AIBU for blowing out my nephew’s birthday candles as a joke

[AliceNotInChains]

My nephews 6th birthday party yesterday. He was struggling to blow all the candles out so I jokingly blew the remaining ones out for him. My sister went on a full on strop over it saying I ruined his moment. AIBU to think she’s completely over reacting?? She ended up relighting the candles for him to “have another go” making it a much bigger deal than it needed to be.

how can you jokingly blow out candles?

can someone explain please?

did you help him out of kindness?

Well you we’re lucky

most 6 years olds would be in tears, the failure of not doing it and the wish wasted for a whole year !. Just offer encouragement next time

Give over. Some kids don’t get parties so we shouldn’t call out an attention seeking selfish adult who ruins the party for er own nephew? Pigs arse. Call out bad behaviour and clearly as the op thinks everything is about her then she deserves to be told off.

I mean that's hardly a surprise 🤔

I remember being 6. I used to take my time blowing out the candles so it would last longer, one of my sons did the same. My other 2 kids used to try and blow it out in one go..you where being a dick. It was your nephew's moment to blow them out in his own way, if it took too long for you then tough. The mother was right to have a go. Main character syndrome springs to mind. You know what, it's not always just about you.

Maybe I'm a little slow on the uptake, but OP can you please explain the joke? I don't get it.

I can understand why it didn't go down well.

You seem to be totally lacking in self-awareness and oblivious to how your actions impact on others, or might be perceived by others. But sure, you're right. You found it funny, so crack on.

I find a lot of these answers bizarre OP. I have been to lots of parties where the child has struggled to blow out the candles, so an adult has assisted them. Your DN laughed, so I can't see the problem. For your DSis to cause a scene about it isn't normal IME.

On that thread you had insisted on having the en suite because of IBS but repeatedly used the others' bathroom "just for a wee". So you didn't need to use it because of IBS therefore your health issue was irrelevant to the situation.

This. I don’t have kids so maybe I don’t get why this is such a big deal, but I’m taken aback by the anger in the comments. I would have assumed it was maybe at worst a bit of a silly thing to do

I’m sure a child has had plenty of “moments” in his life with lots still to come.

It was a bit of a bad move to make but he will get over it and hopefully forget it quickly.

If OP’s sister keeps making it into a drama he will continue to see it as big deal when candles could have just been lit a second time and it could have been framed that he got longer in the spotlight to blow them out again.

That’s a horrible thing to do.

You’ll have got the picture by now based on all of the replies. You clearly didn’t think about this being anything other than silly fun started by you, but to most people this is the behaviour of an adult taking a child’s spotlight on their 6th birthday and making a once-a-year moment about themselves. Relighting the candles so a child can it again is not the same. It’s a bit like a bride struggling to cut a wedding cake and a mother in law snatching the knife and taking over. Not your moment. Not your cake.

My niece “helped” me blow out the candles on my birthday cake a few weeks ago, is that a cardinal sin too?

I dont think you should have jumped into the limelight and taken over from your nephew. However you're insisting that you were "being helpful and nephew didn't mind" and that you did nothing wrong

And yet you started a thread about it .....I'm not sure you're capable of seeing yourself as others do

HTH

Are you 6 years old?

Unless your health condition causes spontaneous and uncontrollable puffs of air to erupt from your mouth in the vicinity of candles, it’s irrelevant 🙄

You were trying to wind your sister up and it’s backfired. Play stupid games, win stupid prizes.

What a mean thing to do. Do you struggle when the attention is on people other than you?

"Organised fun" is what a six-year-old's birthday celebration should be, really, isn't it?

@Mrspenguinsschoolforfreaks well, you're not a child, are you? It's a special moment for a kid. But even if it wasn't, no need for an adult to be barging in and taking over.

Wow, you sound like you have some issues! Stupid thing to do. You sound like you want everything to revolve around you, and yes I did see your other thread about the toilet. Yes you have a health problem but you also seem to have a “main character energy” problem. Grow up and stop being such a silly arse.

Imagine having MCS to the degree that you would do this at a child's birthday. Complete dick move. I hope your threads are made up because your entitled attitude is embarrassing.

You shouldn't have done that but I'm sure nobody thought you meant harm, it was just an instant reaction. Your sister has gone OTT about it. We all make mistakes.

Try to leave it behind now and enjoy the day. She'll get over it.

In what way was it supposed to be a joke? You must have a strange sense of humour to muscle in on a 6-year old’s birthday moment.

And I'm sure his mum's are too.....