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To report my neighbours XL bully, it is ruining my life

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TheLangyers · 15/03/2026 20:03

I’m 14 weeks pregnant. Me and my partner currently live on quite a rough council estate as we are saving up for a house deposit. Won’t be able to move for another couple of years.

Our next door neighbour has an XL bully. I am usually a dog lover but feel really uneasy about these dogs. My mum was a dog walker for a few years and I got bit by a pit-bull and repeatedly witnessed incidents involving them. My childhood best friend was left with lifelong facial scares after her rescue pitbull randomly decided to bite her face off during a game of fetch.

The XL bully hasn’t personally attacked us yet but it’s been involved in several incidents. It’s been known to get in fights on the local field with other dogs on the estate but owner insists it’s always the other dog’s fault. She leaves it unattended in the front garden, gate is usually closed but it could easily jump over. My partner doesn’t understand the danger that these dogs present and often encourages it to come over to stroke it when we go out. Our walls are very thin and I know from overhearing domestic arguments that it’s bitten the owners autistic grandson before when they’ve been playing.

She often walks 2 minutes the road to another friend’s house and doesn’t bother muzzling or leashing it for this as it’s a short walk. It just runs down the road in front of her. For proper walks it’s on a leash but no muzzle as it “doesn’t like a muzzle.” She often moans to be that she’s suspicious that people on the estate will “snitch” on her so she tries to walk early morning or late at night.

Being pregnant I’ve been a lot more cautious and try to only go out when my partner can give me a lift - I can’t drive. However an incident today has left me terrified. I was on the road in front of our house at lunchtime cleaning the car and they come out to walk to the friend’s house. It jumps on my back trying to be friendly and lick me - this dog weighs 70kg. I froze and was terrified and she didn’t pull him off, she just kept shouting its name until it ran to her and they left.

It’s really starting to ruin my life and my partner doesn’t care as he just thinks it’s a funny, goofy big dog. He always brings up my parent’s cockerpoo as an example as occasionally nips at people when it is guarding food but the difference is that a cockerpoo isn’t capable of killing a healthy adult, and a cockerpoo usually will bite once then back off. XL bullies generally are genetically wired to try to kill and could turn at any moment.

I’ve now fallen out with my mum too as she’s very worried about mine and the baby’s safety and she says we should look at private renting somewhere else until we can afford to buy. This annoyed me as we only pay £500 a month rent at the moment and if we were to move to another private rental it’d be hundreds
more and we would lose a load to our savings to moving costs. I don’t see why we should have to do this. My mum says I’m putting money over my baby’s safety and has become angry at me. I feel like I can’t win.

I want to report as she’s breaking the law letting it out unleashed and unmuzzled but I’m concerned that the neighbour would know it’s me after the incident today and make my life hell. She is somewhat unhinged, nice enough on a shallow level, will invite you in for a cuppa and chat to you etc bit get on the wrong side of her and she’s as rough as a bears arse and will get family members to bang on your door etc. Police have been called before when she’s had disputes with another neighbour about rats in the garden. I hate confrontation and really don’t know what to do.

any advice appreciated

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Peachperfect · 16/03/2026 00:21

TheLangyers · 15/03/2026 20:03

I’m 14 weeks pregnant. Me and my partner currently live on quite a rough council estate as we are saving up for a house deposit. Won’t be able to move for another couple of years.

Our next door neighbour has an XL bully. I am usually a dog lover but feel really uneasy about these dogs. My mum was a dog walker for a few years and I got bit by a pit-bull and repeatedly witnessed incidents involving them. My childhood best friend was left with lifelong facial scares after her rescue pitbull randomly decided to bite her face off during a game of fetch.

The XL bully hasn’t personally attacked us yet but it’s been involved in several incidents. It’s been known to get in fights on the local field with other dogs on the estate but owner insists it’s always the other dog’s fault. She leaves it unattended in the front garden, gate is usually closed but it could easily jump over. My partner doesn’t understand the danger that these dogs present and often encourages it to come over to stroke it when we go out. Our walls are very thin and I know from overhearing domestic arguments that it’s bitten the owners autistic grandson before when they’ve been playing.

