Neighbours kids keep looking over our fence

[lilybit2025]

As the title suggests. Young girl around 5-6 keeps looking over at our fence. Did it a handful of times yesterday until I turned around and said 'hello can I help you?' And she's doing it again today. It sets our dog off and drives her insane yet she still does it.
I find it incredibly intrusive and I don't know if our neighbours know she's doing it and she's only a child but we do not have children and aren't particularly fond of them either.

I'm the daughter of a refugee, I think you are barking up the wrong tree 😂. It was a genuine question. I think it's utterly absurd to think you can say you "don't like" an entire group of people.

Don't be daft. You're saying its down to the OP to "control their dog" because a child is climbing up to nose over the fence? No.

Right but that's related to individual children. So it's still ridiculous to say you "don't like" children.

In any case, whilst in this case I agree the child's behaviour is unacceptable, people's tolerance to what is completely normal and age appropriate behaviour for children is very low.

Have a go at the adults letting their kids down not the ones noticing it.

Are you actually reading what I'm saying

So she gets on a table, looks over the fence. The dog barks, you look round, she goes inside her house, your dog stops barking.

That sounds like a game that will soon become boring.

If It doesn’t, maybe approach it from another angle with her parents. Ask them if they find the barking annoying. Then explain why he is barking and ask if they could move whatever she is climbing on away from the fence.

Yeah, you’re focussing on the one or two posters who said they don’t like children and saying people should tolerate poor behaviour if kids are young. If people parented properly neither would be an issue.

I think you need to learn some comprehension skills.

She's a kid, she's nosey. Smile at her, you old grump. If it were adults, get your bum out.

Good one!

Buy a powerful water pistol, and get her smack between the eyes.

Then, when her parents come around to complain, get THEM, smack between the eyes.

Stick your tongue out and pull faces at her.

Get a garden sprinkler and set it off the second she peeps over.

Play some 18+ rated hip hop music loudly in the garden.

Add trellis, bamboo screening or plants along the fence

Put a shed up against their side

No wonder there’s so much entitlement in this country. Putting up with intrusive behaviour? (I don’t care how old she is). Just letting her do what she wants? That’s why we’re in the mess we are.

It's broken Britain.

Indeed and attitudes like let kids do what they want is compounding it all

My dogs hardly bark, but they would if someone was leaning over the fence.
There aren’t many dogs that wouldn’t react to that.
This isn’t a case of dogs barking everytime someone looks at them, they’re barking because someone is peering over a fence into the garden.

There is a saying, high (or tall) fences make good neighbours!

How high is the fence that a 5 year old can see over it?
If you want privacy you’re going to have to make it a bit taller, I’m afraid

The fence is quite high already as the 5 year old has to stand on a table or something to look over. Also it’s absurd to think someone should have to fork out hundreds if not thousands of pounds to get a higher fence when the kid could just stop going out of her way to peer over. She has already spoken to the parents which was the right thing to do.

The next thing to do IMO is to speak directly to the child next time since the parents are denying it.

Robert Frost

https://www.poetryfoundation.org/poems/44266/mending-wall

Maybe because some of the pretentious nonsense is funnier than the TV at times?

Sounds like she’s now doing it on purpose. I’d be tempted to take a photo of her doing it, tell her you’ll show her parents and then ask her why she’s being so nosey. But then I’m in quite a grumpy mood today.

I doubt she put the table there so the parents need to move it away from the fence which they will soon do if she falls off it. I'd take a photo then speak to the child and parents together and ask her to stop, if she's running away she knows she shouldn't be doing it. If she says she wants to see your dog then you could say she can come round one day and see him but only once when it suits you and with her parents supervision.

Totally absurd, but this is Mumsnet, where absurd suggestions are given to avoid the really obvious solution: speaking to the parents. Hoses, Easter eggs… and what would you do if it wasn’t near Easter?

However, I do get that it can feel a bit heartless to be bothered by a curious 5-year-old. It’s exactly what I would have done at that age (and I remember being told to stop doing it).

I probably wouldn’t take a photo only because they might spin it on a local Facebook group or something “my adult neighbour is taking pictures of my 5 year old in our garden without my permission”

i bet if you take up nudism and get a pitbull the parents would start to care.