AIBU for blowing out my nephew’s birthday candles as a joke

[AliceNotInChains]

My nephews 6th birthday party yesterday. He was struggling to blow all the candles out so I jokingly blew the remaining ones out for him. My sister went on a full on strop over it saying I ruined his moment. AIBU to think she’s completely over reacting?? She ended up relighting the candles for him to “have another go” making it a much bigger deal than it needed to be.

No it wasn’t about trying to piss off sister, she gets pissed off at every little thing so half the time it’s impossible not to piss her off so why bother trying

I don't think most people who have IBS find that an unavoidable symptom of it is spoiling young children's fun for no reason whatsoever.

It’s the sort of thing my sister would do, she likes everything to be about her. Especially at other people’s celebrations.

In short, stay away from other people’s toilets and birthday candles.

https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/5509502-aibu-to-use-main-bathroom-on-holiday-despite-en-suite

OP, def took it a step too far.
Pretending you're going to blow the candles out is a joke, actually doing it not so much.

My ex used to pull similar stunts. He thought that he was hilarious but he just looked like a sad lonely tool.

But this isn't about your sister and it isn't about you. It's about a young child having some of his joy on his own special day taken away from him.

Exactly, leave the 6 year old out of it.

Jokingly? That would be pretending you might (because it's outrageous) and then not actually doing.

The fact that you have health issues isn’t relevant because no one is mocking that. The point that you completely fail to grasp (yet again) is that you can’t snaffle the best bedroom and facilities for yourself and then also insist on using the one for everyone else too. On your last thread you couldn’t understand why you couldn’t use whatever bathroom you wanted while simultaneously insisting that no one - not even your DH - was allowed to use the en suite but you.

In this thread you’ve tacitly admitted that you blew out your 6 yr old nephew’s candles to annoy your sister.

The common theme in both your threads is that you seem utterly unable to see alternate (majority) views and are insistent that you’re completely in the right.

But you didn’t use the shared bathroom because of your IBS - you said it was for a wee only, because it was further to your en-suite which was accessed down a spooky corridor. And I haven’t ASed for that, it stuck in my mind because you couldn’t see why you were unreasonable to want to have your cake and eat it too. Or at least blow out the candles.

Probably because everywhere is shut, the weather is crap, and people are bored.😉

Wow, you came off incredibly badly in the toilet thread, which ultimately had nothing to do with your health condition and everything to do with the fact you are a drama llama, and here you go again.

Simple note for you @AliceNotInChains unless they are candles on a cake for YOU, you do not have any right to blow them out. The fact your nephew laughed simply means he has more manners at 6 than you as a grown ass adult.

What’s that got to do with it? Because of your health issues you were given what sounds like the best bedroom in the accommodation but then complained because everyone else said you couldn’t use the other toilet. You then had a strop because your personal toilet was down a spooky corridor.

Well reading just that situation and as it sounds like you both annoy each other, if everyone is laughing at the 6 Yr old birthday boy blowing out his candles and an adult decides to get in on the joke by blowing out the last two, it would feel a bit like pulling focus. Obviously not the done thing as you've seen, and not a crime against humanity either. Your sisters reaction shows she's annoyed by you though in relighting and "claiming" the moment back for your nephew on his birthday.

Because he was stunned .. embarrassed
Sounds like you wanted to be the centre of attention

I don’t think this is real but in case it is …

I wouldn’t have done it myself as it would upset the child. But it’s a tradition I hate - who’d want to eat cake that have kids’ spit all over it!?!?! Never understood it myself!!

Op you seem to like changing your story when people don't agree with you

On the toilet thread it was that the corridor was spooky, then it changed to health issues.

On this one it was a joke (and please do tell me what the joke is in blowing out a child's birthday candles?) and now it was helping him because he was struggling.

I think you sound like the issue, and you can't accept it.

Unless you asked him if he wanted you to help, YABU. Help is not help when its not wanted.

The aim in this instance isnt to have candles blown out as fast as possible but the birthday person to blow them themself.

Oh grow up. I have precisely the same health condition. She's not mocking your health condition: she's mocking the fact that you insisted that you should have the right to use all the facilities in the house when you already had the en suite to yourself.

I remember very well because I get anxious over toilet facilities when I'm away from home and I couldn't fathom your insistence on also using the facilities meant for other people.

Depend on how old you are.
If you are under 5yo then it is just possible you thought you were being helpful.
If you are 5 or over then you know you were being mean.

My sister blew out my candles on my 5th Birthday party. There is 1 picture of me crying when she did this. A very rare photo of me as a child. My parents hated me and that was my day. They didn't tell her off, She was always a manipulative, self-centres, bossy b*tch. I went no contact with my parents and sister 22 years ago - best thing I ever did.

I gave them all of the first 26years of my life and it wasn't enough - so I finally thought of me and cut them off. They spent the last 22 years slagging me off.

Anyway, you're a knob head for doing this. And to follow it up with "it was a joke" stuns me. Are you always like this??

He's a 6 year old kid your a grown adult.
No excuse for it op.

Attention seking at a child's party.

Do you need attention so badly that you’d stoop to blowing out a 6 year old’s birthday candles?