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To think people who say women's football & tennis isn't as skilled as men's because the men (or even untrained boys) would beat them are missing the point?

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Carla786 · 24/03/2026 06:49

I've been down a rabbit hole about the 1971 Mexico Women's World Cup, and it's got me interested in women's football now. I've always been interested in tennis. Anyway, it's struck me, reading MN threads, that a lot of posts seem to miss the point about physical strength differences between men and women.
Men obviously are able to kick/hit balls etc with more power, because of higher testosterone. It's incoherent to claim this makes women players 'less good'. Sports are generally an area where it doesn't make sense to compare women to men : the women's game should be judged on its own terms.

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randomchap · 24/03/2026 19:44

MagpiePi · 24/03/2026 19:05

I think women also have the advantage in ultra long distance races.

I read somewhere that one of the reasons that women can do better than men at long distance races is that it tends to be women who are at the top of their game who enter, so there will be relatively few of them entering a particular race, whereas you get many more men who are not at such a peak of fitness who enter the same race and then get beaten by the women, so it looks like women are better at long distances...or something like that.

This is a really good article on women's ultra distance running and the difference between the sexes

https://www.runnersworld.com/uk/news/a39393890/jasmin-paris-barkley-marathons/

The number of entrants is mentioned but not in the way you mention. More that there are too many barriers for women to enter

Are women better endurance athletes than men?

Jasmin Paris’s heroics at the Barkley Marathons highlight women’s potential over long distances. But we shouldn’t be blind to the physical and cultural barriers that remain, writes Sophie Power

https://www.runnersworld.com/uk/news/a39393890/jasmin-paris-barkley-marathons/

MandemChickenShop · 24/03/2026 20:13

MontyDong · 24/03/2026 07:32

I’d make a distinction between tennis and football here. Women’s tennis is just as skilful as men’s, if not more so- the fact that women are less strong means it’s a less a game about pure power.

Women’s football is a bit different, as it’s far less well funded and developed than the men’s game. This means that female players have received less training and for a shorter period. In terms of skill it reminds me more of the men’s game 40+ years ago- if you watch old matches you can see that it was played quite differently.. The current England men’s team would wipe the floor with the 1966 team, despite them having won the World Cup and our lot having won nothing. As time passes and more money goes int the women’s game, this difference will be lost.

I also think the women’s game would be better to watch if they played on slightly smaller pitches but that’s impractical.

This is true. Another example of the same point is if you compare adult woman's community football with, say, u12s -u16s girls grassroots, you will see that the current generation of girls coming through now are so much more technically able than their equivalents in the adult woman's game.

Carla786 · 24/03/2026 20:39

sashh · 24/03/2026 11:45

Sorry to nit pick but it isn't just the testosterone, it is the muscle mass, type of muscle, bone structure.

@Nosejobnelly does your husband agree with the FA's 50 year ban on women's football?

That's OK: agree with those things. They all stem from testosterone though- I think?

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Carla786 · 24/03/2026 20:41

NoSoupForU · 24/03/2026 12:09

I'm not a fan of women's football because the matches I've watched haven't matched the men's game for pace, skill, intensity or atmosphere. That's comparing the team I support and going to live games.

I think the actual infrastructure should be different in the women's game to reflect the physical differences between men and women. A smaller pitch and smaller goals, for example.

Tennis I don't think there's as stark a difference, but the matches for women are shorter than for men, which reflects the stamina difference.

I don't think the matches being shorter for tennis is due to stamina difference. That's an older rule when 5 sets were believed to be too strenuous, but it's debatable whether that's really true. They keep it that way now because of the structure.

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Carla786 · 24/03/2026 20:41

Helleofabore · 24/03/2026 13:47

Just pointing readers to this thread with the studies and papers detailing the physical advantages that male athletes have over female athletes.

www.mumsnet.com/talk/womens_rights/5142027-save-female-sports-evidence-thread?page=1

You are not wrong OP. Women and girls are most definitely not 'less skilled' just because some male athletes beat them in competition.

Thank you.

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Carla786 · 24/03/2026 20:44

Namingbaba · 24/03/2026 18:49

I agree that women’s sport should be judged on its own and not in comparison. Just like when you watch a lower league you can enjoy the game and the competition without it having to be at an elite male level. It can be hard not to compare sometimes though as men’s sports are so dominant.

Yes, I think that's a factor. Women who like tennis now often grew up with great female players being celebrated. Whereas women's football is newer (or at least the amount of coverage it gets is newer) so people compare more to the men's game they grew up supporting. Plus there's the emotional element to football which the Lionesses haven't had time to build up in the same way.

