Overreacting or not? 🤔

[silverstorm101]

Okay so I'm not sure if I'm just being silly or my feelings are justified so I'm sure you will all tell me!

For mother's day this year, I asked my hubby for a bunch of daffodils and any drawings or cards the kids wanted to do or make. We are saving up for a big family holiday so didn't want money spent on needless things and I love daffodils as they brighten up any room and can be found in Lidl for like £1.

Mothers day comes round and the kids come over with wrapped gifts, okay, maybe they wanted to get me a little something, sweet of them.

I got the usual pictures and hand made cards which I love. Then hubby walks in with a massive bunch of lily's, the price tag of £25 still on them. Don't get me wrong they are pretty but I dislike the smell but I get the gesture was nice.

I open the gifts that have been presented to me, first one is a bath set. I love a bath bomb which is well known but this was a 'Christmas Cinnamon' set. I hate the smell of cinnamon and it was obviously marked down with it being March. I'm not upset about it being a bargain but it's a smelly I've always hated. Anyway I smile and move on. The last gift hubby is really smug about, he says "do you remember when we went for that afternoon tea a while ago and you loved those strawberry macarons?"

Which I do of course remember, they were lovely but also very expensive. So I open the gifts to find a large box of macarons, bright yellow ones, I open the box and the smell of lemon instantly hits me. I do not like lemon flavour.

I say "Oh are these lemon!" To which he replies "I dunno I just asked for a box"

So I asked for a £1 bunch of flowers and instead he spent a lot of money we didn't have on things he should know I don't like?

I was a bit miffed and he obviously noticed and said he tried. We have been married 20 years.

So am I justified in being a bit upset?

Or do I need to grow up?

To expect a life partner to know your preferences after 20 years? No of course you aren’t being unreasonable

You like strawberry macaroons …he got lemon does he see you eating lemon cakes? If not then of course he is inconsiderate. The rest too…just mindless with no regard to who you are. It’s normal to find that upsetting

Yanbu. He’s just demonstrated he doesn’t listen to you

Sorry, but he obviously does not see you or listen to you

Or he would have got you what you asked for

Is he a bit controlling?

I don't get this. We don't have to set the bar so low for ourselves. If they've been together for 20 years and she really specifically asked for something then why did he ignore her?
He could have got her 20 bunches of daffs if he's wanted rather than 3 things she doesn't like.

YANBU

You specifically asked for something, he chose to ignore that and get you things you don’t even like.

You need to grow up!

So ungrateful.DH felt he couldnt just spend a £1!And OP seems to dislike so much,she must be difficult to buy for.

It’s not that difficult to buy some daffodils is it?

& a Christmas themed cinnamon bath set? Come on, that’s an atrocious Mother’s Day Gift.

& & asking for a box of macaroons but not even specifying which flavour to the cashier.

The bar is so fucking low.

Why do we treat grown ass men who are fathers like children? Surely they are capable of following instructions and putting real thought and effort into gifts for their wives?

YANBU I would hate this, it's inconsiderate of him and lacking in any real thoughtfulness. I don't understand the posters saying you should be grateful - why would you be grateful for things you actively dislike and you would expect him to know after 20 years of marriage.

What do you like the smell of ! Yabu and ungrateful.

Not forgetting that she doesn't like the smell of lillies either 😂