Three or four baths a week?

[christonapushbike]

When we redid our bathroom we got a lovely big deep tub with the intention of using it as a nice treat approx once every 2-3 months. DSD enjoys using it 3-4 times a week and complains that her ensuite shower isn't usable as the pressure in her shower is 'too low' (its fine- not a power shower but totally usable!). Am I unreasonable to feel this is completely ungrateful attitude and an ensuite is a massive privilege (only she has one in our house) she spends up to 2 hours bathing in our bath and I've worked out each bath costs £3.50 in gas and water (it's 300 litre capacity). When challenged on why she refuses to use her own bathroom she just shrugs/ scowls. Her ensuite is a shower room with a toilet (no bath) for reference.

It’s not £50 a month. It may be £20 a month. For 32 hours enjoyment - it’s not bad!

You sound a right miser..

I thought someone said it was £3.50 a bath?

Thats £14 a week, which is nearly £60 a month?

Sorry - you are 100% right, I read "our bathroom" as meaning OP's ensuite but she didn't actually say that

In that case YABVU OP

Op would be perfectly reasonable if she complained that dsd uses all the hot water and there’s none left for anyone else. Been there done that got the t shirt.

the cost isn’t a lot of money but for some people it would be an issue and again if op were low income and saying we can’t afford it then fine.

but paying for what is presumably a more expensive than standard bath and planning to use it four times a year is absolutely insane.

It's 3.50 a pop, 3-4 times a week which makes a total of between £42 and £60 a month.
That's absolutely fine if this is your priority. It's not mine and I consider it frivolous based on my budget and my priorities.

“When we redid our bathroom we got a lovely big deep tub with the intention of using it as a nice treat approx once every 2-3 months.”

When you were renovating your bathroom you discussed how often you would treat yourself to a bath ?????

You sound like you have other underlying issues with you Dsd; is she living with you full time? Do you have animosity towards her because she has the en-suite; or because she’s got a bit of an attitude .

Wouldn't be happening in my house. Thank god DD hates baths just as much as I do. Don't have any stepchildren, thank fuck, I'd hate them. Someone absolutely pointlessly stewing 2 hours in water 4 times/week would drive me up the wall. Ridiculous, go do something with your time. Once a week - ok, maybe, 4 times is time wasting and would bore me to tears. 10 mins in the shower and then go do something interesting. Not mentioning clogging the bathroom pretty much every weekday for hours.

I could afford the expense easily, but I don't see the point in spending money on totally pointless bullshit. That 50 quid or whatever could be spent on books, added to some gig tix, edible treats, makeup, whatever. All better than pay to lie in fucking water for hours.

Tell her no, you pay the bills, not her.

You remind me of these people who buy a cake, then eat a tiny slice, or just look at it on display while it rots away because "Too many calories!". It's the same with your bath...what was the point in buying it? How much did it cost? Could the price of said bath paid your water/gas/electric for a certain period of time if you just had a bog-standard bath? Like, who buys an expensive car if they cannot afford to run it...gods..first world problems.

Leave your SD alone! It's up to her Bio parent whether she bathes, not just you. Also, if you don't like her - Take your bath and sail it down a river? Water will be free to fill it, that way.

Bloody hell, first world problems right there , imagine
worrying about teenagers keeping clean !

In a quiet moment in work today I was thinking about all the things I was looking forward to when I retire - one of them was that I'd have time for a long soak in the bath every day.
Clearly, I am a completely profligate human being

Its the adults ensuite
Shes being very pushy intruding

No doubt though all the rapid exs will go after the Op !

If the cost is making it unaffordable you might have a point. For any other reason YABU

£3.50 !!! I really doubt that . I have a shower each morning and a bath every night in the winter as it’s just soo lush when it’s cold and dark . I’ve realised it’s loads cheaper to have a bath than a shower, I can easily spend 10/15 min in the shower if I’m washing hair , ourselves isn’t a deep deep bath it’s normal size but I have a good full bath and no way is it anywhere near £3.50 . Why have a bath to use half dozen times a year I don’t get it baths are not really luxuries . Be grateful she’s keeping herself clean at that age a lot don’t

No DSD is the only one with the an en suite, the bath is in the main bathroom.

It isn't the adults' en-suite. It's the main bathroom.

We also don't know how old she is. She might be an adult for all we know.

What does your DP think?

It’s certainly bad for the environment using so much hot water each week. Is she not aware of the need to be environmentally sustainable? As to cost, it depends how skint you are. If you’re comfortably off, I wouldn’t begrudge her (cost wise) a bath a couple of times a week. I wouldn’t even work out the cost.

But if every pound matters to you, then your DP should explain neither of you take baths as it’s too costly. But mainly that it’s bad for the environment. It’s not your job to explain. It’s your DP’s daughter.

Have you tried the shower in her en-suite? Perhaps the water pressure is worse than you think. If not, she shouldn’t be expecting a power shower. Most parents don’t even have an en-suite, let alone a power shower - and most kids certainly don’t have both.

Maybe you should have got a smaller more cost-effective bath that you could have afforded for people to use more often 😂

I was thinking exactly the same

why have it and not use it??

clearly you have an issue with your stepdaughter - stop being so mean

A deep bath means bigger bills. Change her shower anc she'll have no reason to bath so frequently. It's cheaper

“Our bath” so it’s not her bath in the slightest ? hmmm back story here maybe

Are you on a water meter?

This is mental and you don’t seem like a nice person OP

What’s wrong with you???