Hate sharing hotel rooms (except with dh)

[PrincessPig]

I am travelling at the minute and ended up leaving the room I was sharing with two female friends last night and paying for my own room. It was the best money I ever spent and I am never sharing a hotel room with anyone other than dh and dcs again.

The issues were a bit of snoring, (which I sometimes do myself tbh, and it wasn't loud so not a big problem), people being messy, leaving worn socks on the table right next to the kettle etc, but the worst thing was one woman having catnaps at dinner time then being awake half the night browsing her phone. Ugh, the light flashing past my face waking me up was so annoying. If you can't sleep, I suppose that's difficult but maybe cut out the pre bedtime snoozes?

Anyway, that is my rant.

Aibu to say that sharing hotel rooms is horrible and to really resent paying for a bad night's sleep?

I hadn't shared with anyone but close family for years until I went away with my cousin for a weekend. We used to go on holiday together when young so I thought it would be fine. She used all the towels, put the tissue box on her bedside table, spent ages in the bathroom so I had to use the toilet at reception and to top it all, balanced her sweaty socks on top of my trousers hanging in the wardrobe. I then stayed overnight in a hotel sharing with a good friend. She snored really loudly and I kept waking up, tossing and turning. I wasn't going to say anything as she wasn't doing it on purpose, but in the morning she complained about my snoring!
Both are still good friends but I will never share with anyone but DH again!

People writing that they wouldn't stay in hostels - some do have private rooms.

I don't mind sharing toilets and showers (with other women), it's just like being at work or the gym. For me it's better than staying in a hotel and sharing a bathroom with DH. It feels more private, too, as there's nobody just outside unable to avoid hearing any 'bathroom' noises.....

I wouldn't share with anyone other than DH, but I have a single friend who often goes on holiday with a female friend (not always the same one) and they share a room. Not doing so would put up the price a lot.

For anyone who can sleep well in a room with someone random - sleep through snoring, movement and toilet trips for eg - sharing makes sense. I can’t do that so I’d rather either pay the extra or not go. I travel a lot solo anyway, so paying for a whole hotel room isn’t out of the ordinary for me.

I have never shared a room unless someone else is paying ( eg the odd bridesmaid the night before the wedding thing). I don't know why grown ups would do this. Obviously I do with DH and did with men I was in a relationship with but not with friends or family since becoming an adult.

I will not be sharing with anyone, (unless forced to, like a major emergency), from now on except my husband and kids.

I've got a hen party coming up that I'm absolutely dreading for this reason. Not just sharing rooms but most of the party are sharing beds. It's funny because on here people are horrified at even the idea of sharing rooms but when I queried the bed thing on the group whatsapp everyone else was completely fine with it! It's been the same on other hens I've been on too, I've been the weird one for not wanting to share a sofa bed with a total stranger! Usually I'd just say 'thanks but no thanks' but I'd committed before they sprung this on us 🙄 Paying an absolute fortune for the privilege too!

Is Cathy organising the hen? 😄

I was really pressured into sharing and then made to feel like a total weirdo for moving out by Cathy. But I don't care what she (or anyone else I happen to go travelling with) thinks in future. I am not sharing and paying for the privilege when I'm not comfortable. Balls to that. They can call me weird or whatever they want tbh

I'd rather share with friends than a snoring farting man wanting sex.

Well, that does not sound pleasant either tbf, but I sleep quite happily next to dh. I can 100% see the appeal in having separate bedrooms from dh if we had the space.

I'm not sure why any of thought sharing a premier Inn room would be nice and comfortable.

I don't even share with my DC, we always get adjoining as their just isn't enough space and we all keep each other awake and then are tired and cranky the next day.

Yanbu. I need my space and privacy. I'm happy sharing with dp but no other adults.

I dont want to listen to snoring and farting

I certainly didn't think it would be nice or comfortable. But Cathy was very keen to share, and while I didn't anticipate a luxury experience, I also didn't think it would involve a 40yo woman behaving like a teenager with her 3am tiktok scrolling, grumpily telling off Jenny and making a mess.

Anyway, lesson learnt and never again

I totally agree with you! I'm not a great sleeper at the best of times, but sharing a room makes it even worse. I've got a weekend away with a friend in the summer and I've already said we need to do separate rooms. I like to have a really quiet, dark room at night, but my friend likes a late-night chat, and I tend to wake up early so I don't want to bother her in the morning. I've decided that paying for my own room is the only way forward- if I pay for a shared room then it really is money down the drain as I'll just lie awake frustrated with her habits or worried that mine are annoying her.