AIBU for blowing out my nephew’s birthday candles as a joke

[AliceNotInChains]

My nephews 6th birthday party yesterday. He was struggling to blow all the candles out so I jokingly blew the remaining ones out for him. My sister went on a full on strop over it saying I ruined his moment. AIBU to think she’s completely over reacting?? She ended up relighting the candles for him to “have another go” making it a much bigger deal than it needed to be.

Have you always been this impatient and entitled? Are you OK?

I do think it’s interesting that you didn’t want to be there but somehow made it right in front of the cake at the most important moment of the party…

Can someone please link the 'toilet thread'
Sounds like it could be an interesting read!

"Organised fun"? OP it's pretty standard to have a cake with candles for a child to blow out on their birthday, there's nothing weird or excessive about that.

You shouldn't have blown them out, but since your nephew didn't mind your sister did also overreact a bit by making a fuss. Maybe if you have form for making things about yourself she's just had enough though.

I think maybe your sister is still pissed with you over the toilet issue and finds you a little hard work.

You insist that you must have your own toilet, therefore getting the ensuite which traditionally will be the nicer of the bedroom options (and no doubt not paying extra for the privilege). You then insist that no one can use that toilet however you can use any bathroom you wish.

Not a huge issue in the scheme of things but I get the impression that you bandy your medical issue like a badge - so people are playing you at your own game. You absolutely HAVE to have your ensuite, so they think "fair enough, we have given in.Use your bloody ensuite and leave our bathroom alone". But that's not acceptable to you - you can dictate terms but others can't.

So, your nephew is the centre of attention, it's his birthday party and his cake. Along you come and jump into his limelight. Again, not a huge issue in the scheme of things but I would imagine, to your sister its just another example of you making sure that you are the one seen and/or heard and maybe she just finds that rather tiresome?

I imagine there are many other incidences of this behaviour.

Just out of curiosity OP, what are your thoughts on eating biscuits on the shop floor as an employee. Yay or nay?

Let me guess - it's only a fucking biscuit 😂😂

Omg 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 I’m watching that one too!

i blow my son’s candles out but he can’t blow them out himself. I always give him a chance to blow himself but he just can’t do it. I wouldn’t blow another child’s candles out.

I mean a parent normally helps blow a child candles out if they are struggling but realising which poster this is why do you bother spending with her. You clearly don’t like your sister.

Im on your sisters side though.

You want a personal toilet only use that toilet. Don’t blow out other people’s candles unless your own child requiring help.

Not every event has to be all about you OP. To steal a 6 year old child's moment is awful.

What an attention seeking, twatty, selfish and mean think to do. Not even remotely funny

So because you've been told to get back in your box you're going to refuse to go to your nephew's next birthday party? Who's the six year old here?

Exactly.

@AliceNotInChains

What relevance are your health issues to you blowing out your nephew's birthday cake candles? Your health issues are nothing to do with this, so why on earth would anyone mention this?

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Sneering at a birthday party as "organised fun" is the sort of thing a thirteen-year-old would do. And blowing out a six-year-old's candles, and then complaining that his mum "had a strop" and relit them for him, and then saying you won't go his next birthday party... frankly, that sounds like the sort of thing a four-year-old would do.

Yeah that's a good idea, because most 6 year olds would be very upset.

🤯🤯🤯

She seems to make them habitually.

All of that!

If he was doing it as a joke (on HIS birthday) and people were laughing - why decide to end the joke? This does smack of jealousy that the spotlight was on your sister’s child OP.

Link please!

Oh it's you. Why am I not in the least bit surprised.

If he’d have been 16, it might have been funny. But for a 6 year old? Just no. 🙄

The same sort of person that demands sole use of an ensuite, begrudging even her DH using it, THEN has the audacity to use the other bathroom because the hallway is scary! So 3 other adults don't have a toilet to use.

Why make your drama hurt your nephew though? He’s done nothing to you and is just a child. Why would you not suck it up and celebrate his birthday.