To ask for an opinion you wouldn't say out loud for fear of judgement? (Inoffensive and light hearted please)

[mumofoneAloneandwell]

Weather men and women should be sexy.

I don't care if youre a meteorological prodigy

Likewise "I don't mean to be rude...."

Sex is part of the deal when you get married - it’s literally in the vows. I’m not advocating for a second that people should have sex they don’t want, but if they don’t want it they should take an honest look at the reasons why and explore options for reviving their libido.

Almost every week someone on here writes a post expressing shock that their partner has cheated on them even though they thought they were happy and had a good marriage despite a few ups and downs, and then three posts later they mention that they haven’t had sex for 2 years. BAM 💥 There you go - that is almost definitely the main reason your partner cheated. It is almost always a consequence of your change in status from lover to housemate.

Unless both parties are happy and have agreed to no sex in a relationship, it is better to have one where both people feel loved, appreciated, and satisfied with their love lives.

Sometimes people are just pricks who want to cheat, but more often than not there is a reason - they’re seeking the intimacy they’re not getting with their partner.

I think it is because there are soooo many threads where the ultra marathon / marathon runner / triathlete (or equivalent) disappears for long periods of time when they have a young family, leaving the other parent to pick up the slack.

Also things like - really fussy diets, all the extra washing, all the extra kit etc.

We have a shed that I couldnt put a single thing in because it was FULL of all my husband’s bikes. It was a nightmare trying to get my DDs’ bikes out because he was just so thoughtless and inconsiderate with how he stored all his kit. This is just an example and a personal and specific frustration.

Another reason is that these hobbies sometimes make people so self absorbed ie endless talk about whatever target it is with NO interest in what anyone else is achieving or working on in their lives.

I recall ENDLESS monologues about personal bests, Strava, routes, bits of kit, etc etc. Bearing in mind that I don't do this activity because I am not interested in it, it gets very wearing very quickly when that is the only conversation.

I am not saying this is you - you sound like you have a balanced set up.

I am just explaining why some people (me?) might have a visceral reaction to these sort of sports.

Good luck for your ultramarathon.

That's a crap doctor thing, not just a male one.
I've got a great one who's been seeing me about my period problems.
The several doctors/health professionals I've had in the past who were beyond useless and dismissive were women.

It depends what vows you say, though, doesn't it. I've been to plenty of weddings that didn't feature the 'with my body' bit.

Lots of women are looking more and more like AI characters. Botox, lips, lashes, glass skin etc. Turning themselves into human versions of blow-up dolls. I.E walking sex toys.
It's horrible.

Not really about guilt for me but more the knowledge that childhood doesn’t last forever and I don’t want to spend it elsewhere and then regret it.

People who reply all serious and uppity on a lighthearted thread should be shown the door 👉

Men can never be women and vice versa

I get that your experience has, as it does for everyone, formed the basis for your opinions.

My DH and I are both training for an ultra so no one is picking up anyone's slack; we're both having to keep up our responsibilities and use our free time for our training. The extra laundry is soul destroying but honestly, if anyone's partner is leaving them to do THEIR extra laundry then it's the partner that's the problem, not the running!

People should be allowed to choose when to end their own life.

There needs to be a waiting period and approval after discussion with a mental health professional. However, if you decide you've had enough of life for whatever reason (even without a significant medical issue or terminal diagnosis), then it should be your right to end your life painlessly and without shame.

Either way, sex is important in a marriage.

I agree, and it's creepy. All the female celebrities are starting to look so similar now, and not like their former selves. Individuality seems to be lost.

Listening to anything mobile outside their own home without headphones I agree.

Not if they're in lanes 2 or 3 and lane hogging. Get back to the most appropriate lane.

My pet peeve is people who go "oh have you tried cbt?' when someone is in a mental health crisis. Always people who have no mh probs either.

I have to physically stop myself from replying when on a nice involved discussion thread on a relatively trivial topic and someone wades in with "If this is all you have to be concerned about with the state of the world, then your life is so easy." Completely misses the point of Mumsnet and shows such narrow thinking.

Conversely, I think people who stay living where they grew up, for the most part, lack imagination and ambition.

Very sweet 💛 I personally am a better mother for having interests outside my children but if it works for you it works for you.

I don’t think this is unpopular at all. I work in palliative care and most people want this.

I agree. I look back and think, I never knew anyone that was gay back then. Nowadays I realise that probably many people were, but just felt they couldn't come out. My best friend was kicked out by her mother at 18 because she was consorting with "those kind of people " She ended up having to deny that she was gay.
I'm glad that people are more able to be open about their sexuality nowadays

I prefer to model to my daughter that she isn't expected to abandon her wellbeing, interests, and sense of achievement because she's a mother, or have her sense of wellbeing and achievement tied only to the fact that she's a mother. Each to their own.

There is a hierarchy of hardship. Just because you're both very upset, it doesn't mean your worry about school fees is as valid as Jane's about needing to use the food bank. Getting a little perspective by looking at those worse off is a far more healthy way of dealing with your disappointments than having your feelings indulged and validated all the time.

People who jump onto mounjaro to lose weight without even attempting to work out or eat healthy are beyond lazy

All Star Trek is GREAT Star Trek.

Also

Truffle oil is horrible
Crab is gross
Taylor Swift's music is ok but not wow
Films should be 90 minutes