Man walking around outside nursery each morning

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Not sure if I'm over thinking... For the last 3 months or so, every morning without fail when I drop my daughter at nursery there is a man who is walking past it, then when I come out he's doing a loop the other way back past again. The nursery is on a business park so he could just be walking to work or getting his steps in but I do find it that he seems to do constant loops at exactly the same time every morning. I've stayed and watched from the car this morning and this is his fourth loop around the nursery building again... He doesn't appear to have a uniform or lanyard of any of the businesses on the estate... Am I thinking too badly given everything in the news at the moment 🙃 would you mention it to the nursery?

What do you genuinely think he's going to do though? Kids are accompanied. Doors are locked. He's not being subtle. It's being going on for months.

Even if he doesn't 'do' anything, it's odd behaviour to be loitering outside/repeatedly passing a nursery surely? There has to be a reason for that

But he hasn't done anything wrong , the police can't preempt that he might and arrest him or question him for walking past the nursery every day.
I can't see how he can be a danger to any of the children as he can't get into the nursery and all the children will be picked up by an adult.

Unless you've been followed or been close to being assaulted then you haven't a clue what you're on about. Following your gut instinct never does let you down. Your body often reacts for you before you've time to think in a frightening/threatening situation.

Better a fool than a sorry fool.

It's fine OP I get what you are meaning.

Is the nursery the only building he passes? You said the building is in a business park. Otherwise he's just circling a block and you could say "why is he repeatedly passing a bakery/Lidl/sportshop? There has to be a reason for that."

There is a big difference between your body instinctively reacting to protect you in a crisis-there are credible mechanisms for that happening- and watching someone for 3 months and deciding after letting your imagination run riot that “your gut” thinks he’s somehow up to no good.

I'd ask the nursery staff if they'd noticed him, and say he makes you uncomfortable as he's constantly walking round / looking at the kids. See what they say.

Yes but you've not got the full context conveyed in a message on a forum. The OP has felt strongly enough that something is wrong with this situation by posting on a forum. For advice, not to be ridiculed.

No one does that for no reason.

Well that’s the thing, if he did have bad intentions he wouldn’t answer! And that would look a bit off and may raise suspicions.

If he is just having a walk then what’s the problem in saying good morning. I say good morning to people I don’t know quite regularly because we always pass each-other on the way to work! I am in no means suggesting OP jump out of her car as he passes and interrogate him!! Just a simple ‘morning’ would do.

Nowhere has the OP said that he's looking at the kids. The most she has said is that he can see the fence. Accusing him of looking at kids would probably get the police involved, potentially ruining the life of someone who is just going for a walk every day.

I would say mention it to the nursery. Normally I would say the opposite, but I got an email from my child's secondary school this week to say that a member of the public had been acting strangely outside school and police had spoken to them. It's highly likely it's nothing, but even so.

'he does look across to the fence where they are'

I interpreted this as the kids - 'they'. Obviously OP can use whatever words seem right to her.

I disagree with most of the people on this thread - I think it IS odd to loop round and round a nursery when there are plenty of other places to walk. Most men would/should be aware that it would potentially make them look like a weirdo. This is in a business park - not people having to take their usual routes along the street past schools and nurseries.

He's giving OP a vibe, hence I suggested to mention it to the nursery staff. If he's just an innocent guy, no harm done.

Perhaps men should not be allowed walk in public? Would it be better if he was a wheelchair user OP? If so perhaps we should petition to have all men in public confined to chairs. Or only allowed out at certain times of the day when everyone else is locked up.

What do you mean "with everything in the news just now"?

😂 😂

So many options.... I instantly thought he was dropping his child off who doesn't settle so walking round for 10/15 mins before leaving so he knows the child has settled (I had to do this for 3 months 😂)
If there's any concern then speak to the nursery

Jesus wept. Some people are so dense

Some of the replies on here are like something from ‘Brass Eye’

Exactly. Hardly likely to be anything untoward if it’s just his daily routine.

I’m going against the majority here but I would report as non urgent to police and also nursery. If it’s innocent then no harm done but you’d never forgive yourself not trusting your instincts if it’s not innocent

How do you know he hasn't got a child in the nursery? I had no clue about other parents at the nursery when mine went except for a few mums I talked to, we all dropped kids of at different times.

Reporting someone to police for walking near a nursery? Police would laugh you out of my local station if you went there to report something like this. You can't even get them to attend when there is crime going on

Do update us OP when the police pay you a visit for loitering in a car outside a nursery & acting suspiciously by looking at passers by.

Does he have his phone in hand?

There was a post on our local Facebook group reporting a suspicious man dropping a teenage girl outside the church and she stood there for a while then walked a loop around the church then stood there for a while then got picked up by a car.

Turns out she was playing Pokémon Go and the loop was a specific part of the game. It was her Dad dropping her off.

And yet there are many, many bad women out there…