She often walks 2 minutes the road to another friend’s house and doesn’t bother muzzling or leashing it for this as it’s a short walk. It just runs down the road in front of her. For proper walks it’s on a leash but no muzzle as it “doesn’t like a muzzle.” She often moans to be that she’s suspicious that people on the estate will “snitch” on her so she tries to walk early morning or late at night.

Being pregnant I’ve been a lot more cautious and try to only go out when my partner can give me a lift - I can’t drive. However an incident today has left me terrified. I was on the road in front of our house at lunchtime cleaning the car and they come out to walk to the friend’s house. It jumps on my back trying to be friendly and lick me - this dog weighs 70kg. I froze and was terrified and she didn’t pull him off, she just kept shouting its name until it ran to her and they left.

It’s really starting to ruin my life and my partner doesn’t care as he just thinks it’s a funny, goofy big dog. He always brings up my parent’s cockerpoo as an example as occasionally nips at people when it is guarding food but the difference is that a cockerpoo isn’t capable of killing a healthy adult, and a cockerpoo usually will bite once then back off. XL bullies generally are genetically wired to try to kill and could turn at any moment.

I’ve now fallen out with my mum too as she’s very worried about mine and the baby’s safety and she says we should look at private renting somewhere else until we can afford to buy. This annoyed me as we only pay £500 a month rent at the moment and if we were to move to another private rental it’d be hundreds
more and we would lose a load to our savings to moving costs. I don’t see why we should have to do this. My mum says I’m putting money over my baby’s safety and has become angry at me. I feel like I can’t win.

I want to report as she’s breaking the law letting it out unleashed and unmuzzled but I’m concerned that the neighbour would know it’s me after the incident today and make my life hell. She is somewhat unhinged, nice enough on a shallow level, will invite you in for a cuppa and chat to you etc bit get on the wrong side of her and she’s as rough as a bears arse and will get family members to bang on your door etc. Police have been called before when she’s had disputes with another neighbour about rats in the garden. I hate confrontation and really don’t know what to do.

any advice appreciated

I haven't read all the replies on here, but i work in the veterinary industry and anybody else who also does is likely to agree with me.
PLEASE do report this. There is a ban for a reason, they HAVE to be muzzled for a reason. Its not every single XL-B but a very high percentage that will just unexpectedly "see red" even with their owners. This actually happened to my nect door neighbour last month. He is absolutely devastated, but he is a strong well built gym goer who fought with his dog for 10 minutes who just turned on him during a walk (in a forest, no muzzle). His dog has always been soppy and affectionate, and he had him put to sleep. Please dont listen to anyone who says "its not the dog, its the owners". It a part of their DNA (again, this isnt every single XL-B but a very high percentage). Think of it like this, u are also protecting your neighbour because no doubt there will be a court case in the future and their beloved dog will end up PTS if she doesnt muzzle it.
Ive seen some extremely horrific outcomes of these attacks, including the owners turning up with their animal or XL-B covered in bl00d and needing hospital treatment. Please dont take this lightly.

XenoBitch · 16/03/2026 00:23

Mumandcarer80 · 16/03/2026 00:20

Still smell bull?

https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/articles/cdxez1kkw57o

There's multiple articles on this case. Look her name up Sophie Zaher.

I just read a few, and some say the dog was just out after escaping, and others said it attacked several people. What are we to believe?

And the headline reads like the owner was shot dead.

hehehesorry · 16/03/2026 00:36

XenoBitch · 15/03/2026 22:34

I smell bull here.
Armed police do not turn up for a dog who is wandering the streets.

We had armed police come out to a field near some houses because someone had left a Caucasian ovcharka there, police are taking big dogs very seriously now

SweetnsourNZ · 16/03/2026 00:44

So many reasons to move. How are you going to manage once baby is here. You are going to stress everytime you have to go out as it takes time to put baby and their things in car. You wont be able to take baby walking. You wont want to go out by yourself as you will worry that your partner's attitude isn't going to keep child safe. Then the neighbour sounds horrible anyway and you are risking issues with her with or without the dog.
You wont feel comfortable inviting other mum's over either especially if they have toddlers as well.
If your mum is keen on you shifting could she help financially. Not ideal, I know, but just an idea. Could be a loan.

