To think male posters get a hard time on MN?

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Just an observation. Whenever there’s a comment on a thread or a thread started by a man it seems to be viewed with suspicion or the poster gets a hard time/is always disagreed with etc. It seems some MNers are pretty hostile towards men on the site. Made me wonder, what do you think of men who post on here?

And that’s equally shit and equally predictable.

Single sex forums always tend to have core groups of people who are pretty cuntish about the opposite sex, in my experience.

But blanket judgements are based on posters experiences and that is all we are sharing.

Mm. I'm never convinced by the male perspective thing on here tbh. If women are having a chat about men, you'll get lots of us all chipping in from a collectively very large experience of men. Of raising them, working with them, living with them. We identify patterns that may resonate with each other.
Then up pops Colin with 'the male perspective' and that's supposed to be the definitive. When in reality Colin only has Colins perspective. And just because Colin doesn't want sex because he's 57, his verrucas playing up and he's got a nasty meeting in Doncaster in the morning, doesn't help the OP to understand why her husband doesn't want sex. (Unless she's married to Colin.)
The man seeking advice from women is obviously not going to hear exactly how his wife feels either, but he will get the views of a lot of women and odds are something might fit.

MN HQ are adamant that Mumsnet is open to all. I think 20+% of users are men. There is a myth promoted by some posters that it is for women only. Not true

https://www.mumsnet.com/i/netiquette

Note it says open to ALL. Posters who are persistently anti men should be reported.

'Then up pops Colin with 'the male perspective' and that's supposed to be the definitive. When in reality Colin only has Colins perspective. And just because Colin doesn't want sex because he's 57, his verrucas playing up and he's got a nasty meeting in Doncaster in the morning, doesn't help the OP to understand why her husband doesn't want sex. (Unless she's married to Colin'

Yes I do think a whole load of women's experiences are far more valid than the odd bloke's.

Latest stats from AI -
Based on recent traffic analysis, Mumsnet's audience consists of approximately 27.2% male users, while 72.8% are female.
While the platform is primarily targeted towards parents and is popular among women, the user base is not exclusively female, with men making up over a quarter of the audience in 2026 data.

So a quarter of all users are male. Just as many posters are not mothers. MN is a broad and open church available for all to post and contribute.

We like men! I'm married to one and my df is one.

Male posters just need to try not to patronise on here and if they do we'll point it out.

I wonder which boards are most frequented?

I agree, it would be a terrible world and a sad website if we restricted users to one sex.
Some posters need to remember, in the words of @Gloriia , MN users like men!

Rapists, Child Abusers, Domestic Abusers, Violent Criminals, Drug Dealers. Murderers, Muggers etc … it’s majority Men every time.

97% of young women sexually harrassed
71% of women of all ages harrassed
25% of adult women sexually assaulted

That’s why men get a hard time…

Yes wirh the caveat of not mansplaining which some cannot help. Some TRAs on fwr sex and gender can be very unpleasant too although they do get swiftly dealt with by mnhq.
They are handy for male perspectives obviously but tbh it's stuff we could all predict anyway eg relationship wise.

Would it really be a terrible and sad world if one website was limited to one sex? @Seedlingsparrow I think it would be ok.

i also think you have to be a certain sort of male to have the time and take the time to browse Mumsnet and take even more time to offer your opinion. And to think your opinion is worth sharing. Ironically that tends to correlate quite strongly with the type of person other Mumsnet users and not fussed about hearing their opinion.

I met my male partner on here so I’m probably biased. But MOST men are perfectly nice decent people. 👍

I’d prefer it if the site was women only but appreciate that would be impossible to enforce.

Yep, I was also going to add ‘and the mothers of males’. (Who also get trashed whether posting directly on here or being complained about)

Exactly

@KarmenPQZ . There are some websites restricted to female posters but they are not very successful and tend to be limited to work and networking. There have been some female only spaces but the main one, Wing, closed because of lack of support.
However, MNHQ is very definite in its mission statement that they are open to all users regardless of the sex of the poster. If some posters want a female only forum, that copies the MN's profile, they need to start their own. I am always surprised that some posters who are very hostile to men being members of MN, don't start their own parenting website.

I don't think it is equally shit, actually, especially if you look at my earlier post giving further context.

A quarter of MN users are men? Fuck.

There's been so many threads about how MN isn’t as supportive as it once was, how replies are more combative and harsh, etc - maybe that’s because more and more posters are male?

The misandry on this site is shockingly sad. Whenever I stick up for a man on here by a downtrodden wife, i get accused of

1. Being male
2. Being a misogynist
3. Being a C#&t

Now I know there are a few horrible men out there (i've encountered them) but on this site in particular the misandry is of the scale.

If you defend men with downtrodden wives then probably people are going to suspect your motives. Why would you want to defend a man with a downtrodden wife?
Do you have a link to the posts you're referring to for point 3? I find it very hard to believe you're getting called that on the regular just for politely voicing an opinion.

You stick up for men with downtrodden wives?

It's funny, because I've offended and enraged a lot of people on here, and been called a number of things, but nobody has ever accused me of being a man.

You can often tell although obviously not always. I definitely have no time for 'as a man' interjections where men argue down women's lived experiences when it comes to men, relationships and social sex dynamics. Men trying to hold forth can fuck off. But then I've no time for women who identify with men over other women, enable them, pander to them, and whinge about 'misandry'

Why would you stick up for a man who is oppressing his wife?