AIBU not to tell my colleague about her daughter's OnlyFans

[DallazMajor]

I found out via a friend that a colleagues daughter is selling explicit content on OF.

She is 19.

I think I should keep it to myself but my friend says we should tell my colleague.

AIBU to not tell.

edited to add that other colleagues already know and have been viewing the content.

OP, I'd get in there quick to report to HR.
If I were the parent of this girl and all my colleagues knew anyway, then I'd report them all for misconduct to HR. The parent has nothing to lose if you're all gossiping anyway.

Of course not, she’s an adult but still wouldn’t want her parents knowing.

I would be reporting the colleagues for their inappropriate conversations but would never tell the mum/dad.

Why would you tell them?
What do you think they’re going to do about it?

I'd report this, to management/ HR, and the fact people (men?) at work are viewing explicit content in the presence of colleagues and in relation to a colleague. It's really not appropriate behaviour.

If what she is doing is impacting the parent then they should know, i would want to. But the young guys sharing it are scum

Tbf the woman on OF knows full well it’s a free for all and is not private, so that’s the risk you take.

I've read this before but it was the colleague rather than her daughter.

It's not your news to share, it's up to her daughter. Throw in the embarrassment/awkwardness of it coming from work colleagues she has to see everyday (and she knows pay for content! And wondering which of them pay to view her daughter but not knowing) sounds like an absolute nightmare for her.

Teenage child? She's a woman of 19
Keep out of it. Its her business and her mother might actually know already

So how did that conversation go ? .so.i was looking at young girls online to masturbate to and there she was "toms" dd look here she is ! You absolutely should tell someone about this.

If it was my daughter I would want to know. Does the daughter live with your colleague ? 19 is still very young and I would not be happy if this was happening in my house.

Where on earth do you work??? This (the collesgue that is showing everyone the images) needs to be reported to HR asap.

Yes. This is what you should be doing

There's no concern for the 19yr old or the colleague.
It's just a bit of salicious gossip ..stay the fuck out of it.

100% this, straight to HR to say some male colleagues have been making totally inappropriate conversation and then sharing pornographic content (indirectly linked to a colleague) while at an actual work event. Ypu should definitely report as their behaviour is disgusting.

Well, I would have a discreet and gentle chat myself. How mortifying otherwise for him to discover he was the last to know. And he will find out.

^^ This.

I think a lot of the “report to HR” people must work for big companies. Most employers don’t have an “HR”.

This, 100%. It's appalling that these men were showing explicit photos at a work event. (Even worse that they were showing ones of a colleague's daughter, but it's something I would report regardless.)

Let HR make the decision as to whether to warn the colleague - that needs to be on them, not you.

Prob bought subscriptions. She is an adult. If she wants to monetize herself that up to her. Her parents might not be happy but if she is happy doing it that's ok. I presume you have to pay to view? HR might be asking why this material is being viewed.

As the saying goes; not your circus, not your monkeys.
Also, your friend a bit of a stirrer and your younger male colleges sound awful.

Say nothing.

I’ve named changed. You could be talking about my sd. We know. We know what she does. We know she’s been selling herself for a while and we are devastated. We’ve also been cut off several years for trying to stop her.
please don’t tell your colleague it’s likely he’s as embarrassed and upset as we are. But his daughter is an adult and is no reflection on his work

what an odd workplace environment and culture. Not to mention the gossiping on top.

tbh OP it doesn't put you in a positive light either.

After all, as a human you have free will to walk away from "being shown" and listening to people gossip. Awful

BUT, if it was my child, I'd want to know.

You might want to know, but that doesn’t mean you would - or should - have any right to know. Just because an adult happens to be someone you once gave birth to, that doesn’t mean they’re not allowed to keep things private from you.

Person who shows personal let alone Only Fans type of content should be fired by HR. What is HR doing and what a toxic workplace...