AIBU for blowing out my nephew’s birthday candles as a joke

[AliceNotInChains]

My nephews 6th birthday party yesterday. He was struggling to blow all the candles out so I jokingly blew the remaining ones out for him. My sister went on a full on strop over it saying I ruined his moment. AIBU to think she’s completely over reacting?? She ended up relighting the candles for him to “have another go” making it a much bigger deal than it needed to be.

I don’t see how blowing out candles can be a ‘joke’ ? I don’t get it? What is the joke?

Total dick move - trying to make a 6 year olds moment all about you 🙄

The 'joke' (sic) is in pointing out that you think somebody is too useless to be able to even do a simple thing on their own; it's designed to show them up in front of everybody and to make you to look good.

No, I'm not getting it either - nasty to do to an adult; infinitely nastier to do to a 6yo child.

Bloody hell. Asks for their own toilet in a holiday rental and can’t understand why people get mad when you use the other one. Continues to use it even though they’ve asked you not to, multiple times.
Blows out the candles on a six year olds cake and can’t understand why his mum is pissed off. You seem to irritate people often and can’t understand why they get annoyed.

Sorry op that was a dick move .

The toilet one I felt you should use the main bathroom and the ensuite and they were being a bit mean to you.

Of course you shouldn’t have done that. Bloody hell.

Op, you are an arsehole. Hope that helps.

God, you're really horrible, aren't you?

This is such a Larry david move....

Are you one of those twats who thinks people’s head being shoved into cakes is funny as well?

You definitely give main character energy. Fucking exhausting.

Imagine being this sad and needy
god

You’re not coming off great in either of your recent posts OP. It’s giving the impression that you regularly act without any consideration for others.

That was a weird joke. Have you not been to a birthday party before? Even adults blow out their own candles, make the wish, blah blah blah

You say he found it funny.., but haven’t you ever as an adult (and especially as a child) been embarrassed or sad and tried to mask it by laughing when deep down that’s not how you feel? Take it on the chin that you messed up, maybe reach out to apologise to her and maybe start to reflect that perhaps it might be some of your behaviours that mean your sister is always annoyed.

For a start, that isn't joining in... That's ending it. And two...how narcissistic can you get. Someone else is getting some laughs, I best join in!!

It's a birthday party. Hard to hold one without organising it and yes, they are supposed to be fun, especially for children. If you object to birthday parties on principle then you shouldn't have been there and you should certainly never celebrate yours.

Im in my 40s and I'd be pissed now if anyone did that to me. Imagine being 6 years old and your own aunt treats you so poorly?!

I have just read her comments and thought the same thing!

She may have been to a birthday party before… but I doubt she’ll be invited to one again.

sadly I know someone like this so it’s possible is a real post. Some people really behave like this. Sometimes other people are related to them.

I think everyone that read your toilet thread understood that you have health issues which involve toilet access.

On that thread you explained that on a shared trip away with your DSis and others you requested the only bedroom with an en suite and insisted no-one else used it.

However, you were quite happy to use their shared bathroom loo as it was nearer the living room where you were all hanging out, to "avoid walking down the spooky corridor" to your room (ie nothing to do with your health issue).
You then got very indignant/pissed off when they told you not to use their bathroom, use your own.

Hardly fair.

Asshole move.

It wasn't a joke and you know it and so does everyone who was there.

Really ? Naaaaa

Your nephew may have laughed when you blew the candles out, but it was not a kind thing to do - poor judgement on your part - even if he did laugh. You sister clearly wanted him to have 'his moment' and you spoilt it for her and put yourself in his spotlight.

Sounds like you have a major problem with your sister - you talk about her as if you really detest her. Probably best if you avoid her for now. Don't worry about saying no to the next party invite - she probably won't invite you anyway! Not that you'll be bothered though I would imagine!

OP was literally shitting herself? I missed this, was this the other toilet thread?

I can’t believe how some wound up some posters are getting about this.
They are saying it’s a nasty thing to do but then OP has been called a bitch, twat, dick etc.
It’s a bit hypocritical to accuse someone of being horrible than to call them insulting names.

I know her nephew is a child but that doesn’t mean it’s ok to verbally attack someone, It’s not like she threw the cake in the bin, she blew out a couple of candles and it’s not going to cause psychological trauma for life.

I have lived in a country where kids could only dream of having a birthday party with presents and a cake. They don’t get upset over small disappointments and appreciative the smallest things in life.
OP’s nephew had a party and cake and I assume presents? I’m guessing he was mostly the centre of attention all day and could manage sharing it with his auntie for a few seconds to blow out some candles!
She made a bit of a faux pas that if it had been handled correctly could have been swiftly moved on from, the candles were relit so her nephew could blow them out again, she hadn’t ruined the rest of his life.

I expect I’ll get called names now for not joining in with the pile on and having a different point of view but I don’t think OP deserves the vitriol she’s had about something so insignificant.

Having a chronic health condition isn't a get of jail free card for being an insufferable twat
just FYI