In not letting my friend in my house with her dog?

[charliecat]

My best mate has recently got a dog. Between us we have 4 kids and I see her almost every day. Well I did till she got this dog.
I dont want a dog running about with the kids in the back garden, while we are in the house having coffee, so every time she has came round with the dog, I have kept her at the door.

She came round on Sunday and a mate who I dont see very often(twice a year maybe) was in my house...with her dog.
My best friend asked me today why it was ok for other mates dog to be in my house, but not hers
I said because I dont see her everyday and because theres not 4 kids running about in the garden with it.
AIBU?

Yes.

I was going to say that YANBU as I don't want dogs in my house either. However it does seem unfair that you let other dogs in the house.

Yes

NO, YANBU!

did you see nailpolish's thread a few months ago? where her mate's dog came in and kacked all over her house?

At first I thought you were being reasonable, because we don't have any dogs in the house. Ils dog has to go round the back and in the yard, or stay in their car if our children want to play outside. Its a part pit bull btw. Generally though I don't like dogs in my house cos they smell. Unless very small and clean and not staying long.

but having read all your post I think yabu, because you seem to be having different standards for which dog it is.

But then I wouldnt' want my kids running round with a dog either.

yep IMO, but it is your house so your choice.

I can see why your friend might be a little puzzled at your inconsistent rules.

I think you are being a bit harsh..

we don't have dogs in our house or garden, no exceptions.

I think if we allowed my sisters cute minature daschund in the house I wouldn't feel able to say no to my Mums labrador.

I would say YANBU if it was the same rule for everyone, but to discriminate is a bit off TBH and I think you owe your mate an apology.

is he a naughty dog? if so, could he stay in the house with the grown ups?

that's what i do sometimes with ours as he can be boisterous and burst footballs etc

I didnt see nailpolishes thread.
Dont think the dog, either of them would poo in the house. But after daily crapping, in my garden, I wouldnt want the kids doing handstands etc on the grass.
And I wouldnt be able to settle either.

Is he a dangerous species?

no YANBU

well they both are IMO, have you saw dogs teeth lately? But yes friends dog that would be here daily is a staff. Twice a year visitor isnt.
If the dog would stay in the house, while the kids were in the garden, I could, I think deal with that(knowing where it is) but no it wouldnt.

No! YANBU. If you don't have a dog the smell is overwhelming and if you don't want it in she should leave it at home. Obviously its not so bad if you only see someone 2, x, per year. Its more tricky to put the dog somewhere.iyswim

can you gate a room off for it?

I wouldn't be letting anyone's dog in my house. I'm allergic to dogs. But is the difference that the dog you won't let in is something big and unpredictable, but the other friend's dog is something small and child-friendly, or are you just a bit irrational?

I don't think you're being unreasonable, I have a dog but wouldn't assume my friends would want her in their house. I wouldn't even ask. She's been invited at times but to be honest, you can't communicate with them so can never be 100% sure of whether or not they'll crap in the house and what not.
I wouldn't let my ds run around in garden unsupervised with my dog let alone someone elses.
Is there a reason she insists on bringing the dog with her?

No room to gate off.
Not sure if irrationals the right word. Dont want dog poo skid marks on the grass the kids play on and dont want a dog running about with my kids are in the garden, just in case either dog.

yanbu but you are being unfair to let the other dog in.

but i would let the staffie in

I wouldnt let either dog in. If you let one in I'd let in both.

If other mate with other dog came here every day, I wouldnt let her in either, its the daily thing.
Having to keep eye on dog/kids. Not being able to settle.
I dont want it. Or the skid marks, and dog shit on hands after hand stands.
Seems most of you think IABU. Eeek.
ever mind.
On same vein, occasianal visitors, if kids arent here, I dont mind smoking in the house. But not every day, dont mind ever so often, but definetly NOT every day.

erm, unreasonable I think.
If your 'daily' friend knows you've let your other friend in the house with her dog, she must be quite hurt, however you explain it to her.

I agree about dogshit... can you make sure she walks the dog before she comes over, so it has done its stuff before visiting?

If she has only just got it, and it is an adult, is she sure of its history? I would be more worried about that, given the strength of staffie jaws...

Its 10 months, apparently kept in a cage, and abandoned
Its a lovely dog.
But I just dont want it, and I dont trust any dogs, I see their teeth and they scare me.
The what ifs.
I dont think the risk is worth it.