In not letting my friend in my house with her dog?

[charliecat]

My best mate has recently got a dog. Between us we have 4 kids and I see her almost every day. Well I did till she got this dog.
I dont want a dog running about with the kids in the back garden, while we are in the house having coffee, so every time she has came round with the dog, I have kept her at the door.

She came round on Sunday and a mate who I dont see very often(twice a year maybe) was in my house...with her dog.
My best friend asked me today why it was ok for other mates dog to be in my house, but not hers
I said because I dont see her everyday and because theres not 4 kids running about in the garden with it.
AIBU?

Sure wig, come around any time with your spiderfarm.

As long as it isn't a dangerous breed

Actually I love staffies, and used to volunteer at a dogs home where we would try and rehome dogs. They can have a really lovely nature.

Your house, your rules.

I love doggies btw, got two of them, wouldn't dare take them to anybody's house though. Would be far too

(they are veeeeery friendly).

You are so N BU

I don't understand why people feel the need to enforce their dogs on other people who don't have or even particularly like dogs.

We've just been through something similar with my SIL. I'm so allergic to dogs, so's my DD and DH's sister has this horrible ratty little toy dog that barks and barks at everyone and shits in the garden and nips kids and makes us ill - and she insists on bringing it to our house and I could just f*ing strangle her.

DH has now put a stop to it but the ripples it caused on his side of the family....honestly it was like we were really bad mouthing a family member for no reason.

Dogs can be left alone indoors at home when their owners are visiting their friends you know! And if it can't because it's going to chew all her furniture/disturb the neighbours with constant barking and howling and shit all over her carpets then more fool her

I would never expect to go into other peoples' homes with my dogs but I think that you are being VERY unreasonable to say ok to one friend and no to another. Her point of view (as is mine) is that you see more of her so surely she should be classed as the closer friend?? The other one you hardly see yet you make more allowances for her???

Their seems to be alot of people who haven't read your thread properly though and are assuming that your friend expects to bring her dog to your house - she didn't expect to before - it was only when she saw your other friend round with her dog that she decided to ask. She would probably not have asked if she hadn't seen your other friend's dog in your home. It's true, your home your rules but how can you allow one friend to have her dog in and not the other??

and you honestly don't think that's utterly childish? the closer friend outranks etc? crackers.

I wouldn't have let the other dog in either and was a bit a harsh that your friend saw it. However YANBU, your friend is to expect you to have her dog in the house at all, or in the garden.

Quick update, something in the news dog rips throat out of girl? (No tv, no idea)They are getting rid of dog.
Problem solved.
But for dog

I can totally se where you are coming from, I wouldn't have MIL dogs in the house because she lives round the corner and would have them in all the time and I don't want that, but if a friend or relative came from further away once or twice a year with their dog would probably allow it because it is only a once off. So NU

I'd never dream of taking my Dog to a non Dog owning friends house, it'd be bloody rude.

Yanbu, yo dont want the dog in your house then fine, don't explain yourself.