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ExtraOnions · 24/03/2026 20:46

Watching this match tonight, the standard of refereeing is a huge problem. I am a neutral, and this ref has made several dubious decisions

WearyAuldWumman · 24/03/2026 20:46

MustBeThursday · 24/03/2026 07:15

I feel like women’s footballers actually have to have more technical skill precisely because they can’t just boot the ball from one end of the pitch to the other. DH agrees.

My late husband used to say this. He also said that - in his opinion - there was less cheating and moaning in women's tournaments.

1000StrawberryLollies · 24/03/2026 20:46

I suppose it would be a bit like saying that a heavyweight boxer is inherently 'better' than a lightweight boxer, whereas in fact presumably there is no reason why a heavyweight would be any more skilled at boxing, but would likely still beat a lightweight. Disclaimer: I know absolutely nothing about boxing!

WearyAuldWumman · 24/03/2026 20:47

I'll add that one of our pupils captained the Scotland Under-18 team.

When he was signed by a club in the Scottish Premier League, one of the first things that they taught him was how to dive.

Carla786 · 24/03/2026 22:49

ShineBlueSky · 24/03/2026 18:20

I would say Ginger Rogers did everything her partner Fred Astaire did, but backwards and in high heels.

Ha, I love Ginger. I think to be fair though, many dance experts think technically he probably danced with better dancers (Rita Hayworth, Cyd Charisse, Eleanor Powell). Ginger was very good but probably not top tier. Imo what made Ginger special was that she was more of an all-rounder. She's great in non-dancing films (both comedy and drama) like The Major and the Minor or The Primrose Path, she won an acting Oscar for a reason.

Sorry, off-topic I know🤣- I love black and white films!

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GriseldaandMike · 24/03/2026 23:11

Uptightmumma · 24/03/2026 08:57

But this is minimising the levels. Smaller pitch. Smaller goals. Personally I just don’t think some sports are as entertaining - such as football when it’s women’s. I actually find women’s tennis’s much better to watch as it’s more about the skill and I would rather see the long rally’s etc.

I think if people want to compare male/female sports and the levels at which people can play should be based on sports which are all about skill such as darts; curling, pool, snooker etc.

Even then grater reach, bigger hand etc give subtle male advantage. That's before we get to the social differences and attitudes to boys/men playing sport vs girls/women.

It is apple v oranges. I enjoy a wide variety of sports and understand that usually the men's and women's versions are separated entities. Faster, harder, stronger doesn't necessarily mean 'better'. A male footballer can out jump a female one, he can get to the ball faster, kick it harder/further, beat her in 50/50 challenges but that doesn't make him a 'better' player, it makes him a bigger, stronger faster player.

GriseldaandMike · 24/03/2026 23:14

1000StrawberryLollies · 24/03/2026 20:46

I suppose it would be a bit like saying that a heavyweight boxer is inherently 'better' than a lightweight boxer, whereas in fact presumably there is no reason why a heavyweight would be any more skilled at boxing, but would likely still beat a lightweight. Disclaimer: I know absolutely nothing about boxing!

If the heavy weight could land a blow they would probably knock the light weight out cold. But the light weight would almost certainly be nimbler and faster so better at dodging the blows.

Carla786 · 24/03/2026 23:23

GriseldaandMike · 24/03/2026 23:11

Even then grater reach, bigger hand etc give subtle male advantage. That's before we get to the social differences and attitudes to boys/men playing sport vs girls/women.

It is apple v oranges. I enjoy a wide variety of sports and understand that usually the men's and women's versions are separated entities. Faster, harder, stronger doesn't necessarily mean 'better'. A male footballer can out jump a female one, he can get to the ball faster, kick it harder/further, beat her in 50/50 challenges but that doesn't make him a 'better' player, it makes him a bigger, stronger faster player.

This. I think if people see 'smaller pitch' etc and less physical strength as 'minimising the levels' it makes it hard to enjoy most female sports. It's about female strength & abilities, comparisons to male sport aren't relevant in that sense

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Arran2024 · 24/03/2026 23:25

My husband watches women's football - he has a season ticket for one of the premier league clubs. He used to watch the men's team but got fed up with the prima Donna attitudes, the constant sacking of managers, the dodgy finances...

Anyway, he says it's nowhere near the skill level of the men's game but he finds it more interesting and still competitive.

My brother prefers to watch women's golf. He finds it more realistic - he finds the men's tournaments boring.

It isn't for everyone but it is still intrinsically competitive, just as the Para Olympics or under 18s are competitive, even though men's events may be higher quality.

oviraptor21 · 25/03/2026 08:13

NoSoupForU · 24/03/2026 12:09

I'm not a fan of women's football because the matches I've watched haven't matched the men's game for pace, skill, intensity or atmosphere. That's comparing the team I support and going to live games.

