To ask what you think of this typical food intake?

[ivyball]

This is what I’ve eaten over the last 7 days.
Does this seem like too much food to you or not a lot of food?
Female 5 foot 2.

Day 1

4 egg omelette with 2 pork chops and red pepper, sweet corn.
Snacks - half a 900g pack of cheddar cheese and half a 200g pack of mixed nuts spread out and picked on over the day.
5 cups decaf coffee.

Day 2

3 chicken thighs and 2 chicken legs with some veg.
Snacks - half a 900g pack of cheddar cheese and half a 200g pack of mixed nuts picked on throughout the day.
5 cups decaf coffee.

Day 3
4 egg omelette and pack of prawns, sweetcorn and spinach.
Snacks - half a 900g packet of cheddar cheese and half a 200g bag of Mixed nuts.
5 cups decaf coffee.

Day 4
Half a roast chicken picked at.
Snacks - half a packet of 900g cheese and half a packet of 200g nuts to pick throughout the day.
5 cups of decaf coffee.

Day 5
4 fried eggs, mushrooms, an avocado, tomatoes and bacon.
Snacks - half a pack of 900g cheddar cheese and half a packet of 200g mixed nuts.
5 cups decaf coffee.

Day 6
500g diced beef fried with red pepper and mushrooms.
Snacks - half a packet of 900g cheddar cheese and half a packet of 200g mixed nuts.
5 cups decaf coffee.

Day 7
1 Tin of tuna and salad.
Snacks - half a packet of 900g cheddar cheese and half packet of 200g mixed nuts.
1 bottle of white wine.

2 fillets of salmon with green beans, broccoli and red pepper.
Snacks - half a 900g packet of cheddar cheese and half a 200g packet of nuts.
5 cups of decaf coffee.
1 bottle of white wine.

I have used the term half a pack instead of (450g) cheese and 100g nuts because I thought people would be able to imagine a 900g block of cheese and 200g pack of nuts easier as that’s how they come.
Does this sound like too much food or not enough food please?
I typically eat one meal a day in the morning and pick on cheese and nuts sporadically for the rest of the day.
This is because I need to eat until I’m full or I will still feel hungry after so I eat a big main meal first thing as it works for me and I feel full.
The cheese and nuts are because of a craving for cheese. I love my cheese.

Op has not disclosed her weight, just that she is a large lady, so we can’t know if she meets the criteria for WLI

Agreed

she also said

I typically eat one meal a day in the morning and pick on cheese and nuts sporadically for the rest of the day

I’ve always just thought I had a great diet

I go to the fridge and crave cheese so it’s hard to come back with something else, then I fancy nuts which gives me the taste for more cheese

I probably have been in denial about which is why I wanted opinions for clarity, people have said things to me before and I’ve always just thought I had a great diet

My dad always ate loads of cheese, he’d sit at the table and cut slices all evening so I thought it ok

I thought my family were being ridiculous so I came to see what others thought.
I thought people were going to tell me I ate really healthy meals or that I should eat more because one meal a day isn’t enough

so why she then changed it to her husband buys it, doesn’t care and she binges for hours and hours, feels like an attempt to make it his fault. And not take personal responsibility

and a key part of this is taking personal responsibility for her own behaviour.

These days, there are a few online pharmacies who will offer WLI to people with a BMI of 25 or higher, and self describing as a larger lady would imply that the OP is at least overweight so a BMI of 25 or higher. So I don't think it's unreasonable to make the suggestion of WLI on the grounds that ivyball likely qualifies. The issue around WLI would be cost, as it's a significant financial commitment for a long period of time. And I'm not sure that ivyball wants to make that level of change at the moment.

The op is clearly obese. No 5 foot 2 sedentary woman can consume at this level for years and not be,

She would meet the criteria for private prescriptions. Its highly highly unlikely she isnt obese/morbidly obese

Keep his cheese in the car?! WTF?! And what, has a little knife and chopping board on the passenger seat to make his sandwiches?!

The OP has said herself that she goes to Aldi and buys it. She's just now trying to palm the blame off on her husband.

A friend of DHs is an alcoholic and when he came out of rehab, he announced that there must be no alcohol in the house to tempt him. His wife cleared out the drinks cupboard, binned all cans of beer, bottles of wine etc. I'll give you one guess as to what he did as soon as he fell of the wagon....

Whether she chooses WLI or consults a dietitian I agree with PP that the OP needs some help to reframe her eating habits and work out a healthy eating plan, which doesn’t involve one very large meal a day plus lots of cheese and nuts.
Although it would be relatively easy on paper to produce a meal plan, there’s clearly a lot of habits, disordered thinking and issues around food for OP that need support to change.
OP can you make a GP appointment or do you have any medical care through work that you can access?

