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AIBU to feel criticised when my partner mocks everything I like?

68 replies

happydogwalker · 05/04/2026 23:36

AIBU to want to watch, listen to or eat what I like?

My partner and I have very different tastes in TV, Film, Music etc, which is ok. We each watch or listen to what we want in different areas of the home. Sometimes we will stumble upon something we mutally like which is great.
The issue for me is if I tell him I am watching something that is not in his taste he makes derogatory comments about it, such as, it is moronic, that kind of thing is made for idiots etc. If he walks into an area where I am playing my music or radio, he will turn it off calling it a pile of S* , or utter Cr** he cant bare to hear. This is a regular occurrence and I feel insulting to me.If what i like is for morons then ergo I am one.
This kind of behaviour also translates to food and our meals.He ridicules my effort to eat organic saying Its all a big con. Yet if i use any convenience food he calls it poison.
I feel that anything that does not align with his likes or preferences is just a target for put downs, insults or negative feedback. He does not accept or embrace any differences.
I am starting to feel a little attacked by his comments. AIBU

OP posts:
AmpleSwan · 05/04/2026 23:39

People like this are exhausting and egotistical. I would speak to him about it in strong terms explaining that he sucks the joy out of things and makes you feel belittled and that you consider it disrespectful. If he doesn't stop after that I would bin him. Life's to short to live with someone who never grew out of their fringe-flipping, NME worshipping, eye-rolling teens.

AutumnFroglets · 05/04/2026 23:42

https://www.thehotline.org/resources/what-is-emotional-abuse/

I would be rethinking my relationship if I was you.

Edit. For those who don't like clicking strange links, that one is from the National Domestic Violence website if you want to google directly.

ProfessorRedshoeblueshoe · 05/04/2026 23:42

He sounds vile.

ADHDandtakeaway · 05/04/2026 23:42

He sounds like a 12 year old. Why do men behave like this?

I think a lot of men are so misogynistic that they think anything that women like is by definition shit.

but the fact he’s your husband makes this behaviour bizarre. Are your interests particularly feminine?

it could be old fashioned sexism, or maybe he just dislikes you and this is his way of expressing it. Either way it’s not good.

does he show affection to you? Or any signs he likes you?

Malinia · 05/04/2026 23:43

He doesn't sound like he likes you. I would ditch him

RampantIvy · 05/04/2026 23:43

My BIL is like this. He was making rude comments today and I decided that he shouldn't get away with it so I nipped it in the bud.

WhereYouLeftIt · 05/04/2026 23:43

Why are you still with him? He despises you and everything about you.

Credittocress · 05/04/2026 23:47

Does he have positive points? Because from what you’ve written he sounds like a controlling and condescending arsehole.

ArduousAndTedious · 05/04/2026 23:48

Could he have autism?

I knew a boy with autism that sounds exactly like your DH. He had his likes and dislikes and anything else was absolutely garbage and wouldn’t hold back on saying so no matter who was offended.

Just a thought …

DallazMajor · 05/04/2026 23:50

Just chin him.

anon12345anon · 05/04/2026 23:54

What a cock...... he sounds tedious.....

You know partners are supposed to enhance your life??

Flowers for you x

Iwantabucketofsteam · 05/04/2026 23:54

Thank goodness you aren't married to this waste of oxygen.

Please take steps to get away from this abusive person as soon as you can.

You and your child need a better life than this.

WhereYouLeftIt · 05/04/2026 23:54

ArduousAndTedious · 05/04/2026 23:48

Could he have autism?

I knew a boy with autism that sounds exactly like your DH. He had his likes and dislikes and anything else was absolutely garbage and wouldn’t hold back on saying so no matter who was offended.

Just a thought …

Oh, FFS!

I am so sick of hearing people excuse appalling behaviour by claiming it's all down to neurodiversity. Very few people are ND. Lots of people are cunts. Occam's Razor!

whatawalley · 05/04/2026 23:59

DallazMajor · 05/04/2026 23:50

Just chin him.

This made me laugh.

HelenaWaiting · 06/04/2026 00:03

WhereYouLeftIt · 05/04/2026 23:54

Oh, FFS!

I am so sick of hearing people excuse appalling behaviour by claiming it's all down to neurodiversity. Very few people are ND. Lots of people are cunts. Occam's Razor!

This. 100% this.

Vaxtable · 06/04/2026 00:04

It’s not going to change so I would be leaving him

Temporaryname158 · 06/04/2026 00:05

I would leave him. What a mood Hoover and how controlling to think he can just walk ina nd turn off your music. I’d tell him to sling his hook

InterestedDad37 · 06/04/2026 00:30

Sounds like an arse. How come you're partners if you're so I'll-matched and he's so intransigent?

Gymnopedie · 06/04/2026 00:33

If you tell him how much you like him would he have to decide that he is crap too?

Worth a try. Next time he tells you everything you like is crap, tell him that as you like him - if the cap fits...

OlderGlaswegianLivingInDevon · 06/04/2026 00:35

Why are you together ?
You can do better.

Gymnopedie · 06/04/2026 00:35

but the fact he’s your husband makes this behaviour bizarre.

She calls him partner, not husband.

KimberleyClark · 06/04/2026 00:39

He sounds awful and like he doesn’t actually respect you. You can do a lot better.

CoastalCalm · 06/04/2026 00:39

Mine refers to my tv choices as ‘your shite’ and goes elsewhere while it’s one (or sits and secretly enjoys it) He prefers radio six to my radio 2 in the car but he wouldn’t dare switch over the radio in my car and doesn’t extend to things like food , it’s normal to like different things but it’s not normal to belittle or dominate like that

Pinkflamingo10 · 06/04/2026 00:56

Sounds like he sucks the life and soul out of every room he’s in
how can you stand it ?!

PivotPivotmakingmargaritas · 06/04/2026 01:03

And his good traits are?!?!?

He is not a partner - a partner supports and accepts you. He doesn’t even respect you. Raise your standards my dear and throw out the trash - him -

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