That felt very taboo to type but if I’m honest (and this is venting and not really an advice thread) I just don’t like my children. And I know this is my own doing; that if I’d done a better job they might be nicer. I’m not trying to hate on them just to be honest in one of the few spaces I can be.
I have two of them. One child who is five and who I’ve always clashed with. He has a temper and doesn’t listen; difficult combination. After school he went out to play in the garden and wet himself. I was calm but it took several ‘come ins’ before he did so. When I got him out of his wet clothes it transpired there was a bit of a soiled accident so I told him to go to the toilet. He ran off instead, half naked and with poo all over his bottom. Eventually got him inside and he shouts PEPPA PIG at me. He did ask in a more civilised manner after being told he wouldn’t have it at all if he was that rude!
He flings himself at me and his dad … one or both of us are constantly making ‘OOFFT’ noises and telling him to stop but still does.
We have not found a single consequence he GAF about or that changes some of these things.
then my two year old used to be quite easy; fairly standard baby / toddler as far as I can see but over the last month has changed so much I hate looking after her (I know, sounds horrible) she screams at me; just stands and SCREAMS and omits these awful whines near constantly, doesn’t sleep, doesn’t eat, will completely obsess over random stuff such as jumping on sofas or beds. She speaks to me like I’m dirt as well.
I am finding it really hard, as it’s hard not to feel like it’s a failure on your part when your children don’t like you and you don’t like them.