To think most jobs are boring and do not give people fulfilment ?

[HavefunGomadLivingInTheCity]

Perhaps day 80percent maybe even 90 ?

it’s just a way to get money and pay bills and live and maybe have a few holidays and treats etc Along the way

I just find it fake how younger generations are told they need to find something that going to make them feel so good

Your in a different life stage than my niece and you live in an area that's cheaper than the 90s!

This is where the vote is really useful, as this thread is bound to attract the 10/20 percent

And the vote is much more telling at 78 voters, agreeing, by 83percent

Am in my mid 50s and coming up to 40 years in journalism, absolutely love what I do and hope that I am living proof for my kids that yes, it is possible to get paid for doing something you love but life is harder for them for sure!

I loved my job in payroll. It paid me enough to live on and to pay for my hobbies and interests, and support two rescue cats! I have recently been made redundant after 17 years and I am now looking for something very similar.

I think every job has it's less interesting moments, but this is balanced by the more challenging elements.

That doesn't mean your niece can't also work a job she loves and that pays her bills. She'll just have to decide what's more important to her - location, job, money, being near family - whatever.

I moved six+ hours away from where I grew up to be able to afford the lifestyle I have. We all have to make sacrifices.

I don't think young people are told they will find a job they love, and if they are told that, I doubt they believe it. There is nothing wrong with being encouraged to get as good qualifications as you can, in the hope you can get a job which you at least find vaguely interesting. One job that lots of young people seem to like the idea of is being an influencer. I seriously doubt that schools or careers advisers are encouraging that.

Who exactly do you think is telling young people 'they need to find something that going to make them feel so good'?

You’re absolutely right, OP. I hated all but one of my jobs and freely admit I was relieved when my health meant I couldn’t work anymore.

When I left school in the midst of a massive economic slump, I had no idea what I wanted to do so got pushed into a YTS office job and never managed to get away from that kind of boring, bitchy, backbiting environment.

To be telling kids they’re all going to find their passion at work is wrong. It’s just not true.

I've had a career that I've very much loved and which I'm now coming to the end of - I'm a couple of years off retirement. It has been interesting and challenging, and is in an area that I'm passionate about. I've been very fortunate to be able to make an ok living from it. However, it has also been insanely stressful at times and has probably made it much harder for me to develop and keep relationships. I've often wondered if a more boring and less fulfilling job would have resulted in me having a more balanced life!

I do my job for the money and intellectual stimulation.

I get ‘fulfilment’ in a myriad of other ways - friends, travel, relationship with DP, exercise, music, raves, festivals, art, culture, health & self-care, reading, learning & self-development.

Works for me. 😊

I have a family member who has quit umpteen jobs because they just didn't match their 'passion'. As if everyone commuting in at 6am is following their passion in life. It's middle class entitlement to think you can just arse about until you find THE ONE job that ticks every box.

But respectfully, what does your niece have to do with whether @faerylights enjoys her job and the choices she's made? You didn't specify what life stage you wanted responses from. I'm in my 50s and from a crushingly poor background, and I was making my choices in the context of the deep recession of the 1980s with mass unemployment in my home country. I saw the cost of physically demanding, deadening, ill-remunerated jobs on my parents and grandparents, and wanted something different for myself. Education gave me the power to do that, but I was also living on tiny scholarships and small change from down the back of the sofa for years while studying, and in squats in my early London days.

Interesting. I'm not MC, and it was a matter of studying and working several PT jobs on the side and living in squalid houseshares and squats till I got a foot in the job I wanted.

Thank you @FacingtheSun ! I was starting to feel as though I was losing my marbles slightly, lol.

Hm, I certainly never arsed around - I got my degree (which turned out to be a waste of time) and then worked a bunch of shitty retail jobs for minimum wage that I hated until I got myself into a position where I could take the plunge and start my own business.

I’ve done quite a few jobs. Some made me fulfilled, others didn’t. But, I just looked on jobs as a way to pay the bills, so I didn’t think about it too much.

I remember my very middle class friend asking about my dh's job, "but is he really PASSIONATE about it?"

It really irked me as the friend went to the poshest of boarding schools and got her job through straight up nepotism. My dh is from a much more ordinary background, went to state school and still did a hell of a lot better than my friend did at school and also university. It actually soured the friendship a lot. I haven't looked at her the same way since.

That's great, but can you accept that your experience is not universal, or probably even that of the majority?

No, I thought your post was great -- you made choices and compromises that allowed you to live a life that suits you, which I think is admirable. (And it's also a good reason not to have children, if it's going to involve you deforming your life totally.) It wouldn't suit everyone, but it doesn't have to. (Neither would mine.) All power to you.

Yep, I'm a primary school teacher and it is never boring. It is hard work and can be stressful but I do laugh at some point every day. Never a dull moment. 😂🙈

What stage of life is your niece in and where does she live?

Sure, but that doesn't mean it's any less valid.

I am an independent IT consultant in the financial sector. Absolutely love my job! Perhaps you are projecting OP? Just because you haven’t found what you love it doesn’t mean lots of us haven’t. Be bold and experiment!

Yep, that's why you have to make the most of it. Most jobs are shite...but the people you work with, the challenge either physically or mentally, the time off funded by work.

Most of all the sense of satisfaction at a job well done. The two most satisfying jobs I've done. Tidying the wood department as a Saturday boy at WH Smith Do It All and weeding a huge flower bed by hand in 2 hours as a gardener. Not the most interesting jobs but I really enjoyed doing it just for knowing how it would be worth it at the end

Thank you! It's certainly not for everyone and it's certainly not been easy - COVID was really difficult and there were several years where I thought "what the fuck have I done?!", lol.

I love my job. I work in the water industry and to others that probably sounds very boring but my role is analytical and I find it very rewarding. I took a 15k pay cut to be happy from a higher role within the same company and have no regrets. Not huge pay, but enough to pay a regular mortgage and have some left over for leisure.
Whats boring for someone might really be fulfilling for another. Horses for courses!

But I do think people need to be realistic when job hunting. I have a friend that was out of work for a while because she wanted something she enjoyed but things like working in film weren’t coming to fruition. So yeah I guess sometimes beggars can’t be choosers when it comes to paying the bills