AIBU to leave tonight after husband's texting and driving tantrum?

[Justinbimber]

My husband is slamming around the house and doing his aggressive “tidy up” routine because I said he shouldn’t text and drive.

We were in the car with his son (6). I said “if you keep texting and driving you’ll end up with 3 points, or worse”

He replied he always did it and why mention it now? Then he said it’s alright for me because I don’t drive so I can relax and go on my phone whenever I want.

He then threw his phone at the dashboard, and drove 50+ in a 30 zone for about 10 minutes. I was gripping my seat

He already drives under the influence of cannabis (everyday). I will not get in the car with him on these days.

Aibu to pack my bags and leave tonight? I’m sick of it all, whenever I bring up a slight criticism (?) it ends with these escalated moods and tension. His son is clinging to me since we got home which is unusually for him

10000% leave. He's going to kill someone if he carries on like this, don't let it be you. And, as a pp said, you need to warn his DS's mum.

You should report him on the non emergency number or online so that the police are aware of his reg to pull over to do a spot check. Both the phone use and drug driving.

His son’s safety and emotional well-being must be a priority.

Do you have his mother’s number? If so, contact her and explain what’s happened. I wouldn’t leave his son alone with him if he’s behaving so recklessly and aggressively. Leaving a 6 year old who’s clinging to you will be stressful for him and may put him in danger. His mother shouldn’t let his father have custody if he drives so dangerously. Accident waiting to happen.

I hope that you have left. And I agree with reporting him to the police and the mother if you feel able. He's endangering you, his son, and other road users.

I would divorce him, report him to the police and tell his ex why. If she doesn’t take steps to protect her child, I’d do a safeguarding concern to child social services.

Some people’s bar is so low when it comes to men. Can’t believe you have to ask the question. Poor kid- hope you are able to tell his mum and she is able to keep her child safe.

Who owns the property you live in, can you easily move out.

It’s a martial asset. No one moves out. Why would they? Even if it’s a rental why would OP shoulder the cost of a new one before she has to?

Yes leave. My ex was like that not long before I left. It didn't improve over time in my case. Tell the child's mother also in order to protect her son, tell her on the quiet if necessary and you think she's fairly responsible. Don't forget womens refuges are there also if needed

You say he drives under the influence of cannabis ‘every day’ but that you don’t get in the car with him on these days.
It can’t be both.
YOU know you’ve enabled him up until now and you know why you’ve posted here, today too.
Please keep reading the responses on here and allow them to give you strength and conviction to do the right thing for you and his little boy

I reported exh for dd and he lost his licence for 2 years

What a disgusting twat. Please report him before he kills someone.

How are you @Justinbimber ? Did you manage to leave? Or make a plan? His attitude and treatment of you is abusive and it’s hard to free yourself from that.

And alongside that his behaviour is out of control and very dangerous.

I hope you find a way through

My ex used to do this if we would have a row in the car. Hit the accelerator and stare without blinking, straight ahead, in a rage. An absolute lunatic.
Op, he’s a prick and I feel awful for his poor son. I hope you manage to leave x

You said ‘he drives under the influence every day’ so clearly you do!
But as long as you’re not affected by his shitty attitude and dangerous driving.
My daughter’s beautiful friend lost her life at 18 after someone under the influence ploughed into her and her boyfriend innocently walking along the pavement.

Why would you want to be with someone who is on cannabis every day?
And who texts and drives? While his son is in the car?
And tries to scare you with dangerous driving?
And tries to intimidate you by throwing things and stomping around?

Seriously- do you really need to be with someone that badly?

Leave him. he's not a great father figure nor a good partner..Best wishes. :)

How are you today, OP?
How was your DSS on Sunday? And when he went back to his DM?

eta - I’ve been thinking of you

Better someone dies through his driving than - God forbid - you're offended.