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To think people who say women's football & tennis isn't as skilled as men's because the men (or even untrained boys) would beat them are missing the point?

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Carla786 · 24/03/2026 06:49

I've been down a rabbit hole about the 1971 Mexico Women's World Cup, and it's got me interested in women's football now. I've always been interested in tennis. Anyway, it's struck me, reading MN threads, that a lot of posts seem to miss the point about physical strength differences between men and women.
Men obviously are able to kick/hit balls etc with more power, because of higher testosterone. It's incoherent to claim this makes women players 'less good'. Sports are generally an area where it doesn't make sense to compare women to men : the women's game should be judged on its own terms.

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Carla786 · 24/03/2026 08:27

Uptightmumma · 24/03/2026 08:19

They wouldn’t have. USA World Cup winning women’s team played the fc Dallas under 15 boys and got beat.
boys/men are just better at certain types of sport due to development, strength. Speed etc

Not better so much as playing a game designed for men's greater power. Whereas women's football isn't 'worse',,it's just played by people with different natural abilities.

A couple of intetesting articles on the pitch issue :

https://www.ucfb.ac.uk/news/in-focus-should-the-goal-and-pitch-size-be-made-smaller-in-womens-football/

https://www.thetimes.com/sport/football/article/shrinking-goals-and-pitches-could-improve-women-s-game-dr022ptrx?gaa_at=eafs&gaa_n=AWEtsqeoG-N8u61F_uo_SOHnavf8xaowY0NMoEvPDclWq61alADonwMW8k_ejeafRyQ%3D&gaa_ts=69c24be1&gaa_sig=4L8qepEuz5AAFKtiRW1c04dkQEe0u2ZmxC7CgL_2tFVexOEVdwLvPscCurr17UGSn2dnQwT4c1PZnJ5S_bnQfg%3D%3D

In Focus: Should the goal and pitch size be made smaller in women’s football? - UCFB

When Thailand lost 13-0 to the United States in the FIFA Women’s World Cup in 2019, it sparked global debates about whether goalpost and pitch sizes should be reduced in the women’s game. Emma Hayes, the hugely respected and admired manager of Chelsea...

https://www.ucfb.ac.uk/news/in-focus-should-the-goal-and-pitch-size-be-made-smaller-in-womens-football

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randomchap · 24/03/2026 08:31

The problem with making the pitch and goal smaller is that it reduces the number of pitches women and girls can play on.

Currently anyone can play on any pitch, changing that could limit women's opportunities.

Conversely having female only pitches could stop men/boys monopolising all the pitches.

Carla786 · 24/03/2026 08:36

randomchap · 24/03/2026 08:31

The problem with making the pitch and goal smaller is that it reduces the number of pitches women and girls can play on.

Currently anyone can play on any pitch, changing that could limit women's opportunities.

Conversely having female only pitches could stop men/boys monopolising all the pitches.

That's difficult.. but I think if the change would improve the game, it should ideally be made. Could more pitches be built...?

Good point re monopolising.

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dizzydizzydizzy · 24/03/2026 08:39

In the serve and volley days of tennis, I used to think that the top female players with more skilled than the male players. A lot of the men relied a lot on brute strength. I don’t think that is the case now.

DuncinToffee · 24/03/2026 08:44

Nosejobnelly · 24/03/2026 07:21

I speak to DH about this and he says it’s a much slower game so he gets bored (and he’s a massive footie fan).

I take it he doesn't watch a lot of womens sport then, as they are all 'slower'.

Women's football deserves the recognition on their own merit not as a comparison.

DuncinToffee · 24/03/2026 08:47

Carla786 · 24/03/2026 08:36

That's difficult.. but I think if the change would improve the game, it should ideally be made. Could more pitches be built...?

Good point re monopolising.

They looked at it and it would give the women sport a huge disadvantage.

Women's football needs investment. The FA banned it for so many years that it is still playing catch up.

Girasoli · 24/03/2026 08:54

Apart from the fact men/teen boys are bigger and stronger, also the fact that more boys play at grass roots level means that it's easier for them to improve/be put at the right level to be challenged.

When I watch DS1 do football training there's about 4 pitches full of boys, and 1 of girls - it means the boys can have an A and B team, and be separated better by age.

As well as gymnastics, I think women also have the advantage in ultra long distance races.

DuncinToffee · 24/03/2026 08:55

Uptightmumma · 24/03/2026 08:19

They wouldn’t have. USA World Cup winning women’s team played the fc Dallas under 15 boys and got beat.
boys/men are just better at certain types of sport due to development, strength. Speed etc

It is explained here

https://www.cbssports.com/soccer/news/a-dallas-fc-under-15-boys-squad-beat-the-u-s-womens-national-team-in-a-scrimmage/

Of course, this match against the academy team was very informal and should not be a major cause for alarm. The U.S. surely wasn’t going all out, with the main goal being to get some minutes on the pitch, build chemistry when it comes to moving the ball around, improve defensive shape and get ready for Russia.

