Three or four baths a week?

[christonapushbike]

When we redid our bathroom we got a lovely big deep tub with the intention of using it as a nice treat approx once every 2-3 months. DSD enjoys using it 3-4 times a week and complains that her ensuite shower isn't usable as the pressure in her shower is 'too low' (its fine- not a power shower but totally usable!). Am I unreasonable to feel this is completely ungrateful attitude and an ensuite is a massive privilege (only she has one in our house) she spends up to 2 hours bathing in our bath and I've worked out each bath costs £3.50 in gas and water (it's 300 litre capacity). When challenged on why she refuses to use her own bathroom she just shrugs/ scowls. Her ensuite is a shower room with a toilet (no bath) for reference.

in medieval times people used to bathe in rivers.

lots of people still swim in rivers at all months of the year but it doesn’t really get you clean and personally I find that I need a shower or bath afterwards otherwise I stink of river.

also the water is never hot by anyone’s definition.

maybe you could move to Iceland op, I saw a campsite there that had a hot spring feeding into an icewater melt river. Looked lovely. Also free!

I think of you are wealthy enough for an en-suite shower then surely you shouldn’t be complaining about the cost of having a bath.

Charge her.
Electricity is going up with the war in Iran.

If your husband is happy to pay £14 a week for his daughter to bathe, then you're unreasonable to object on cost grounds. As how much he spends on his daughter is up to him and its a small amount in the scheme of things. It wouldn't be unreasonable to have some rules about when she uses it and for how long if its inconveniencing other people needing to use it.

You don't like her . Poor kid

This made me snort!

Because it’s the first post and obviously true!

Clear resentment of a step child - another blissful blended family.

Assuming they would pee in her en suite if needed to go

You begrudge a family member a bath every other night? And treat a bath as a quarterly treat? Do you live in 1920?

I hope you’re warm and generous in other ways because this is pretty grim

I remember going for super long baths all the time when I was a teen, taking my book in there, taking as long as I could to escape my controlling and demoralising step mother. Just some food for thought there

Plus if in the bath for 2hrs she must be topping it up so loosen plug and add more hot water or else water be freezing

so that’s an extra cost as well

those who have 1800 spas they just be huge

mine is 600l

I agree it’s mean to ration baths unless you are really struggling financially, but no way would she be keeping the room with the en-suite if she refuses to use it. We’d be having a swap round so that someone who appreciates the shower has the en-suite and she could have whatever baths she wants as a trade-off.

And a cock bar

Oh look - a plop and run froth generating poster 🤥

I can think of much worse things a teenager could be doing than taking too many baths. Pick your battles.

I’m sure there’s more at play here. Perhaps she could be more grateful, perhaps you could be less resentful, but it’s her home, a place where she should feel safe, loved and secure in, strive for that. Unless of course she’s 30 and not paying a dime.

No it's not.
A bath is a luxury.
I remember when we could only afford one a week.

A bath uses a lot of water and her DS stays in it for 2 hours 3 or 4 times a week - she's taking the mickey.
She has an en-suite with a shower.

I'd tell her she can use the bath once a week and the shower for the other days.

Me too, nothing better than getting in a hot bath, i can't go to bed unless I've had one.

Lots of love earners have ensuites, they are pretty standard now.
The point the OP is making is that her new bathtub is 300 it's capacity whereas a standard one is about 100ltrs.
So effectively the SD is taking the equivalent of 9 to 12 standard baths per week.

It’s about a quid a bath, probable less so. RTFT. OP’s maths has been questioned and debunked

Maybe @christonapushbike has fallen into her bath and cant get out as she’s not retuning and replying

If you want a display bath for purely ornamental purposes, put it in the front garden so the neighbours can admire it.

An ordinary 100 litre bath for bathing in, will give you less excuse to moan.

I don't know how it can be debunked when we don't know the area where OP lives and who supplies her energy.
But let's assume for the sake of it that OP lives in the same area as me.
Water charge £2.20 m3, wastewater charge £2.80 m3. There is 0.3 m3 in a 300l bath. That takes us to £1.50 for water charge only.
Let's assume that OP is on national average gas tariff and her step daughter heats water to a balmy 45 degrees Celsius. This will take approximately 12,75kw/h worth of gas at 80 pence a pop.
So the total for the bath comes at £2.30
Multiplied by 4 times a week, multiplied by 4,2 weeks in a month achieving a grand total of £38.64

Not sure where your quid a bath comes from but happy to review your calculations.

I just googled that and it just gave me lots of pubs called the cock,

now my imagination is running wild

Blimey. What do you think bathrooms are for? Would you be happy if she had cold baths? (And if it’s a refurbished bathroom I bet it’s got an extractor fan.)