably have a laugh over it later in the hotel bar 🫣

I am a total clean freak. I grew up jn filth & it has given me OCD with cleaning & have a overwhelming fear of germs & illness so no i wouldn't BUT i would have at least offered to help him fettle it but I wouldn't have stayed there. It also looks like he smokes in there too which is a huge no no to me.

All the posters thinking it's her job to sort out 🤦‍♀️ nope...why is she cast as a Mummy figure??

100% right to flee that

Cig butts on the floor and ash plus mould, dirty carpet and damp, it must smell really bad in there !! I dont blame you. It sucks youve had to pay for a hotel but hopefully you can support him from the sidelines as this isnt your job!

Is that dust on the sofa? And cigarette butts on the floor? And wine poured on the ceiling? It does look like a crack nest.

@Browndoor25 He obv has mh problems to be able to live in that. I am messy but this is not mess- it's dirty- utterly disgusting. I would never sleep in that sofa- tbf I wouldn't even sit on it.

God it’s a sh*th**e. No way I’d have stayed. And I’m not super house proud, have the usual stuff about etc but that’s plain dirty.

You are very welcome to mine anytime you feel like it :).

I fully agree!

It looks horrific, like the sort of place where they find drug addicts shooting up in tv shows.

Depends..At 25 I'd have bunked down there nae bother.

Now in my fifties I'd run for the hills whilst tossing him a bottle of bleach.

Well, he's a rubbish host, isn't he? He knows he's got a friend coming to visit, and can't even be arsed to push the hoover round and pick the fucking fag ends off the floor. Why are there fag ends on the floor anyway - doesn't the lazy knob own an ashtray?

She's not cast as a Mummy figure... but a decent friend of a struggling man (who has tried hard for days to clean up in advance of her arrival and this is the best he has done) would surely try to help him?

Is that not part of friendship? To help when your friends are having a difficult time?

its wood shavings, he has Guinea pigs. I did offer to go back today and help him hoover. He said it was fine, and that it’s the tidiest it’s ever been. I guess we’ll just have to agree to disagree. On my way home now.

It’s not messy, it’s filthy. I wouldn’t stay there either, and I certainly wouldn’t be helping him clean.

There is minimal mess there so i think he has propably spent a lot of time "tyding" however its filthy and he now needs to spend time cleaning and basic decorating if possible.