Child given money by "Vicar" at school

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So my 10 year old daughter (year 5) came home from school on Thursday and told us the Vicar (possibly just a trainee, I'm not entirely sure) who was taking their collective worship at school gave her £5 to "get herself an Easter treat" and that it was "just between me and you" I asked her if she told the teacher and she said no. I feel quite uneasy about this, should I say something to the school?

Sorry?

FFS do you not recognise a red flag when you see it ? How did any of the clergy manage to get kids on their own and groom them. What do you want - evidence the child has been abused before you act ?

Sorry what ? You’ve branded the child a liar when OP said nothing of the sort. She said she has questioned the child several times and she’s adamant that’s what happened. Also another child was a witness and it may have been caught on CCTV. If this man has nothing to hide, he has nothing to fear from an investigation does he ? If the child is telling the truth then at the very least he’s been very naive and needs a stern conversation about his behaviour.

She hasn't been abused - the OP hasn't even said how often this "vicar" has contact with the kids. This vicar or whoever they are has had no contact with the child alone at any point. And - the OP doesn't yet know that her daughters story is what actually happened

Yes. Do you think women can’t be abusers ?

The OP has said that her child has been caught out telling lies before. The OP hasn't said this was a man - sure someone pointed that out earlier

I'm not sure schools have CCTV. They certainly didn't when my mum was teaching

So what - you think she should just assume that her daughter is telling lies and not take it any further until there’s evidence of abuse. Are you seriously telling me that if a child of yours came home and told you a member of the clergy had given her money and told her to keep it just between them, it wouldn’t set any alarm bells ringing ?

Who gives a fig whether it’s a man or a woman. Do you think women can’t be abusers. What is the point of safeguarding our children and telling them to report anything like this to us if we’re not going to believe them ?

I don't have kids. Wise not to assume that everyone does

I'm not really interested in getting into a never ending argument tbh

This thread is just getting silly.
It's been running 4 days and it seems no-one has been able to ascertain who this individual is.
Surely we should have had an update by now and know what action has been taken ??

I think so. They've obviously not tracked down the vicar as the schools are currently off.

I thought the OP knew this person's name? Correct me if I'm wrong.

I thought they knew the school was C of E? So the local Anglican vicar should be able to advise, if not surely there is a safeguarding officer on duty ??

Even if she doesn’t surely the school will know ?

True

That's what I thought - it all seems a bit odd...

Not the impression I got from your posts. We safeguard children. We tell them to report anything amiss to us. What is the point if we’re going to disbelieve them and dismiss any concerns without at least investigating ? Because that’s what you seem to be suggesting.

Totally irrelevant.

Why did you mention if I had children then? If a child of mine came home. You posted that. Maybe you could consider that there are reasons some people don't have kids and say nothing

I'm not interested in your posts. I think you've said enough. Don't you. The OP has options. She can call police. Involve the NSPCC or email the safeguarding team which she has done

I didn't get the impression that she knew the name

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She knows their name and it will be C of E because it's a C of E school. Apparently this person sometimes does the services but it's also done by a couple of other people too so I'm not confident it's the actual Vicar, maybe a curate?

Which is exactly what I said - you were the one who said it was unnecessary because the child was a liar. Not engaging with this any more, it’s derailing the thread. Have a good day.

You're derailing it - not me. The mother said she had a history of telling lies. I didn't just pull that from thin air

No. If you read a post I made this morning I said that the NSPCC was an option. Hth