@ivyball I agree, you definitely need to talk to your gp to get this under control.

It doesn't really matter who is buying The cheese - i should imagine its a mix of bith you and your husband. What does matter is how you start to cut back on it and change your eating habits to healthy ones.

Could you discuss different sandwich fillings with your husband? Explain that you need his support and it would be helpful to not have cheese in the house. If he refuses, I'd look at buying a cheese that I don't find as addictive and in much smaller packs. 300g cheese packs are available.

It sounds like you buy cheese daily. Do you drive to the shop regularly to stock up? If so, can you drive a different way so you avoid the shop? Are there ways to change your patterns to help with regular shopping trips? Maybe ordering food weekly would help. It helps me really see what I'm putting in my basket and I can easily remove anything I'm tempted.by.

Make a proper meal plan. 3 meals a day. Sounds like you like repetition, so perhaps start with the same breakfast every day, followed by soup/ salad for lunch and a simple tea. Don't try to overwhelm yourself, just doing the same for a few weeks and training yourself to eat 3 meals consistently is more important. You can then start to add variety as you go on.

On Instagram there are lots of meal planners, plus loads of dieticians who have great recipes and ideas. Find one who resonates and learn about the importance of fibre and a balanced diet.

But mainly, get help from your doctor and support from your family. It's a long, but good road ahead.

Honestly that is an insane amount of cheese to eat everyday, but it depends what your goals are? I also love cheese so I understand the craving, but nearly 500 grams of cheese is a lot!

Yes OP, you do need to be eating more food in terms of variety and actual meals. A block of cheese is not a meal, could you make a 'snack plate' that had a few bits of cheese but also apple, carrots, cucumer, hummus etc.
Plus other balanced meals you can find online.

I think she has an eating disorder.
She has said she thought we would say her diet is healthy and that she’s should eat more.
People with disordered eating do not meet the criteria for WLI

Who says that?

She'll apply to Boots or whoever she chooses, simply put in her weight and height, supply photos answer some questions and get a prescription.

She'll qualify and if she engages with the treatment it could well save her life

I suspect that even with might not work well. You can still eat on them, ans if she chooses to eat cheese then nothing really changes. Without significantly changing her diet, wli will only do so much.

Ps - im probably injections, just not sure they will change much in this case.

I love cheese but that it way too much cheese to be eating daily, you would be much better off having 3 balanced meals a day, you are eating a lot of calories just on cheese and nuts, you may not think you're eating a lot but what you are eating is very high in fat and calories and it will cause health issues long term

Yes but she has ADHD, well she is on the meds for it anyway although she hasnt specifically clarified despite me asking whether she has ADHD

And that causes issues with eating and impluses which the WLI are known to support as well
I suspect they would be very helpful, the research and stats around ADHD and food bear this out

Nuts are v healthy protein and good fats so I'd ignore people's comments about the nuts... It's sugar that is important to limit (not good fats) and it looks like you don't eat any sugary treats at all so well done 👏

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I lost a lot of weight by switching my donught habit for nuts....plus my skin glowed and my joint pain improved. Nuts are healthy fats. Good for you. It's refined carbs that are fattening not healthy fats

Large protein meal and protein snacks are healthy....it's not like she's eating bags of crisps and sweets and alcohol

Could you potentially just eat a second meal, so you get that full feeling you crave and then you won't fancy the cheese so much?

And to confirm, you eat your main meal for breakfast before driving to the office?

It seems the cheese is your biggest issue so if nuts make you want cheese, maybe cut the nuts out?

Ngl, your diet is basically 'if i could i would', other than the beef I'd rate it 10/10, but it is not clear to me if you are happy with it, is the goal to lose weight? Or just get your family of your back?

@EvieBB did you miss the bit where she's drinking two bottles of wine each weekend? And did you miss all the posts pointing out that 450g of cheese and 100g of nuts every day is around 1850 + 500 ish calories, so around 2350 calories per day just on that, before any other food is counted. That is not healthy.

Oh, and do not be shamed into giving up your bottle of wine, 2 bottles a week is not excessive. It is an empty 1.2k calories a week but it's not the problem here at all

I really wouldnt waste your breath.

Astounded by people suggesting WLI. Yes cheese is unhealthy in those amounts but WLIs are potentially damaging too and will not do anything to help OP’s disordered approach to food other than temporarily mask it.

They’re potentially life saving also!

If used well, they will reduce the food noise and allow OP to adjust her eating, give her space to make sensible choices and adjust her attitude to food.