Three or four baths a week?

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When we redid our bathroom we got a lovely big deep tub with the intention of using it as a nice treat approx once every 2-3 months. DSD enjoys using it 3-4 times a week and complains that her ensuite shower isn't usable as the pressure in her shower is 'too low' (its fine- not a power shower but totally usable!). Am I unreasonable to feel this is completely ungrateful attitude and an ensuite is a massive privilege (only she has one in our house) she spends up to 2 hours bathing in our bath and I've worked out each bath costs £3.50 in gas and water (it's 300 litre capacity). When challenged on why she refuses to use her own bathroom she just shrugs/ scowls. Her ensuite is a shower room with a toilet (no bath) for reference.

Unless you are really having to watch every penny financially, I find it incredible you’ve worked out how much each individual bath costs. It’s a lovely way to relax and unwind, so not just about getting clean.

I think the concept of getting a bathtub so big that you only intended to use it 4-6 times a year, absurd. So for that alone yes YABU

Is the bath in the family bathroom or your ensuite?

DS too. I limit him to two now. Imagine telling them their next one is due in June.

You've built a bath up to seem like a scandalously decadent thing. Its just a bath. This seems so petty that it does seem like you're looking for things to be annoyed at her for. I'd let this one go.

You’ve worked out how much her baths cost? Fuck me. Why would anyone get a bath fitted for it to be hardly used and then resent someone using it

My in-laws changed the bath to a shallow one when they moved house, so that my SiL couldn't have a deep, long bath when she visited (not more than once a year!).

I stopped staying with my in-laws when they complained I splashed too much in the shower.

I judged them for these actions, it's not a good look being tight and unwelcoming.

I've never told my Sil about the bath thing, she's visiting next week...

YABU - a bath isn't a "treat", it's a standard method of staying clean for everyday life.

That is the strange opinion in the OP, not your DSD wanting to use the bath to wash in.

I have a bath most days. I don't see the problem.

You could put a line round it, like they used to in the War.

No way is this real. Nobody buys a bath planning to only use it as a treat every 2-3 months.

If you can afford the £3.50 each time, then let her enjoy it.

And with 2 family members sharing it either at the same time or one after the other.

Even better.

Perfect, and then for her one meal of the day she can have a 1960s ration pack

Or make a MN chicken…

I love a bath and have at least one a day. Sometimes I go all out and have a shower in the evenings for quickness

Don't be mean and let her have a bath

£728 a year for 4 baths a week,

If people genuinely think that's a small amount then please send me some money.

• and to hog the bathroom for hours on end - it's a twatty thing to do. Doesn't matter if there's another bathroom I want to use mine and not someone else's.

A powerless shower sounds cold and miserable. I get terrible red spots on my legs if I ever had to shave my legs in a shower I'm not completely hot in, baths are way better for leg shaving.

It is a massive treat to have an ensuite, definitely, but a shit shower is just miserable.

You're being weird and unreasonable about a bath , you sound mean,

I have a clearly superior tub to the one in my daughter’s en-suite. The only problem with my daughter using mine is that means some nights I don’t get the long bath I planned. She has been having a tough spell, she needs the mental relaxation more these days.

I'm thinking the OP creates a ration book, and the DSD uses up coupons for each meal.
Perhaps she could also ration electricity in the bedroom and provide candles for her.

Not sure why she has to spend so long in there! That would do my head in!

im a bath person though and want one everyday!!

How old is she?

Yes.
Plus an enormous salad.

Deduct from pocket money ?

I don't use my bath much and find it gets really dusty, so you DSD is doing you a favour by helping keep it clean!

As pp said, no way does it cost £3.50 a time.