SandyHappy · 16/03/2026 00:57

XenoBitch · 16/03/2026 00:23

I just read a few, and some say the dog was just out after escaping, and others said it attacked several people. What are we to believe?

And the headline reads like the owner was shot dead.

The ones I read state that it was reported to police after it bit a woman on the arm and was acting aggressively towards another person walking a dog.. hence the armed response, which would make sense.

I think the reporting that it wasn't doing anything aggressive at the time it was shot seems accurate, but that doesn't really tell the full picture of the whole incident.

There was another incident of a man being tasered and his two XL bullies (with him on leads) shot dead in the street, which drew a lot of attention for being cruel and unwarranted, but it turns out they had attacked a woman's dog and her when she intervened, had attacked others previously and he was even banned from owning dogs when the incident happened because of previous issues.

Most incidents seem to happen from owners being stupid or careless, people like OPs neighbour are a ticking time bomb.

Shessweetbutapsycho · 16/03/2026 01:07

Not sure why you’re needing strangers on the internet to tell you the right thing to do is to report this killing machine? Also your mums a fine one to talk with her nasty cockapoo, you might find you have your own child with lifelong facial disfigurements if you visit your mums- it might not necessarily kill, but I’m sure could do a fair bit of damage to a baby/toddler- what plans does she have for her own dog? I’m presuming with her strong views about you ensuring you do what’s best for your baby that she’s planning to rehome or PTS the biting cockapoo? Or for you to not visit her home with your child?

Ilovecakey · 16/03/2026 01:08

TheLangyers · 15/03/2026 20:49

Yes I do want the dog to be destroyed given it bites its owners 4 year old autistic grandson. She doesn’t tell anyone about this. The walls are thin and I’ve heard the child screaming in pain and her scolding the dog afterwards, and then seen them walking out of the house to go to A&E with the child bleeding.

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Surely if that was the case the hospital would have reported it and it would have been taken away already?

TheLangyers · 16/03/2026 01:12

Ilovecakey · 16/03/2026 01:08

Surely if that was the case the hospital would have reported it and it would have been taken away already?

Well you’d think so wouldn’t you. Apparently not though. I know what I heard/saw. The walls are incredibly thin and I can hear her TV as we speak.

I heard a child having a tantrum, then a dog barking and then a child screaming followed by “(Dog’s name) GET OFF HIM!” repeatedly and screaming from the adult in the house. Followed by the child being outside the house with a bleeding hand and then them both driving off, presumably to A&E. I was working from home at the time an was on a phone call so was unable to go out and offer assistance. I saw it all out of the window.

I don’t know why nothing was done, but I have no doubt what happened. Maybe they spun a story. I honestly don’t know.

I’ve also seen it lunge at other dogs walking past its front garden. It has run-ins with another XL bully on the estate. I’m certainly not making it all up.

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OchreReader · 16/03/2026 01:15

I’m so sorry you are in this situation. I’m a dog lover, but I would be terrified if that dog jumped on me. There’s nothing funny about it, and I don’t know why your partner seems to think it is. These dogs can turn in an instant, and have the ability to kill a full grown adult. A baby or child would have no chance.

I understand that you’re upset by your mum’s suggestion of moving, but honestly in your situation that is what I would have to do. I would be having nightmares about it leaping out it’s garden and into the pram because the baby started crying.

If you want to stay, I agree with other posters that you should definitely repot it in a couple of weeks. I really hope you get it sorted xx

Francestein · 16/03/2026 01:27

I wouldn’t think twice about reporting. Generally the kind of person who adopts these dogs has very little interest in training or socializing them properly. Even if they did that, these dogs are known to turn on a dime. No way would I feel comfortable with one anywhere near my baby. (I saw two work together to rip up a poodle puppy in the small dogs section at the dog park. I didn’t know any of the dogs or their owners but I needed counselling.)

