AIBU to think these TikTok ‘creators’ destroy their lives when they start getting popular?

[Wherethebirdflies]

Does anyone watch stace🤍 on TikTok?
I’ve watched her for a while now and thought what a lovely women she is but these past few months she has been awful and tonight she has been arrested for drink driving which I think is disgusting and I hope she gets what she deserves.
She couldn’t even walk straight before she went out while on live, someone questioned if she drove and her mods who enable her behaviour said no she would never do that.

This women airs everything online about her kids, the men she wants to shag, dry begging for things like shopping, things for her kids and the car she crashed tonight she got from her go fund me page she set up for herself. I think it’s really sad how a ‘mother’ can actually change so much for the worse.

Her young kids sit there and listen or watch her live while she talks to random men, meeting up with them saying in front of them that she wants this random man’s milk, leaving the kids in the house alone which is alright because one of them is 17 but half the time she is drunk too.

She talks about her abusive ex which it took her 25 years to escape from who she is scared of and wants the council to move her but sits and talks about him and that she is the victim and has trauma while according to her both her sons who have had drug problems had a perfect upbringing.

This week alone people have bought clothes for her kids, take aways, some weird bloke who obviously fancies her bought her a sex toy, an upholstery cleaner and she still sits there and says she’s skint and hints for stuff and is so ungrateful when she gets them and doesn’t even say thank you half the time.

Why are these TikTok ‘creators’ so greedy and entitled? I will never watch her again and hopefully her ‘community’ see her for what she is but I hope her kids get looked properly after this.

Why are you following her?

So you are follower you are part of what she is you and everyone contributed to this

People are happy to be in someone's life when it suits them, people froth at the mouth desperate for the drama

@PollyBell i have never gave her a penny. Like I said I enjoyed her lives but she has quickly spiralled and I will never watch her again if she’s not locked up that is. People who air their full life on a public platform then when something goes tits up they don’t want anyone to know about it. It’s going to be talked about if they kept their personal life off line no one would know a thing.

You are giving her money. Every view, like or comment earns her money. You are directly contributing to her lifestyle.

Why on earth does anyone follow " creators" and " influencers"? Do people have no lives of their own?
What a sick and voyeuristic society we have created

I agree. Their followers are just as bad as they enable them

You are paying her but people air their lives to people who watch or follow them people are desperate for details of these people's lives

The horse has bolted and you and a lot of people opened the gates

I have never watched an "influencer" on TikTok. I can't think of anything less interesting.

@TheTattooedLady you don’t get money for views. I don’t give gifts to anyone on TikTok.

@Springisspringingnow 😂😂 well what a sad bastard I am saying as I can’t get out the house often I enjoy watching peoples lives like all the other million sad bastards but sorry miss perfect life who must only use mumsnet 🙈

I enjoy watching peoples lives like all the other million sad bastards
Well at least you recognise it's sad.

It's hypocritical of you to express concern for what happens to these " creators " whose lives you are leaching on though.

You don’t give money directly, but TikTok pays it users when others watch their videos. You watching her videos mean you generate money for her. How do you think they make money?

Here is the relevant information “
TikTok pays creators through the Creator Rewards Programme. You earn money based on views and engagement”

I don't have tik tok, but I sometimes follow influencers on Facebook. Usually travel ones, or people trying food.

I think the best ones are people who come up with characters or personas. I know it's not the real them, and I don't want to know the real them. I don't like ones who use their children or get their children involved, or who beg for people to send them money.

There was a woman I unfollowed who had hundreds of guinea pigs. It wasn't a rescue, she just kind of kept collecting them. Then she was begging her followers to send her money so that she and her husband could buy a bigger house. I thought that was fucked up, so I unfollowed.

So yeah, if you follow someone and then they do something you don't like or don't align with, it's best to just unfollow and unsubscribe

You do get money from views on TikTok- that’s how it works

Sadly for influencers who get money from views they need to keep people engaged, often getting more and more extreme (in a world of many influencers) to get attention and new followers. A real life soap opera like Eastenders or Emerdale and I think it is a really sad reflection on society….

"Why are these TikTok ‘creators’ so greedy and entitled?"

Because vacuous idiots watch them and thus encourage them.

Anyone who watches this stuff is part of the problem. She sounds bloody awful. If you want a nice life do things that raise your energy, not lower it.

My thoughts exactly. There are a lot of people earning vast sums of money from this rubbish.
Sadly when you ask kids what they want to do in life, a lot will reply "Be an influencer"
Why can't people think for themselves?

I agree that the pressure to keep the views leads to more extreme behaviour, its a vicious cycle for those who are "famous" for their own lifestyle vs someone who has a talent they can share with the world.

I dont know who this woman is but it sounds like shes been a pretty vile person to be watching for sometime.

Also, as PP has pointed out, you are funding her via your views. We are being sold for our data and preferences to advertisers. Watching her gets her money as it gives advertisers a huge audience to flog their tat and other organisations a curated audience to spread their views and ideologies. It might be free to access tik tok and insta but we are being sold.

I don’t think you understand how TikTok works. They do get money for views, so if you’re watching her, you’re paying her.

She sounds pretty vulnerable. I expect that’s the case with a lot of people who try to make a living out of broadcasting their lives like this.

But here you are saying that Influencers and content creators are greedy, when you are one of the people who is funding them. I’ve never looked at TikTok or Instagram and I’m confident my life is better for it. If I want entertainment, I watch a TV programme or film, or read an article or a book.

In consuming this sort of content, you are contributing to the problem.

Some woman who you don’t know and who is pretending her life is something that it is not and you are watching it? I suppose it’s just like watching the soaps. People are making all that up and then filming it for people to watch. But there is an understanding by the majority of people that it’s all just pretend but that hasn’t reached the influencer watchers yet.

You ‘enjoyed her lives’ but it’s not her actual life. She’s pretending it is just as much as Julie Goodyear was pretending to be Bette Lynch. Many actors have gone off the rails and made poor choices. Usually they get written out and the show goes on. With this, it’s up to the audience if they choose to watch it or not.

@ChinaPlates- such a good comparison- I have often thought that soaps were replaced first by Reality TV and now by social media ‘creators’. (Obviously I know people still watch soaps but I doubt they have as many viewers as they did in the 80s and 90s).

And actually, during that time when soaps were huge, you’d occasionally hear about people who’d shout at a soap actor when they saw them in the street because they had got so invested in the show and confused fiction with real life. This is just an updated version of that, except that some of these creators really do have chaotic lives.

It’s a modern day freakshow and the OP (and millions like her) are happy to watch people’s lives fall apart in real time and then gossip about it. For all the weird and amazing variety in the animal kingdom, humans are by far the weirdest.

Stacey who !!! At least give a full story

Creators get money for every view, like, comment. Even a follow pushes them furthur up to x amount of views therefore they can join the creator fund to make money. Its why creators ask you to interact from the bottom up, shares, likes, follows, comments etc