AIBU not to tell my colleague about her daughter's OnlyFans

[DallazMajor]

I found out via a friend that a colleagues daughter is selling explicit content on OF.

She is 19.

I think I should keep it to myself but my friend says we should tell my colleague.

AIBU to not tell.

edited to add that other colleagues already know and have been viewing the content.

I think it has nothing to do with you and you should keep well out of it.

I cannot imagine the conversation about how you and your friend discovered this "explicit" OF. account, to be honest.

Stay well out of it. If your colleague wants to tell that’s their business, but no good will come of it. You shouldn’t be discussing it between yourselves either

Butt out.

Keep to yourself. I'd tell you the same even if she was your best mate, but she's not, she's your work colleague. None of your business, unless you feel like causing a load of trouble for someone.

Absolutely do not tell her. Its nothing to do with you. Stay out of it.

For all you know she already knows about it and she probably won't thank you for gossiping and judging her daughter behind her back.

I think you should be talking to the 19 year old first if you can.

We were told and shown on a work social event.

How do you know she doesn’t already know. I’m more disgusted with your colleagues for sharing explicit content at work. In my job that would be gross misconduct.

As soon as someone mentioned it you should have left the conversation as inappropriate-you shouldn’t have stayed in the conversation long enough to be shown.

my friend says we should tell my colleague.

Probably translates to......
Your friend thinks you should tell your colleague.

If she wanted the colleague to know she'd have told her herself, leave it to her to do, then the messenger that gets shot won't be you.

Sounds like a horrible workplace, sharing a colleagues teenage child’s explicit images for gossip.

What do you want your colleague to do, confiscate her 19 year old daughters phone?

Gross. Delete from your memory and don't engage in another conversation about it.

Is the friend also a colleague or friend from elsewhere. If friend is colleague, I would tell the mom as a warning that this is being spread around the office. If it was a friend from elsewhere then I would keep my mouth shut and request that the friend wouldn't share it around.

Trust me I wasn’t happy about it. It was some much younger male colleagues who were drunk and very vocal. I didn’t intentionally involve myself it just got around the room. I only spoke to the younger male colleagues to tell them to shut up about it.

Stay out of it. How do you even know the mum doesn’t know just because she hasn’t told everyone doesn’t mean she doesn’t know.
Your colleague just wants you involved so she doesn’t get all the shit from telling her. If you want to tell her tell her her yourself on your own don’t tell her because someone else told you to

My friend thinks that I would be the best person to speak to the colleague because I am in friendlier terms with him.

he would be mortified if he knew that younger peers were looking at his daughter. I get that but I still don’t want to tell him because his daughter is after all a grown adult.

You are focusing on the wrong issue here.

The issue you should be focusing on is the need to report to HR the colleague who showed pornographic material at a work social, and about a colleague's (adult) child at that. That is what you should be reporting. That it where your focus should be. Its grossly inappropriate and unprofessional behaviour on multiple levels, by your colleague.

I am slightly stunned that you have missed this.

Are you sure that he doesn’t already know about it? He might already know and br deeply ashamed of what she’s doing. OF is so cringey! 19 and those pictures and videos will be out there forever. Of course people will laugh about it, I would be mortified if it was a relative of mine 😅

It only happened on Thursday evening. I feel really uncomfortable about the whole thing but yes you’re right.

Ugh re young blokes showing everyone. How did they know it's your colleague's daughter though?

What an awful position for you to be in.

I get why people are saying stay out of it and I don't really disagree, BUT, if it was my child, I'd want to know. That said, at 19, they're an adult, at least technically.

Because irs going around the office then someone needs to tell him I think. If it wasn’t basically an open secret already I’d suggest keeping out of it.

It’s awful that he’s probably unaware of this and all the gossiping. For colleagues to be watching and sharing this at a work even is disgusting too.

They know her.

In which cas you need a word with HR immediately.

There is no situation in which it's acceptable to share explicit porn to colleagues at a work social event. Doubly so when it's gossip about a colleague's family.