AIBU to think rewarding children for high grades is unfair?

[TheLivelyCat]

To think its wrong to reward children for high grades.

I've meet a few people and have seen online people who reward their child if they get top Grades in education. ie if you get a certain mark/grade parents will reward them with a trip, car, or something else big.
As a parent with 2 DDs one working above expected standards and one working towards expected standards, I feel this is unfair as my children who is working towards expected standards is probably working 2x as hard as my child who it naturally comes easier too.

I like the idea of paying for revision at an hourly rate! That’s how it works as an adult so makes sense to me.

Yet I know a 23 year old with a first in law and earning 22k full time. She's been trying for other jobs for over a year now. Go figure. It's not all about good grades equal good incone

I was bobbling along at school getting Bs and Cs. My parents told me I would get £50 for every A I got 15+ years ago and my goodness that motivated me to try harder. I even resat some exams to get a better grade.

I got mostly As and some Bs, thrilled with my cash reward. I didn't have the capacity, as a teen, to understand how important grades were. Nevertheless, my bribed As got me into a good university and then my 2:1 degree got me into a decent job.

I now exchange my time and labour for a salary, so really we're back where we started ;)

Perhaps I would have been just as happy at a less good university but I would have struggled to get a job given how competitive the market was, and has become since.

I think you should do it and then match the equivalent amount as a gift to your daughter when he gets his reward to help salve any issues that may arise.

My parents rewards GCSEs with cash - £100 for each A+, £50 for A and £30 for B.
I, on the other hand, have told my dsughter if I see continuous effort I'll take her on a trip of her choice before results, i dont care about the results I want to see the effort. (She's home educated so I actually SEE the effort daily) .

Yes maybe but that’s a lot to expect kids to be motivated by. In sports they announce the teams, kids cheer as they race, they get a trophy or certificate and pats on the back. Academic kids get none of that.

im not saying give rewards as parents per grade, I think that’s a bad idea. But schools should celebrate kids who achieve academically with certificates and applause just as they would for kids who do well in sports. In my experience this is phased out because it can make kids feel bad. I would love to see effort celebrated as well but don’t well academically is also something to celebrate.

That’s exactly what we did too