TheSecretAgent1 · 16/03/2026 01:29

Ilovecakey · 16/03/2026 01:08

Surely if that was the case the hospital would have reported it and it would have been taken away already?

They probably lied. Maybe said it was dog bite but not from what kind of dog it was. It's not like the hospital will try to investigate

WickedWitchOfTheEast87 · 16/03/2026 01:33

@TheLangyers you need to report the dog OP its a danger to the public and anyone in contact with it and I work in a vet practice and have seen quite a few XL Bully's and thankfully those owners had theirs trained very well. However your neighbour should have an expemption certificate signed by a vet that meets all the legal requirements for her to own the dog including insurance and third party public liability insurance.

https://www.gov.uk/guidance/ban-on-xl-bully-dogs

You can report the dog to the police and/or dog warden and if your neighbour doesn't have all the proper legal paperwork and hasn't met the legal requirements the dog will be confiscated and probably put to sleep especially as it has a history of incidents including biting a child.

As for your partner sorry to be blunt but he is a fucking moron and extremely careless. Whilst Cockerpoo bites can be nasty you cannot compare it with the biting power of a 70kg dog when a Cockerpoo weight is usually around 10kg. I find your partner's dismissive attitude even more concerning he has shrugged off your fear and concerns after a 70kg dog jumped on you, that could have caused you to be seriously injured and you're pregnant ffs! I wouldn't leave your baby alone with him I wouldn't trust him to keep them safe from that dog. Get rid of him he's a knob and a stupid one at that if he's willing to gamble his pregnant partners safety over a dog that is dangerous and his argument is to comapre it to a Cockerpoo.

I agree with the poster who told you to keep a diary log and I would advise putting up CCTV outside your home and getting videos of your neighbour being irresponsible with the dog because they are putting people at a serious risk.

I say this as a dog lover too and generally my opinion is its bad owners but an untrained XL Bully is very dangerous and I have a medium sized rescue dog who has extreme anxiety and is extremely reactive just barks and growls but I won't let her off lead without a muzzle on and only in an enclosed area if there are no dogs around because I don't wanna risk her hurting anyone or other dogs and I have spent over two years giving her the training her previous owners failed to do and made some progress with her and I always correct her and put the boundary down. I can't stand owners who are in denial it pisses me off a responsible owner takes measures to ensure their dog doesn't harm anyone and trains it properly.

Ban on XL Bully dogs

The rules you must follow if you own an XL Bully dog in England and Wales.

https://www.gov.uk/guidance/ban-on-xl-bully-dogs

Atsocta · 16/03/2026 01:40

You must report it …

Glitchymn1 · 16/03/2026 02:04

You seem very angry with everything and everyone- unless they agree with you.

No I wouldn’t report it, because the neighbour is likely to find out it’s you and you’ll face repercussions- you say you don’t care and will go and live with your DM (who you’ve fallen out with). I can’t see that living situation working out for very long.
The dog is very unlikely to be seized, she will just get a warning to muzzle in future.

@WickedWitchOfTheEast87 the OP doesn’t want the neighbour to find out she’s reported it. Putting up cameras is going to announce that it’s her 🤦🏼‍♀️

TapsOff · 16/03/2026 02:12

The thing is OP that when you’re pregnant you’re given an extra set of spidey senses to pick up on threats in the environment, and this is evolution working to give your baby the best possible chances of survival. Therefore your feeling counts for a lot more than all our opinions.

PrincessofWells · 16/03/2026 02:12

Ffs just report it. The law is being broken and that's down to the irresponsibility of the owner.

PollyBell · 16/03/2026 02:16

TapsOff · 16/03/2026 02:12

The thing is OP that when you’re pregnant you’re given an extra set of spidey senses to pick up on threats in the environment, and this is evolution working to give your baby the best possible chances of survival. Therefore your feeling counts for a lot more than all our opinions.