They weren’t trying to beat the academy team, they were trying to improve their flaws, speed bing one of them.

Uptightmumma · 24/03/2026 08:57

But this is minimising the levels. Smaller pitch. Smaller goals. Personally I just don’t think some sports are as entertaining - such as football when it’s women’s. I actually find women’s tennis’s much better to watch as it’s more about the skill and I would rather see the long rally’s etc.

I think if people want to compare male/female sports and the levels at which people can play should be based on sports which are all about skill such as darts; curling, pool, snooker etc.

Wonderknicks · 24/03/2026 09:01

Tennis boring? It's really not (misses point entirely!)
I do struggle slightly with equal pay for tournaments for female tennis players. A 3 set match is not the same as a 5 setter in grand slams. I'm sure the women are fit enough for 5 set matches these days

Uptightmumma · 24/03/2026 09:02

DuncinToffee · 24/03/2026 08:55

It is explained here

https://www.cbssports.com/soccer/news/a-dallas-fc-under-15-boys-squad-beat-the-u-s-womens-national-team-in-a-scrimmage/

Of course, this match against the academy team was very informal and should not be a major cause for alarm. The U.S. surely wasn’t going all out, with the main goal being to get some minutes on the pitch, build chemistry when it comes to moving the ball around, improve defensive shape and get ready for Russia.

They weren’t trying to beat the academy team, they were trying to improve their flaws, speed bing one of them.

I understand it was an informal match etc but you can’t say that the senior women would have beaten the senior men - when in reality regardless of what it was they still got beat: they still should have beaten them.

it’s like when they do charity football matches the ex professional footballers come on the pitch and even though they are well passed there best they are are better than the celebrities playing and nearly always beat them.

MajesticWhine · 24/03/2026 09:06

Given more investment and encouragement is given to boys and men playing football then I think it’s no surprise if they do end up being more skilled. Or to put it better, there is a larger pool of skilled players to pick from. Same goes for cricket and rugby. Tennis is a bit different as has been a mainstream sport for girls / women for a lot longer.
I play tennis to a decent level and there are lots of men at my club who are hopeless. They have a huge powerful serve that occasionally goes in, but they can’t keep a rally. I have more fun playing with the older ladies than some of the men.

DuncinToffee · 24/03/2026 09:06

Uptightmumma · 24/03/2026 09:02

I understand it was an informal match etc but you can’t say that the senior women would have beaten the senior men - when in reality regardless of what it was they still got beat: they still should have beaten them.

it’s like when they do charity football matches the ex professional footballers come on the pitch and even though they are well passed there best they are are better than the celebrities playing and nearly always beat them.

Well no, I would never state that senior women would have beaten senior men. I was explaining why this example that keeps being trotted out is flawed.

domenica1 · 24/03/2026 09:09

Carla786 · 24/03/2026 08:01

Exactly - or more bluntly, because men have far higher testosterone so will win based on power.

Otoh it should be remembered that men don't beat women literally all the time. Otherwise Billie Jean King's challenge to Bobby Riggs would've been a failure.
I also find it irritating when people cite the Williams sisters losing against a German player in his 30s as proof that men would always beat them. They were teens , not at their peak yet : men probably would usually best them, but that match doesn't feel like quite a fair comparison.

I don’t really agree with your paraphrasing of Serena’s statement except in the broadest terms. Men’s strength and power means there is a lot more spin on the ball and play is consequently more strategic with more variety of shots. In the women’s game the ball travels faster but lacks the spin. It’s a lot more baseline to baseline. And consequently a less interesting game to watch. (The best of 3 in the women’s game also leads to fewer consistent results hence the great variety in the game at the top but that’s a different point).

CandyEnclosingInvisible · 24/03/2026 09:15

Pretty much all sport is won on a combination of skill, strength and experience. The whole reason for there being different divisions of competition including age classifications for younger players, a women's league, sometimes a veterans league, sometimes different weight classes and also paralympic versions is so that the skills of those with less strength or bodies that are less well-adapted to the particular sport get a chance to pit their skills and experience against those in a similar position without being overpowered by those with less skill but more strength, so that those with less experience can play with those at a similar level of experience, and those with plenty of skill and experience but who are past their peak of physical condition can still showcase their talent. There is absolutely no point having different divisions in any sport if the boundaries for who qualifies are not really rigorously enforced.

domenica1 · 24/03/2026 09:15

I should add, the “less interesting game to watch” is a commonly held view but of course people may disagree with it.