I think the actual infrastructure should be different in the women's game to reflect the physical differences between men and women. A smaller pitch and smaller goals, for example.

Tennis I don't think there's as stark a difference, but the matches for women are shorter than for men, which reflects the stamina difference.

Really - they're 90% not shorter. It's only the grand slams (4) which are best of 5 for the men. The rest of the tour is best of 3 - so the year end finals, the Masters events, the 500s, the 250s and everything else below.

oviraptor21 · 25/03/2026 08:25

@gannett Watching Tatjana dismantle three of the best tennis players on the tour - all heavy hitters - was a delight!

Re. ultra endurance - the women are actually winning some of these events on a level playing field against the men. Women hold some of the records
https://www.livefortheoutdoors.com/trail-running/news/ultra-women-endurance-sports/

Women keep on beating men in ultra-endurance races – here's why

As the book Ultra Women by Lily Canter and Emma Wilkinson shows, more and more women are winning ultras. Why is that? Find out more.

https://www.livefortheoutdoors.com/trail-running/news/ultra-women-endurance-sports/

Helleofabore · 25/03/2026 08:44

Uptightmumma · 24/03/2026 08:57

But this is minimising the levels. Smaller pitch. Smaller goals. Personally I just don’t think some sports are as entertaining - such as football when it’s women’s. I actually find women’s tennis’s much better to watch as it’s more about the skill and I would rather see the long rally’s etc.

I think if people want to compare male/female sports and the levels at which people can play should be based on sports which are all about skill such as darts; curling, pool, snooker etc.

Pool and snooker- male people have advantage due to larger hands, and due to skeletal proportions have greater leverage, and with greater muscle mass and greater strength, including twitch muscles and grip strength, more power to hit balls at speed and with greater control. Plus they have a height advantage and greater stability due to hip alignment.

Darts and curling - similar to the above.

DuncinToffee · 25/03/2026 08:56

ExtraOnions · 24/03/2026 20:46

Watching this match tonight, the standard of refereeing is a huge problem. I am a neutral, and this ref has made several dubious decisions

And that is with VAR.

The WSL doesn't use VAR

InMySpareTime · 25/03/2026 09:15

Women’s Rugby is arguably better to watch than men’s Rugby, because the women’s flexibility makes scrums more successful (around half the scrums in the M6N collapsed), and there’s more passing, running and tactical play in the women’s game.
DH is converted to watching women’s rugby since COVID restrictions moved the W6N to after the M6N so it could be separately televised.
In Rugby, the men have become so bulky and muscle bound that a lot of their agility has been sacrificed, the women’s game is much more like the men’s used to be, and much less aggressive.

KimberleyClark · 25/03/2026 09:47

I enjoy watching women’s rugby. It is a different game though as women’s upper body strength is not comparable to men’s.

Re male rugby players being too muscle bound for agility, pint sized scrum halves still appear to be a thing!

MagpiePi · 25/03/2026 09:48

randomchap · 24/03/2026 19:44

This is a really good article on women's ultra distance running and the difference between the sexes

https://www.runnersworld.com/uk/news/a39393890/jasmin-paris-barkley-marathons/

The number of entrants is mentioned but not in the way you mention. More that there are too many barriers for women to enter

That's the article I was thinking about - thanks for finding it

CelticSilver · 25/03/2026 09:51

Sir Geoff Hurst was asked how he thought the England team of '66 would have fared against the Lionesses.

"I think we'd have won 1-0" he replied.

"Only 1-0?" questioned the reporter.

"Yes," said Geoff. "There's only me left now and I'm 83."

Carla786 · 25/03/2026 12:07

Helleofabore · 25/03/2026 08:44

Pool and snooker- male people have advantage due to larger hands, and due to skeletal proportions have greater leverage, and with greater muscle mass and greater strength, including twitch muscles and grip strength, more power to hit balls at speed and with greater control. Plus they have a height advantage and greater stability due to hip alignment.

Darts and curling - similar to the above.

Ah, that's a shame. I thought there would be some difference.

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Helleofabore · 25/03/2026 13:14

Carla786 · 25/03/2026 12:07

Ah, that's a shame. I thought there would be some difference.

Some difference? Or no difference?

Currently a male snooker or pool player, Haynes, has been legally challenging the English organisation's decision to exclude him. He has previously won female competitions. Look up Lynne Pinches to see what she has to say and how she has been treated.

There are male players in the european competitions and winning championships there too.

There is definitely a male advantage. Dr Emma Hilton gave evidence, I believe, to the first Haynes court case. He is now appealing that decision.