Hate sharing hotel rooms (except with dh)

[PrincessPig]

I am travelling at the minute and ended up leaving the room I was sharing with two female friends last night and paying for my own room. It was the best money I ever spent and I am never sharing a hotel room with anyone other than dh and dcs again.

The issues were a bit of snoring, (which I sometimes do myself tbh, and it wasn't loud so not a big problem), people being messy, leaving worn socks on the table right next to the kettle etc, but the worst thing was one woman having catnaps at dinner time then being awake half the night browsing her phone. Ugh, the light flashing past my face waking me up was so annoying. If you can't sleep, I suppose that's difficult but maybe cut out the pre bedtime snoozes?

Anyway, that is my rant.

Aibu to say that sharing hotel rooms is horrible and to really resent paying for a bad night's sleep?

Always shared when younger. Now I don’t unless it’s absolutely unavoidable. I don’t sleep well, I tend to wake early, I snore, I wee in the night a lot and, frankly I like a bit of space!

Tbh, I don’t think it’s unreasonable for an adult to be on their Kindle or phone at night, provided it’s on mute.

Having to switch your device off at a certain time feels like having a curfew on a school night 😂🫣

But then I don’t think it’s fair get annoyed at someone snoring or if they need to get up in the night for a wee (or even multiple weed like OP!)

If you’re a light sleeper then either take ear plugs and a mask or book your own room. As adults we all have very different sleeping habits and they’re not always compatible - which is often too late once you’re there.

I struggle to sleep (ADHD - hence why I’m awake AND on my phone at 5am 😂🫣) but once I’m asleep very little wakes me up. However hell would freeze over before I shared a room - I can’t relax with anyone other than DP and DC in my personal space.

Glad you got your own room OP - sounds way better for all of you!

I love staying in hotels, it's one of the best things for me, and I never ever ever share.
I could consider sharing with my younger sister for one night, but that's all.

Oh gawd. I’m about to go on holiday abroad with my friend and we are sharing a room. We’ve been away together twice though so think she’s used to me now.

I quite often go away with friends and we share BUT I don't enjoy that part. Last time my friend complained about my breathing at night, not snoring, breathing....

"My teenage son refused to share with his sister"

Well of course. You didn't ask them to share a bed, did you?

Perhaps Cathy couldn’t sleep because Jenny’s snoring kept her awake. I always have my own room now as my friend’s snoring drove me insane when we shared a hotel room. At least when it’s my husband I can wake him up to tell him/elbow him in the ribs/kick his legs or get up and go sleep on the sofa

Cripes...I don't even like sharing with my dh!!

Possibly, but Cathy was the one who insisted on sharing in the first place and was huffy as arse when I suggested we get our own rooms. Jenny was not snoring loudly and Cathy saying "Jenny you're snoring" and flashing her phone was (to me) so much more annoying.

I appreciate that's just down to the person in question though and that some people find snoring like torture, but those people would be wise not to insist on sharing a bedroom with two other adults. At least after the first night, you'd think she'd decide sharing wasn't such a great idea, but she was still adamant it was better to be together.

The morning after I got my own room, she came into my new sanctuary room and plopped herself straight into my bed and under my covers as it was cold in my room apparently 😒 😂

I am never sharing with anyone again, least of all Cathy! I am also not telling her my room number again if we are travelling together.

I have a couple of good friends that I would share with but I’ve known them for years.

always happy to share with DH, my young adult daughters or my sisters. But I think that’s different.

lots of feels I haven’t known as long I wouldn’t really want to share with if I could avoid it. From the sounds of it your friends are really annoying and it seems fair enough that you have moved out!!

I never share. I've been single now for ages and don't think I could even bear sharing with a partner now.

Jenny’s snoring would be way more irritating to me than a phone screen 🤷‍♀️
I never share. Happy to spend the money.

I can hang out and chat and then go to my own room for a sleep. The expense is worth it to me. If I don’t sleep I don’t enjoy anything else, so it’s all a huge waste.

Some hostels (many, maybe even most) now have separate rooms (en suite) - they’re far more common than shared dorms. I’d imagine Oxford could be quite pricey, so that might be an option esp if your work isn’t paying

Yes, I've just said I know that some people cannot tolerate any snoring at all and that's fine and understandable. I clearly cannot stand people being on their phones when I am sleeping while some people have said they would be fine with it.

Cathy seems to be one of those people who cannot stand snoring and also appears to be nocturnal. So insisting on sharing is nuts at best and a dick move at worst.

You say you hate snoring....and you never share. Exactly. That is the reasonable thing to do! Being someone who seems to not enjoy sleeping at nught and also someone who hates any snoring at all AND insisting we share a room, and getting pissy when I moved out is why I'm a bit miffed with Cathy tbh.

She is my friend but never again

I went from never sharing a room with friends as I'm a total insomniac, to deciding never to share my home with a husband ever again, either! Best decision ever to rid myself of the emotional intelligence of both of them. My little Labrador snoozing peacefully next to me and my cats purrs are pure autistic bliss.

Nice hotels confuse me. I’m just sleeping there. It doesn’t need to be fancy. Just clean. I do, however, need to sleep - that’s precarious enough in an unknown room wothout adding another person!s noises - turning over, coughing, snoring…

Ugh. I'm still traumatized nu having to share with a colleague on a work trip years ago. We were staying in the nicest hotel in the city but had to.share a room. It was clear even the hotel receptionist found it weird.

She was a bitch to me all day at work and then all evening it was "I hope you're not one of those [my nationality] who needs total privacy in the bathroom." "You're wearing that?!" "Don't use the room phone, it's too expensive!" "TV is for the proletariat." "Hotel shampoo is only good for washing your tights "

When the event was over I moved to a crappy hostel for a couple days on my own and it was bliss.

There are 2 people in the world I’d share with. DD and one friend of 40+ years.

This sounds horrendous. I'm glad you escaped but annoyed she ended up with a room to herself in the nicest hotel in the city!

I’m the opposite, I’ll share with anyone if it saves a few quid! Went to Marrakech last year with DD1 and we slept in mixed dorms for £10 per night each. The last hostel we were in, the door didn’t even close and the mattress was sagging, lumpy pillows and a weird heavy blanket but I slept like a baby for some reason!

No she went back home. I stayed on over the weekend. Not sure how I managed without her to tell me everything I was doing wrong.

I've often wondered whether a room each for me and dh would be a good idea. They do adjoining rooms at one place we stay at. It'd be expensive though.

As I said, maternity leave is a good model.

I’ve only done it once and that was on a three night trip. It was ok, my friend did hog the bathroom but the hotel had a beautiful spa so I used that a lot.
We had one of my most fun nights ever when we stayed in and I had a bed picnic with a bottle of wine each and watched Love Island together. My friend is American and I was explaining all the accents to her. That made up for the bathroom hogging.
We also had room service breakfast on the balcony and again it was such a lovely experience.