MoFadaCromulent · 24/03/2026 09:16

They're essentially different sports as the players and tactics adapt to the circumstances they face, what would to win in a match between two mens teams or male tennis players isn't necessarily going to translate for a women's team or female tennis player facing same sex opponents.

I also think the skill level in football is a bit of a red herring, otherwise nobody would support non-league teams or anyone outside the top 6.
What matters is emotional investment and that is grown by exposure.

There's countless games in La Liga or the bundesliga which are probably higher quality than Fulham vs wolves, but I'm ten times more likely to watch the English game as I've sunk 40 years in to the product and I'm up to date on the narratives and backstory of the teams and players so there'll be something there that gives the game stakes and jeopardy.

It's absolutely no coincidence that the women's game has so much more interest now that broadcasters and marketing departments have pushed the game and so people can relate to the team and care wether or not a player they can recognize and probably refer to by their first name wins a match as opposed to nameless English goalkeeper #254.

We've seen it over here with the league of Ireland, exposure and people investing in the game generates interest in a much greater way than an uplift in quality.

domenica1 · 24/03/2026 09:17

@MoFadaCromulent why the shade on Fulham, ninth in the table??!

Asdexpansion · 24/03/2026 09:20

I prefer women’s tennis to men’s as the women’s tennis relies on skill more. I don’t think much of women’s football. I think the way our bodies are built make us a lot less skilful at football.

MoFadaCromulent · 24/03/2026 09:21

domenica1 · 24/03/2026 09:17

@MoFadaCromulent why the shade on Fulham, ninth in the table??!

Their 0-0 with forest popped in to my head as a game I'd have never sat through if it was a mid table team against a relegation candidate in La Liga, yet because it was the PL I happily wasted 2 hours on it.

I subbed in Wolves as Forest seemed too interesting for my example given their season so far

MsSmartShoes · 24/03/2026 09:22

My mil thinks this - she truly believes that women shouldn’t be paid as much as sports men because they aren’t as strong. So what she is saying is that women should be penalised for their biology. She’s not very bright.

Choccyp1g · 24/03/2026 09:24

MontyDong · 24/03/2026 07:32

I’d make a distinction between tennis and football here. Women’s tennis is just as skilful as men’s, if not more so- the fact that women are less strong means it’s a less a game about pure power.

Women’s football is a bit different, as it’s far less well funded and developed than the men’s game. This means that female players have received less training and for a shorter period. In terms of skill it reminds me more of the men’s game 40+ years ago- if you watch old matches you can see that it was played quite differently.. The current England men’s team would wipe the floor with the 1966 team, despite them having won the World Cup and our lot having won nothing. As time passes and more money goes int the women’s game, this difference will be lost.

I also think the women’s game would be better to watch if they played on slightly smaller pitches but that’s impractical.

Why is it impractical to draw some lines inside the existing ones? They do it for doubles v singles tennis?

Ukefluke · 24/03/2026 09:26

SixSevenShutUp · 24/03/2026 07:30

Gosh, your husband has spoken. Must be like hearing the word of God, eh?!

No not god. A football fan has spoken and as those are overwhelmingly male and they generally find womens football too slow then its a valid point.

I would ask my husband about this topic as well given that he is the football watcher in this house. the rest of us dont watch and dont have an opinion.

randomchap · 24/03/2026 09:26

Choccyp1g · 24/03/2026 09:24

Why is it impractical to draw some lines inside the existing ones? They do it for doubles v singles tennis?

To shorten the pitch you would need to move the goalposts.

domenica1 · 24/03/2026 09:32

MontyDong · 24/03/2026 07:32

I’d make a distinction between tennis and football here. Women’s tennis is just as skilful as men’s, if not more so- the fact that women are less strong means it’s a less a game about pure power.

Women’s football is a bit different, as it’s far less well funded and developed than the men’s game. This means that female players have received less training and for a shorter period. In terms of skill it reminds me more of the men’s game 40+ years ago- if you watch old matches you can see that it was played quite differently.. The current England men’s team would wipe the floor with the 1966 team, despite them having won the World Cup and our lot having won nothing. As time passes and more money goes int the women’s game, this difference will be lost.

I also think the women’s game would be better to watch if they played on slightly smaller pitches but that’s impractical.

Re tennis in fact the opposite is true. Men’s greater strength means the game isn’t just about pure power, which (in my view) makes it more interesting to watch. Hence the oft quoted statistic that Sabalenka has the fastest forehand in the game etc. it’s not really surprising.