Yet the OP is staying put and not reporting the animal. We can dress it up into something fluffy and philosophical, but unless the OP does anything about it nothing will change

TapsOff · 16/03/2026 02:19

@PollyBell that isn’t me dressing it up into something philosophical and fluffy, it’s me saying she needs to follow her instincts and gtfo

Meadowfinch · 16/03/2026 02:31

Report it every single time you see it out without a muzzle. Report it every time you hear an argument about the child being bitten. He or she is in mortal danger.

And keep on reporting it. Try to get photos of them breaking the laws around control of the dog. The sooner it is PTS the better.

And I'd rethink your relationship. Your dp appears not to give a toot about you or your unborn child's safety. He's an idiot. Do you really want to waste your life with someone so unsupportive?

WickedWitchOfTheEast87 · 16/03/2026 02:35

Glitchymn1 · 16/03/2026 02:04

You seem very angry with everything and everyone- unless they agree with you.

No I wouldn’t report it, because the neighbour is likely to find out it’s you and you’ll face repercussions- you say you don’t care and will go and live with your DM (who you’ve fallen out with). I can’t see that living situation working out for very long.
The dog is very unlikely to be seized, she will just get a warning to muzzle in future.

@WickedWitchOfTheEast87 the OP doesn’t want the neighbour to find out she’s reported it. Putting up cameras is going to announce that it’s her 🤦🏼‍♀️

Someone putting up CCTV doesn't scream neighbour reported your dog its a rough council estate (I also grew up and currently live on a rough council estate myself before anyone calls me a snob) thats reason enough for CCTV.

I also have neighbours like the OP so I sympathise completely and I have had a couple of arguments with one in particular.

All reports are confidential and anyone could have made a report about the dog.

Also the neighbour will get more than a warning especially if she doesn't have the exemption certificate and hasn't met all the legal requirements for owning an XL Bully, it isn't as simple as getting the dog neutered and its all sorted. The police and dog warden can legally remove the dog from the owner if its a danger and high risk to attacking someone. See XL Bully legislation below;

When asked by a police constable or authorised local authority officer, you must also provide:

• Access to the dog to read its microchip.

• Confirmation of suitable third party liability insurance within 5 days of their request.

• The Certificate of Exemption within 5 days of their request.

If you do not follow these requirements, your dog will no longer be exempt from the ban and it could be taken by the police. You could also be prosecuted. New exemptions can only be authorised by a court order.

This isn't a chihuaha its a large dog breed with a very powerful bite which is one of the reasons for the ban, the XL Bully in the OP's posts is 70kg thats seriously powerful strength, I doubt the police and dog warden would do nothing especially with the other incidents.

Winter2020 · 16/03/2026 03:02

Definitely report the dog including the information about biting the child (they could well have lied at the hospital and said a random dog bit the child).

Keep your report anonymous then if accused lie to her face and say it wasn't you. There is a possibility someone could have saw the dog jump on you and reported. In the circumstances you could even not tell your partner you reported and he would give a convincing performance of denial then!

Plasticdreams · 16/03/2026 03:17

Hi op, I’ve read all your responses and you’re clearly a measured individual and have done your research on these dogs, She is breaking the law daily with this dog and her grandson, you (your unborn baby) and the other residents on the estate are at risk of serious injury or death.
I don’t think she will suspect it’s you due to your partner being so friendly and you being so understanding. It sounds like she is having regular run ins with other people so will most likely suspect them. when you report make it clear, never wears muzzle, off the lead daily, left unattended in front garden, knocked you over and you’re pregnant, go in with everything and say it’s volatile and you believe it’s a matter of days or weeks before someone gets hurt or killed. If you report this to the police and they fail to act and something happens, they will be in serious trouble. If this doesn’t work, you have to move. I’m sorry your partner doesn’t understand and keeps referring to your mums dog, they are not remotely comparable (although still of course a risk to baby not remotely at the same level) and I would be livid with his attitude. You deserve better.
Do not delay - do what you need to do.
You explain how scared you are of the woman and make it anonymous.

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Sunbeam01 · 16/03/2026 03:28

I would move as soon as possible.

I would report the dog.

I would read the riot act to my partner. How unattractive - to put it politely.

Do not delay. Your gut is screaming to get out!!

The danger is very real.

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