Nice guy in hospital turned weird

[TheOpalFox]

When my dad was in hospital really poorly a guy next to my dad was really kind and friendly with my dad, my dad got discharged and swapped numbers with this gentleman. He’s in his 60s
Well he’s texting my dad saying he fancies me
And can he take me out and he’s literally acting obsessed with me.
Sounds awful but would you block him? Or is that mean? Thanks

What does it matter whether the kids are real or not?

He's creeping on her, she doesn't like it and she should block him.

Ew block. Creepy bastard

Jesus. Hope your dad hasn’t given out his or your address or workplace to this utter weirdo.

Do you seriously need to ask the Internet this?

Seriously OP, quite apart from blocking him immediately and making it very clear to your dad that he must do the same, you really need to think about why you even felt the need to post this.

Women are often socialised from birth to ‘be nice’, to not assert boundaries, to never show anger, to be kind and not hurt anyone’s feelings. This makes us vulnerable to being pushed into uncomfortable and even dangerous situations, especially where predatory men are concerned. You need to consciously unlearn this behaviour, find your rage and stop questioning your right to push back on unwanted attention from arseholes like this.

He’s not ‘nice’, he a creepy manipulative old gimmer who’s perving on you. It’s not ‘mean’ to tell him to get in the fucking bin, and you don’t need a public forum to validate your own instincts.

Why wouldn't you block him? You don't want contact with him so what choice do you have? Put up with it??

Op you need to think why you're prioritising his comfort over your own, why it feels mean.

I promise you, reflecting on this and digging out the internalised misogyny and conditioning NOW will set you up for life.

Then if he’s ’bloody creepy’ why on earth do you think you’d be unreasonable to block him?? <unbelievable>

Is he messaging you or your dad?

Block him. Why are you even asking this?

Yuck, why would he think a younger woman would be interested in him?? Sleazy fucker

When my dad was in hospital really poorly ..

• and you were understandably worried and a little vulnerable -

.. a guy next to my dad was really kind and friendly with my dad ...
- you'd caught his eye so he wanted to give your dad a good impression -

.. my dad got discharged and swapped numbers with this gentleman ...

• let me guess whose idea that was! -

..Well he’s texting my dad saying he fancies me ...

• cringe -

..And can he take me out..

• do you usually require your dad's permission to go on a date? And notice he didn't ask whether you're interested in him. He seems to have taken that as a given -

...and he’s literally acting obsessed with me..
- OMG

... Sounds awful but would you block him? ..

• I'd send him a short, polite text saying it was nice to meet him but you're not interested in pursuing a relationship with him. Then block him. He's a creep.

• I'd send him a short, polite text saying it was nice to meet him but you're not interested in pursuing a relationship with him. Then block him. He's a creep.

Don't do that. Don't even engage. Just block him.

WTF?

Why isn't your Dad telling the creep to Fuck Off since he's messaging your Dad?

Why don't you tell him to Fuck Off Grandad?

Urgh.

It matters to the OP or she wouldn't have mentioned it

It's a shame you have to bring up NAMALT when it's becoming bleeding obvious most men are.

OP. Block the creep. He was only nice so he could get your number. Agree with pp that your dad needs to block him too.

Block the weirdo immediately.

Creepy texts could easily lead to something far worse.

Block him, get your dad to block him.

Some women need to stop with the being so nice and kind shite. Use their voices and use a mental 'fuck off' sometimes and act accordingly.
No wonder men try this shit on because of girls and women being told to play nicely, be quiet, be kind [bleugh] and don't question anything, certainly don't have any common sense as you don't need it - a man can think for you - it's all complete shite.
So many girls are being raised as future doormats for men to wipe their boots on.
No wonder so many hold the shitty end of the stick, they don't know any better. Boys see this 'weak' behaviour and those that don't know any better treat grow up and treat women badly, so the circle goes on.

Im baffled why you would give this a second thought beyond blocking him?

Most men are definitely NOT like that

He sure has shown you exactly what he is: manipulative and deceptive.
He saw a loving, giving caretaker in you and called Bingo.
God, some men are always on the make, aren't they?
Thou shalt not wipe this man's ass in old age.

This?

We are not told that this man has the OPs number. The way I read it, this man and the OPs dad have swapped numbers and this man has told the dad that he wants to take OP out. And the dad has told the OP about this.

If the OP hasn’t been contacted directly by the man then I am not sure that there is much for her to do. Whether this is upsetting her dad is another question.

Or is that mean?

It’s depressing that women are still putting politeness to random men over their own feelings.

OP, message him to say: STOP CONTACTING ME OR I WILL CONTACT THE POLICE.

It’s upsetting OP too, who is the target of his lasciviousness. She is allowed to be angry.