AIBU to expect neighbours to keep loud kids indoors before 9am?

[GreenSingingFrog]

New neighbours moved in recently a few doors down, and now the nice weather has started their 3 kids have been out in the garden each morning. It starts at 7.30am and they’re very loud and scream constantly.

I don’t mind on a weekday, but it’s the same time at the weekend too. It’s waking us up and we’re not even next door so must be worse for those closer.

We didn’t let ours out until about 9am at least at the weekend and I’ve brought them inside on occasion when they’ve been arguing and screaming, to sort it out without disturbing everyone around.

AIBU to think they shouldn’t let the kids out until more like 9am if they’re going to be screaming continuously?

This.

But I didn't let my son outside before 10am on a Sunday.

I now have two neighbours with young daughters and they like to scream. Fortunately not early in the morning but they get home from school and it starts. Just why.

Yanbu, OP.

I can't disagree more with those saying you should close your window or get better double glazing. That continuous loud screaming gets through everything. It shouldn't be normalised!

For those not aware we aren't talking a short scream here. It can be non stop like a car alarm!

I love hearing kids playing out in their gardens however when ours were younger they didn’t go out the garden until at least 9am as I have respect for my neighbours.

one of our neighbours allow their kids to kick the ball off the fence between our garden and ours it’s so bloody annoying listening to a continuing thud off of the fence.

Ah you can tell the suns out. All we need now is a smoking thread and the nice weather is definitely here

Errrrm, i'm quite sure there "is a way round" allowing your dc to "scream".
It's called parenting 😂

There’s laughing and playing. Then there’s screaming. And screamers shouldn’t be screaming and disturbing people. Height of selfishness to allow them to do it without boundaries.

I think 8am onwards is fine

We put in lease no antisocial behaviour which upsets neighbours. One way eviction is still possible after RRA is antisocial behaviour. Constant screaming is antisocial behaviour.

Decent people keep children in and quiet before 9am at the weekend, out of basic respect for their neighbours.
Yanbu.

I had to ask the woman across the road to use her front door instead of her side gate when she walked her dog at 5am waking me up every morning. It is a big enough gate to let a car into their property & scrapes across the driveway until it's fully open, not like it was just enough to let her & the dog go out.

she asked if the dog barking didn't wake me up anyway 🤣🙇🏻‍♀️ not in a concerned way. More of a 'why does it matter if I'm noisy if my dog wakes you up anyway' kind of way.

I said yes, he does, but me asking him not to bark was highly unlikely to change anything

🙄🙄🙄

she did start taking him out the front door though.

@GreenSingingFrog

YANBU.

I have people over the back fence diagonally who have a pool, several noisy children of their own who squabble a lot & LOTS of friends. Their garden seems to be THE centre of all activity! It's started already
for the summer, the other week. as soon as it stopped raining they had a huge BBQ & several since & today they've had another with people in the pool (must cost a fortune to heat!!)

Mostly I enjoy hearing them all having a great time, but when the kids are just screaming I sometimes get a bit fed up. Luckily they don't seem to be morning people!!

I don't think anytime is ok for kids to be screaming. Playing, laughing - all good, but not screaming.

We leave our washing out overnight all year. Sometimes it's the only way to catch a dry spell! 🙈😬🤣

Nope???

you're being unbearable.

thank god I don't live next to you.

Kids should not scream at any time of day unless they have been seriously injured, in which case their parents should take them to the hospital.

Its not kids we have trouble with. Its gobby neighbours who seem to live their entire life, phone calls, dramas and all, out the back 🙄 its like a really budget version of Eastenders but with the swearing thrown in.

I’d ask them to keep the kids in until 8.30.

My neighbour was out huffing at kids at 8am the other day. Bit rich as she lets her fucking mutt bark every night at 1am in the garden.

@GreenSingingFrog just close your windows and don't mention it to your new neighbours. It's so much easier that way. It won't be forever but you all living next to each other may be, so you'll want to keep on friendly terms for a long and peaceful life.

There’s absolutely no need for continuous screaming at any age.

Here we go again. You forgot to say that the OP should move to a detached house with no neighbours if she doesn’t like the feral brats in the neighbourhood screaming and shouting outside.

I mean no-one should be really doing anything before 9am on a weekend which is likely to create a lot of noise and disturb neighbours! But some people are inconsiderate- this is why I live in a detached with wide space between homes - it would particularly annoy me hearing screaming kids at 7:30 though !

The only acceptable time for screaming or shouting is during an emergency at any time.

Ive raised mine that I don’t want to hear it so why would our neighbours. Thankfully our neighbours have the same attitude.

play fine. Laugh fine. But that high pitched noise for no reason no. Shouting for no reason no.

I think it's important your DS gets out if it helps him 👍🏻💕even if he squeals at things, it's not the same as NT children screaming. To me, you taking your DS out early in the morning, is no different to a baby crying or a toddler having a tantrum. It's life life going on around us.

Obviously you do what you can to teach him (&DD) that actually just screaming for no reason isn't acceptable.

The kids around here sometimes just stand in the middle of our road & scream, seeing who can be the loudest, last the longest & challenge groups to compete, they're at senior school so should know better really. They do it here as one of the houses has been converted to a corner shop where they all gather. A couple of hundred yards down the road there's a play park & several fields & Football pitches, but do they go down there to scream? Do they fuck.

the people that own the shop are nice people, but honestly, I do wish they'd never got planning permission to convert the house to a shop! 🙇🏻‍♀️

oh & yeah, I go through phases of insomnia where I barely get to sleep before 7.39 & phases where I'm up at 3-5am. So 7.30 can be exceedingly early or half way through the bloody day! But I think, at the weekend, for MOST people it's very early, 🤣🙇🏻‍♀️

I mean no offence but to the neighbour being woken or disturbed a child being or sen or not doesn’t change the fact that the noise is disturbing them.

A baby will hopefully grow out of waking at 2am crying and you’ll be counting down as much as the parent’s but still hoping they will take the baby to a room that doesn’t disturb others. However honestly a sen or poorly parented child there is no rest bite, parent or not just noise for noise sake that disrupts your life.

It could be a child screaming or a dog barking all just long term annoyance and disruption.

Neither change the fact you end up living on edge permanently.

I know the Mumsnet answer is move to the middle of nowhere if you expect silence but nearly nobody expects silence just considerate neighbours.

Yet nobody says those making the noise should move, or shut their windows, or not go outside, or wear something to counteract the noise. Only those suffering.

I had the same issue last year, I moved house after 7 months of it

the parent was sending them out to playin the garden in -5 or 30c+