Nice guy in hospital turned weird

[TheOpalFox]

When my dad was in hospital really poorly a guy next to my dad was really kind and friendly with my dad, my dad got discharged and swapped numbers with this gentleman. He’s in his 60s
Well he’s texting my dad saying he fancies me
And can he take me out and he’s literally acting obsessed with me.
Sounds awful but would you block him? Or is that mean? Thanks

Block without a second thought.

Is this really the time for NAMALT?

Given most abusers are men, if women want to say men are disgusting creatures on a women's forum, they should be bloody well allowed to.

Block

Do you want to go out w8th the man? Are you the same age?
You said he was kind, he obviously thinks you are too. So its up to you really.
I think there have been some nasty comments on here about the poor bloke.

What I mean is, if this man does not have the OP’s number then she can’t block him. Because he isn’t contacting her directly.

Of course they're allowed. But most men are not abusers

I said most abusers are men.

Block him and ask your dad to not pass on anything. You owe this creeper nothing. He's harassing you.

Block him, obsession never ends well.

I know

It’ll be your dad who has to block him seeing as he has your dad’s number.

Block, make sure your dad didn't tell him where he lives (as he knows you visit daily) and think nothing more of him. Ugh!

OP says the guy is obsessed. If she doesn't give him a clear 'not interested', he'll continue to pester her dad who is recovering from a serious illness.

This !!

Next thread entitled “Is it ok to have a justified thought in my head”? Please confirm mumsnet.

He might be a genuinely decent person who has problems, so it might not actually be his fault if he can't understand a polite no thank you, but for safety, if he won't or can't respect that, then block.

She certainly doesn't need to be polite and say it was nice to meet him.

That is not the Op's concern.

It's far more likely that he is just a dodgy old bloke who fancies himself a 'young bit of skirt'.

Genuinely decent people don't behave like this and if he really does have problems to the extent that he couldn't understand 'a polite no thank you', she's better off blocking him from the off to avoid all confusion.

Women don't owe men like this anything!

yup. We need to stop being polite. And we need to teach our daughters too. Who cares if they think we are rude. It’s not our business what men think of us nor are we responsible for what men feel.

Its really interesting reading the responses and the different attitudes towards these men from women.

So much 'genuinely decent person' and 'poor bloke' type comment and advice to 'be polite'. The OP wondering if it's mean to not be interested? And the NAMALTing?

Seriously? Why do so many women feel they need to put a man's feelings above their own.

Go with your gut.
You dont feel ok with this then trust yourself.
You dont owe him anything.
Just block.

Nice guy turns out to be a weirdo. Shocker. Block. You don't have to be nice to men.

Ooooh Nooo! Absolutely block him. Creep!

He wants you to be his carer...ask your dad to tell him you have a boyfriend...or to block his number.

So what if "it's mean"? Be mean, why would you not block someone creepy?