Barking Dog vs Sleeping Baby

[Whatsgoingon16]

I’m at my wits end!!!

Our dog is barking constantly throughout baby’s nap times in the day whenever anyone approaches the front door (postman or people walking by)

AIBU? I literally can’t take it anymore, my partner is so busy and out working I think he doesn’t fully understand how sleep deprived and frustrated I am. It’s hard getting the baby down for a nap and just to be woken up constantly by a barking dog.

his parents love the dog and right now I think it’s best he stays with them for a while?

my partner loves the dog so much and so do I but I am 8 months deep into post partum and heavily sleep deprived and need calm and peace during nap times :(

I don't think my comment was harsh or particularly judgemental. Just factual.

It sounds like you're set on rehoming the dog though.

Thank you. He’s a lovely dog and has been amazing with the intro of the baby. It’s taking so long to get baby down for a nap and it’s beyond frustrating when he’s woken up by the dog I just am not coping

Because your neighbours have had to put up with this for 6 years (probably whilst you and your husband were out at work all day). Also your poor dog is probably bored / not exercised enough.

You are only bothered now as you are being inconvenienced by it.

Does the dog settle if it's had a longer walk?

Can your partner get up earlier and take it for a long stretch before leaving for work?

Can you book doggy day care?

Can you put baby in pram for naps and walk the dog while baby sleeps?

Is there any way of stopping people knocking? Eg any room for a separate letter box etc? Have a ring doorbell installed?

Unfortunately, AIBU probably isn't the best place for this question. Maybe the Doghouse board would have been better.

Also unfortunately, you do not have many options other than to train the dog. Normally, it doesn't take that long to train a dog not to bark, but you will have a harder job now the barking routine has settled in.

PM me if you want some tips. I am a dog trainer.

But what advice do you think anyone can give you?

find a local dog trainer- some will do either sessions where they take the dog out or boarding. Training is the only option and if you and your dh can’t paying professional is the answer.

sending the dog to stay at your in-laws is a short term bandaid, not a solution if you want to keep the dog long term.

My Dog barks at passersby, postman etc so I put him in a room where he can’t see the front door, with me normally, can that work for you?

O do bugger off dear

Is dog neutered?

People are giving advice, you absolute tool. The fact you seem unable to process the written word is, I fear, not our fault. You don’t want to hear that the dog should be trained, you haven’t acknowledged people asking whether the dog can be shut away from triggers, you haven’t really said what you’ve done to try and tackle it in the past… it’s a bit hard to help anyone so obstructive!
FWIW despite what felt like endless training attempts, my dog used to be a barker (until he died, the daft twat) so I get the frustration… but surely you know there isn’t a magic wand.

We had barky dogs when our DC were little. We used a noise maker in their rooms and it worked like a charm. For us we used the waterfall sound turned fairly loud, so it blocked or softened other noises. Amazon still carries them and they have a variety of sounds. Our DGC still use them now and I use one myself. Best of luck Op

something like this: White Noise Machine Easysleep Sleep Sound Machine 25 Sounds 5 Timer 32 Volume Baby Kids Adults for Sleeping with 4 Adjustable Brightness

You have two choices:
(1) Train your dog
(2) Rehome your dog, on a temporary permanent basis

If you don't want to do (1), do (2).

Op, ignore the shitty comments. On a practical side. Does your door have the open glass panels? Can you get the stickers that block the view out. We have those so def helps with barkey dogs.

Have you looked at getting a trainer in? You must be tired managing a baby that isn't sleeping. Could you pay someone to train your dog. Also could you get a baby gate downstairs to block access to your hall or not let the dog in the hall during naps. Really hope it gets better for you

What breed? How much attention and exercise is it getting?

Chances are, even if you don’t realise it, you’re neglecting the dog in favour of the baby - happens to often, and no amount of training will fix it.

Ultimately, you can either train or rehome (through a proper charity - not Pets4Home). Sorry you don’t want to hear that, but it’s the truth.

You dont need to call someone a tool. That's so nasty. You could have written your post without that

You must have missed op deleted posts telling the "old ninnies" to eff off 🤣

‘So nasty’ oh behave yourself. It’s incredibly mild, particularly compared to how op herself spoke to everyone trying to give her advice.

You could have left out the tool part. It doesn't mean you have to stoop to that level

Also if he's looking out the window to see triggers, you can try putting cling decorations on the windows to block his view. We did this and it worked really well, and they look nice.

There are all kinds of patterns and you can get ones that just block the lower part of the window so you can still see out the top.

Something like this:
https://www.amazon.co.uk/decalmile-Wildflower-Butterfly-Anti-Collision-Stickers/dp/B0FQCC4BYX/ref=sxin_15_pa_sp_search_thematic_sspa?content-id=amzn1.sym.4f7ef0b3-4dfc-42e5-946a-fa9ac7d7e131%3Aamzn1.sym.4f7ef0b3-4dfc-42e5-946a-fa9ac7d7e131&cv_ct_cx=window%2Bclings&keywords=window%2Bclings&pd_rd_i=B0FQCC4BYX&pd_rd_r=36f0b32c-659d-4398-95ab-e015b51c462c&pd_rd_w=dl3pc&pd_rd_wg=bkiBc&pf_rd_p=4f7ef0b3-4dfc-42e5-946a-fa9ac7d7e131&pf_rd_r=TGHT7K1YCXJR41M21ZND&qid=1773849983&sbo=RZvfv%2F%2FHxDF%2BO5021pAnSA%3D%3D&sr=1-1-ad3222ed-9545-4dc8-8dd8-6b2cb5278509-spons&aref=j3U5DY8zea&sp_csd=d2lkZ2V0TmFtZT1zcF9zZWFyY2hfdGhlbWF0aWM&th=1

No I get that. It was deleted already but no one has to stoop to that level either. That's all I'm saying.

Ridiculous.
The poster was talking in plain language, calling someone a tool isn't offensive and if you are offended thats your problem.

The op is being a tool.

I didn’t ’stoop’ to any level, stop being so dramatic, it was hardly the insult of the century. You decide how you post and I’ll decide how I post.