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Love at first sight (but he is taken!)

27 replies

DrMickhead · 19/03/2026 20:20

this afternoon I met the most beautiful chap. He was large, well groomed, very polite, blonde and handsome. However he happened to have a very pretty and pleasant lady out with him. But I still couldn’t resist, I thought, maybe shes a friend or something? So I shot my shot and asked if he was in the area often. No, sadly not, visiting, I’d have probably noticed him around before. But we had a terrific interaction regardless of her. (I am still a bit jealous!)
And here I am still thinking about him. I am smitten, lying on the couch as I type this, thinking about how cosy he would look snuggling up to me on the sofa.

Anyone else ever fallen for a very happily taken fellow?
I’m going to spend this evening researching golden retrievers. I can’t believe how lovely he was. I might have to seriously consider finding a more local one that might fancy going for a walk with me.

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UnhappyHobbit · 19/03/2026 20:37

I typed a reply trying to kindly encourage you to stop approaching random men and making their partner feel weird and then the penny dropped that you are talking about a dog!

ZenNudist · 19/03/2026 20:40

😀

lululu99 · 19/03/2026 20:42

You had me for a moment there! 😂

Randomlygeneratedname · 19/03/2026 20:44

Omg it's a dog 🤣🤣 no op, YANBU and yes, I too have found myself in these sorts of triangles many times.

5128gap · 19/03/2026 20:51

If its any comfort you'll have dodged a bullet. A looker like that would be a hard dog to keep on the porch as they say.

APatternGrammar · 19/03/2026 20:53

My nephew is a golden retriever and he‘s a complete delight. Go for it.

Notkatie · 19/03/2026 20:54

This is the God you’ve been looking for and he doesn’t even care …

Libre2 · 19/03/2026 20:56

If you are going for a type like that you need to form a love affair with a hoover also…just saying.

Notkatie · 19/03/2026 20:57

God…

cadburyegg · 19/03/2026 20:57

I vote to snatch him away

Chiefangel · 19/03/2026 20:59

No steer clear, they are so flirty and everyone adores them.

CallingOnTheMegaphone · 19/03/2026 21:00

APatternGrammar · 19/03/2026 20:53

My nephew is a golden retriever and he‘s a complete delight. Go for it.

No hon, your sibling's pet is a golden retriever. Jesus.

oneofakindmultipack · 19/03/2026 21:04

I was indignant on behalf of 'his woman' until the big reveal at the end. 😅 YADNBU, though. They're beautiful dogs.

GlasgowGal2014 · 19/03/2026 21:11

CallingOnTheMegaphone · 19/03/2026 21:00

No hon, your sibling's pet is a golden retriever. Jesus.

Thank you for clarifying that! I had no idea what they were talking about 😂

DrMickhead · 19/03/2026 21:13

Im glad I fooled someone! When I got home I shouted to DH “I've fallen in love” and he shouted downstairs “was it a border collie again” so it seems I’ve form for this.

Oh he was lovely, he even smelt nice and clean which is rare for a long haired dog. We’re cat sitting soon which I am very excited for. Pets are very much like other people’s babies for me, I love spending time with them but also love knowing that they’re going back before they become too much hard work 😁

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DrMickhead · 19/03/2026 21:15

oneofakindmultipack · 19/03/2026 21:04

I was indignant on behalf of 'his woman' until the big reveal at the end. 😅 YADNBU, though. They're beautiful dogs.

She was lovely! I might still be jealous of her but I think he is a very spoilt and loved chap so I can cope with my envy!

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BeeHive909 · 19/03/2026 21:15

Aww I bet he would give the most amazing cuddles too. Sadly he might snore or drool so that’s a negative to think about 😉

MasterBeth · 19/03/2026 21:16

Have you seen Last One Laughing, OP? You should be on the next series with your rapier wit.

DrMickhead · 19/03/2026 21:19

MasterBeth · 19/03/2026 21:16

Have you seen Last One Laughing, OP? You should be on the next series with your rapier wit.

I haven’t heard of it but I will check it out, thanks!

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Toober · 19/03/2026 21:30

I fall in love with most dogs I meet so yes, I know exactly what you're talking about😁

DierdreDaphne · 19/03/2026 21:38

Libre2 · 19/03/2026 20:56

If you are going for a type like that you need to form a love affair with a hoover also…just saying.

😂

IsItTheBlackOneOrTheRedOne · 19/03/2026 21:39

Isn’t it ironic? Grin

Rowrowrowmachine · 19/03/2026 21:43

I am totally smitten with dogs but I'm allergic. So I scruffle them on the head for a bit IF they're irresistible. Then suffer for a while with allergies but it's always worth it!

I know my type, curly hair, fun and big eyes. Usually blonde

LittleSoo · 19/03/2026 21:46

I knew this would be a dog 🤣

My husband comes home sometimes and tells me he's seen his girlfriend on his walk home..she's a cat that comes running to him for a cuddle in the street

MooseBeTimeForSnow · 19/03/2026 21:48

I have just spent three days on a training course where one of the other participants brought along a guide dog puppy she was training. My goodness, she was adorable.