AIBU to expect neighbours to keep loud kids indoors before 9am?

[GreenSingingFrog]

New neighbours moved in recently a few doors down, and now the nice weather has started their 3 kids have been out in the garden each morning. It starts at 7.30am and they’re very loud and scream constantly.

I don’t mind on a weekday, but it’s the same time at the weekend too. It’s waking us up and we’re not even next door so must be worse for those closer.

We didn’t let ours out until about 9am at least at the weekend and I’ve brought them inside on occasion when they’ve been arguing and screaming, to sort it out without disturbing everyone around.

AIBU to think they shouldn’t let the kids out until more like 9am if they’re going to be screaming continuously?

I’m so sorry that you had to endure being driven out of your home by this behaviour. Why are some people so bloody selfish?

We need local authorities in this country to do something about loud and inconsiderate neighbours, so people can have quiet enjoyment in their home. In Germany it is illegal to use a washing machine, a vacuum cleaner or mow your lawn on a Sunday. Why can't we have something like that here?

Children don't need to scream. As children we would be brought in of we screamed.

9am is quite late in the morning though. I'd let them out earlier, maybe 8:30 if people could hear them ( we don't have neighbours so it doesn't matter).

I keep DS in until about 8:30 at the weekends. There wouldn't be screaming after that but he's not that quiet either. Is 9 more socially acceptable?

Well no-one should be screaming full stop. I’ve always lived in areas with children living in close proximity (and have my own child!) and have never had to tolerate screaming.

But I’d think 8am is reasonable for normal children noise. 9am is quite late.

Hope we have spider poo and washing being darked on, a long thread about flannels, a snobby neighbour asking other neighbours to remain in their houses in complete silence whilst a garden party takes place, washing being out offending neighbours and some good old fashioned summer wedding drama.

It's possible for children to learn to play quietly you know! They can have a lot of fun without the continuous screeching, and it's good for them to learn early on that they need to be respectful of other people.

Exactly. Society will fall apart if people are unable to show basic consideration to others.

You honestly think hearing kids screaming, shouting and arguing outside is wonderful? I call bullsh*t 🤣

I like hearing dc play but new neighbours have moved in 2 doors away and I think they operate a nursery from their house. I'm not looking forward to the noise in the summer as it was bad enough the other day when I hung the clothes out!

If he gets up early he probably goes to bed early, I’d let him have it as soon as he was in bed.

We have a 10am rule on weekends because we know people like to have a lie-in, especially on a Sunday. I’m mindful of neighbours without children really, even though I know our NDN who don’t have children have dogs and are out at 6.30am with them every day (their dogs yap as they leave so I hear it). Still just think it’s better to not potentially irritate anyone.

Isn’t there Saturday morning telly anymore?

In a much better area now, but the house we moved from had a lot of work pjt into it inside and the garden had to be done, only there for 2 1/2 years

this house is similar needs a lot of work done to it, but is out of the way and not many people will love here

I've just said to DH, roll on summer when we shall be loud in the garden at 9pm! 😂

I do think they are being unreasonable! Maybe pop a note through their door so they are aware it's waking you. I know my kids are loud but honestly it becomes background noise and sometimes you forget how that level of noise sounds to others who aren't used to it!

We generally had a 9am rule. Terraced houses, gardens back to back - there's always going to be noise in summer months but most people seemed to try and keep it after 9am.

My daughter did go in the garden before that time in summer to play with the rabbits, but she would be sent in if she made noise at that time.

YANBU at all! Before 9am is totally unreasonable on their part. For the people saying it's hard when kids are up at 5, I also think getting up at 5 is mad, that's the middle of the night, mine weren't allowed out of bed til 7 at the earliest on weekends.

Come on! Really? You would shout at 7.30 am? Of course it’s nice for kids to play, but they need to be courteous too

Why should she close her window? And swelter inside when it’s hot?? Is that really a serious suggestion?

Children can enjoy their garden without screaming. If they scream, bring them inside. And you close your windows to stop the screams getting out!

Adults have a right to enjoy their own gardens without being subjected to this particular form of torture.

To be honest, I have not received one complaint from my neighbours. When my children play, there is normal noise but no screaming (maybe after an injury). Constant screaming might be a safe guarding concern. I haven't heard the screams the Op is discussing.

In my old neighbourhood, I used to close my window when downstairs neighbour went out to smoke. It is called taking actions on what I can control.

Op can also contact the council and the parents. Letting them know the level of noise is unacceptable. See what happens. Other than that, I don't know what can be done.

If children playing in their garden loudly really affects you to the extent that it influences the enjoyment of your entire summer then you sound really fucking miserable 😂.

Planning conditions usually permit construction work from 7.30am so I would assume children have the same conditions. Where I live in rural Ireland anyone who isn't a farmer up before 7.30am would be because they were sneaking their overnight partner out before anyone else was up. Farmers, of course, know.

Rabbits are great family pets but playing with them isn't noisy.

9am? Wow, you sleep until late.