Three or four baths a week?

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When we redid our bathroom we got a lovely big deep tub with the intention of using it as a nice treat approx once every 2-3 months. DSD enjoys using it 3-4 times a week and complains that her ensuite shower isn't usable as the pressure in her shower is 'too low' (its fine- not a power shower but totally usable!). Am I unreasonable to feel this is completely ungrateful attitude and an ensuite is a massive privilege (only she has one in our house) she spends up to 2 hours bathing in our bath and I've worked out each bath costs £3.50 in gas and water (it's 300 litre capacity). When challenged on why she refuses to use her own bathroom she just shrugs/ scowls. Her ensuite is a shower room with a toilet (no bath) for reference.

Blocking the use of the bathroom for 2 hours every other day is unreasonable.

But you need to use the bath yourself a lot more than 4 times a year.

WTF
…..Alternatively you could let your family members feel comfortable in their own home instead of a B and B in the 1970s.

Yes

Adding for perspective, we’re a household of 5 (three young adult kids) and none of us has had a bath in the entire 5 years we’ve lived here.

But kids did have baths when younger, e.g. primary age or in winter after playing football.

I'd say pick your battles in parenting. This is 100% not a battle I'd choose to pick. I'd be glad she is washing. Could easily go the other way at that age. And honestly if she is finding such a simple way to relax for £3.50 a pop I'd be very happy. Are you annoyed at something you're not acknowledging OP?

I can’t imagine why you would install a bath to use 4-6 times a year - it makes absolutely no sense at all! I bath everyday, I think to begrudge a child (who actually wants to keep clean) is a bit mean!

Why would you put in a bath if you’re only planning to use it 4-6 times a year? If you are struggling financially, fine…. But otherwise you’re being mean to her. I’m glad you’re not my stepmother! My daughter and I have a bath (not at the same time!) every day, we both love it. My husband and son prefer showers.

She really shouldn't have the ensuite if she is hogging the family bathroom for hours several times a week. Nothing more annoying than someone wallowing for 2 hours, steaming up the bathroom, condensation everywhere.

🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 this must be a joke.... go have a bath and chill out a bit

Goodbye and good riddance I say 😂

No one thus far has done the caluclation for gas

I refuse to believe it costs 3.50 a go.

£3.50 for something she enjoys sounds a very reasonable cost.

Is it a genuine financial hardship or are you being mean? One of my greatest pleasures is a long Long soak in the bath. I go in daily when I can! My husband has never used our bath, not once, he’ll occasionally use a hotel bath as a novelty, but he just doesn’t get it. He’s not depriving himself like you!

That’s super expensive. Is this a recent thing because I’m wondering if she’ll grow out of it.

There's nothing more miserable than a piddly, crappy shower. Maybe you could start using it seeing as you think it's fine and don't want it to go unused?

Sorry but are you Charles Dickens? It’s fucking insane to see a bath as a ‘treat’ every 3 months. WTF.
A nightly bath is very normal for people who don’t like showers. It’s less than a tenner a week- lighten up

No, DSD should not be monopolising the family bathroom for hours on end.

But you really shouldn’t have married a man with children if you weren’t prepared to “allow” said children to have 3-4 baths per week,

Accidently voted YANBU. Give the girl a break. I lived in the bath as a teenager. Sounds like you don't like her very much.

I love long hot baths. I read while I'm in there its definitely not a waste of time, no more than sitting on the sofa and reading would be.

Theres something very soothing about water, I love swimming for the same reason.

You’re being ridiculous to buy a tub as a treat to use every 2-3 months, and to get annoyed at the £3.50 cost per bath and the person who wants to actually make use of it. Factoring in installation costs, what’s the cost per use over ten years if between the three of you you have a maximum of 18 baths per year, or 180 baths in total? £1000 outlay would cost £5.50 per bath plus £3.50 to fill it. £9 per bath. This is baffling logic.

Some people wash more thoroughly than others?

I have never before come across anything like this. Who on earth has a new bathroom installed as a luxury to be only used occasionally?

Let the girl enjoy her baths in peace! If you can afford to have a new bathroom, you can afford the baths.

Honestly.

She was 17 last time OP moaned posted about her, just before Xmas.

No. Loads of people have said something along the lines of 'you clearly just don't like her''

They simply would not be saying that if it were the OP's own daughter.

What a miserable outlook on life OP.