Barking Dog vs Sleeping Baby

[Whatsgoingon16]

I’m at my wits end!!!

Our dog is barking constantly throughout baby’s nap times in the day whenever anyone approaches the front door (postman or people walking by)

AIBU? I literally can’t take it anymore, my partner is so busy and out working I think he doesn’t fully understand how sleep deprived and frustrated I am. It’s hard getting the baby down for a nap and just to be woken up constantly by a barking dog.

his parents love the dog and right now I think it’s best he stays with them for a while?

my partner loves the dog so much and so do I but I am 8 months deep into post partum and heavily sleep deprived and need calm and peace during nap times :(

Do neighbours also have to put up with the barking dog? CAn it not be trained not to bark? Appreciate this maybe should be your partners job.

is baby waking for the dog a new thing? Or is the dog new?

Dog we’ve had for 6 years, baby is 7 months old. Neighbours get annoyed with dog they’ve made comments. I do not have time to train him to not bark I’m a new sleep deprived mother with 0 time to embark on dog training!!!

my partner super busy at work so doesn’t have the time either

we love him but my love is turning into pure frustration / desperation

You or your partner will have to find the time to train the dog. It's an issue for you and and issue for your poor neighbours too.

I understand being a sleep deprived new mum but dog training isn't an all day ordeal. It'll be a few minutes whenever the barking issue crops up.

Or pay for someone else to train the dog.

If this has been going on for 6 years then really it should have been tackled before now.
Mine always slept through dogs barking, but if you feel you can't cope then the dog living with parents, presuming that they want the commitment of a dog, sounds the best solution.

Send it to his parents you must be making your neighbours life an absolute misery

having previously lived next door to someone with a barking dog I’ve nothing more to say other than they are a selfish twat
that might be harsh but I’m sure neighbours would agree

You have to train the dog, it's not fair to the neighbours. Your choice to take on the responsibility of a dog! Or take the baby out for a walk to have their nap, that's what I always did

What was the excuse for the previous 5 and a half years?

Why make it someone else's problem. Maybe his parents live near a new mother

You are unhappy baby unhappy neighbours unhappy - it’s not fair rehome the dog!

Pay a dog walker to take dog for a walk during nap times

Bloody hell, so you cocked up on training your dog. On the upside your baby will learn to sleep through anything (I feel sorry for your neighbours though).
Is there a part of the house where the dog can free roam without visual access to the front and away from the front door?

So the barking dog is only an issue now that it inconveniences you?

In the immediate term, if you need to ask your parents to mind the dog for a while, then that’s what you need to do.

The dog should be better trained though. Your partner needs to find time to this, if he doesn’t want the dog to be away for too long. I’m assuming your parents don’t want the job? Even if that looks like taking the dog to some classes for you (paid for by you as a couple obviously).

What your partner can’t do is insist that you’re left with a ticking time bomb of a dog because he wants the dog there but won’t train it.

It didn’t affect op as much then, just her neighbours and they don’t matter I guess 🤷‍♀️
You either put up with it as it is, you train the dog as you should’ve before or rehome the dog.

Yeah fine for the dog to piss the neighbours off and be unhappy all day cos it wasn't personally bothering op

Wow! Mumsnet you are full of catty, unsympathetic, judgey critics huh?

So much judgement in the comments.

No sympathy or kind advice for a struggling new mum. Thanks everyone! Won’t be posting on here again or taking any of your snide, shitty advice at all.

@Whatsgoingon16 any advice you have been given you just want to ignore....you said in your original post neither of you have the time to train the dog to stop barking. 😦 You have had the dog for years!!!

I'm also a struggling new mum 6 m pp with pnd actually.

No judgement from me OP. I am 11 years in with my old rescue who has been impossible to train out of barking at the postman or people walking past. We have tried many trainers, behaviourists etc for her over the years but she’s stubborn. Best thing to do is to shut them away from the front door/windows so they can’t see the triggers .

I do not have time to train him to not bark I’m a new sleep deprived mother with 0 time to embark on dog training!!!

But you had the dog for 5 plus years before the baby came along so why was he not trained then? He's just been barking non stop in the house for 6 years?

Let me guess, you and your husband were usually out at work all day so just let the neighbours deal with it. Now that you're home every day you've realised what an issue it is (for you).

Dog will most likely end up being rehomed if nobody can be bothered training it. Lovely.

My sympathy would be with your neighbours including any struggling new mums who’ve had to put up with your untrained, barking dog for the last six years. Horrendous.

I don't know what you expected? If I posted that I'd got an issue that made my neighbours' lives intolerable for years but I did nothing for whatever reason, wouldn't I look unreasonable if I said I wanted it stopped because now it bothers ME? You'd think I was inconsiderate and thoughtless to my neighbours, and you wouldn't be wrong.

My advice is see if the parents will home the dog for a while and hopefully they train it not to bark too. They might have more success if they have time and commitment to the dog.

everyone is basically negative as fuck and immediately pointing the finger at me and sympathising with the neighbours.

Sorry where is the advice?

Do everyone a favour and rehome the dog. That’s the only possible advice if you don’t have time or inclination to train it.