Neighbours kids keep looking over our fence

[lilybit2025]

As the title suggests. Young girl around 5-6 keeps looking over at our fence. Did it a handful of times yesterday until I turned around and said 'hello can I help you?' And she's doing it again today. It sets our dog off and drives her insane yet she still does it.
I find it incredibly intrusive and I don't know if our neighbours know she's doing it and she's only a child but we do not have children and aren't particularly fond of them either.

As long as they don't go on parenting topics. After all that's not relevant to them.

It’s not a race to the bottom.

Our neighbour [user name] was told in no uncertain terms to do one, after polite requests fell on deaf ears and he didn't
He hasn't peered around his door into our garden since, knot holes in the fence have been securely covered too.
Life is bliss in our garden now.

She could be repeatedly asking you for to send a ball back, huge amounts of noise in the garden, put very early in the morning, repeatedly kicking a ball against the fence. Using the garden to practice recorder playing. All sorts of annoying things kids doing in gardens. Peering over the fence quietly might be annoying, but it's also on the mild end. Yes, she could do with respecting your privacy more and no I wouldn't be allowing her behaviour of it upset you, but I equally think you're being OTT.

What's going to happen if (probably when...) she gets a trampoline. Is your dog going to go nuts at every bounce? Or if she likes to sit high on a climbing frame, gets a tree house etc. Kids are naturally curious and watching the world is a natural way for them to learn. Who knows, she may watch you out of her bedroom window, and that's entirely her call.

If you want to ensure privacy, then the answer is to either move somewhere not overlooked or screen your garden more.

It's a bit like animals, often going to people who are indifferent to them. I am amused by it. I'd go and have a chat with her, she's probably just very bored and likes dogs.

Wta says who exactly? Even the child free [it's not a crime by the way] can have young relatives and therefore have an opinion on kids. I had a large family now grown up, just don't particularly like other peoples kids, but I'm still postering on a parenting website.

Sorry completely missed that she’d already spoken to the parents.

Then I’d go with the higher fence

put the dog inside for a while and ignore her? (Ignore the kid).
The Little boy next door to me does similar. I have a little chat with him, admire his cars or whatever he's showing me. Then I say ok I've got to go and make dinner or whatever. He stays there for a while then gets bored and wonders off.

Put something spiky there.

I absolutely hate this. My kids are buggers for doing it as well. First time it's a reminder about privacy, second time it's back in the house, which also drives me nuts as it's much better for them to be outside in the fresh air and sunshine!

Why would anyone be in the slightest bit offended by the thought that others couldn’t stand their children?!

Chat? The OP shouldn't have to interact with her if she doesn't want to, which she clearly doesn't.

Start sunbathing nude. With any luck the neighbours will be the type of people who think their child will be irreversibly corrupted by the sight of a naked adult.

This sounds like an ideal approach to make.

Arguably parenting is relevant to everyone actually. We are all affected by the way others bring up their kids, either now or in the future.

The OPs is experiencing what she is from this 5 year old girl because of someone’s lack of parenting.

But anyway this particular thread isn't on one of the parenting topic boards anyway so I trust you are okay with Op posting here.

A quicker way I’ve gotten rid of two neighbours like this in the past was “to get a phonecall” each and every time they approached me, stay “on the phone” til they got the message and fucked off and continued to do this every time. I was younger and more timid than I would be now, sooner or later each one got the message and in turn got offended which meant they then ignored me completely.

Put a camera up in your garden facing the fence. tell your neighbours you have done it, then show them the evidence which it would be hard to argue with.

Water pistol. Works on cats 😉

They of course have said she isn't doing that.

if it’s like that then you of course can say you didn’t squirt a hose at her…..

I was wondering that. Out of the hundreds of chat sites available why choose a parenting one to post criticism of a kid.
More interested in starting a bunfight than getting advice I would wager!

It's the parents job isn't it?

I’d say that the shit parenting of the OP’s neighbours is pretty relevant to her, actually.

Filming a child in their own garden, I would regard as s lot more problematic.
At the end of the day this kid is annoying, but she is not breaking any laws.

Does you dog bark at other times?

Like every time someone comes to the door

How often a day do you walk your dog or it just parked in the garden.

I am siding with the 6 year old right now. See the kids parents if its still getting on you and your dogs nerves. Perhaps introduce the dog to the child then it will not bark. Probably wants to play with the dog like a normal kid not some uptight adult!

trellis on tope of the fence