AIBU to be more attracted to men in their thirties?

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bluewednesdaysky · 30/03/2026 20:17

Am I unreasonable for being more attracted to younger men? When I say younger I mean early to mid 30's? I am late 40's and not looking for a relationship at all and if I were I probably would for pragmatic reasons prefer someone closer to my own age but if we are talking about who catches my eye its someone about 15 years younger than me. Younger woman at work thought this was outrageous of me!

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LetMeStayInBed · 31/03/2026 10:58

I met my partner when I was 48. He was 30. We are still together years later.

Ahsheeit · 31/03/2026 11:01

My last boyfriend was ten years younger than me and would get back with me in a heartbeat. My ex husband was 8 years younger. Just how it panned out rather than planned.

Now I'm 56 and have been single for a few years, I'm not interested in any of them 😁

Disturbia81 · 31/03/2026 11:02

20thCenturyFecks · 30/03/2026 20:20

Someone younger is probably more physically attractive. Whether they'd find someone nearly a generation older is another matter

Oh they do, and 20s. Since I’ve been in my 40s they’ve come at me from all ages, times have changed.

1990sMum · 31/03/2026 14:20

bluewednesdaysky · 31/03/2026 10:49

I'm not leering at younger men in the street or at work, I'm not actively pursuing them in real life or on the apps. I am not seeking a relationship at all. I was asked in work what type / age of men I find most attractive and I answered honestly that if a man catches my eye he's usually a fair bit younger than myself. I even say in my OP that if I were seeking a relationship I'd most likely seek one with someone much closer to my own age.

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Each to their own but personally I have never found someone you f enough to be my child attractive.

2Hot2Greedy · 31/03/2026 14:30

I'm 52, DH is 41 and we've been married for nearly 20 years. So I think you know what my opinion is, OP!

RollOnSunshine · 31/03/2026 14:52

1990sMum · 30/03/2026 20:53

If you were a man, everyone would say you're an old pervert....

Exactly!

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